who here suffers from bdd aswel...?

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missjesss

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Ive never been diagnosed but I'm almost certain I had this growing up ..
I'm not as bad as I used to be but every time I conquer my social anxiety my bdd creeps back in and I go backwards again! The fact that I can't quite manage to accept a certain part of my body has really diminished the quality of my life for example I avoided going to places and participating in activities that would reveal them HOW THE **** TO I GET OVER THIS!??
 
Dj SL

Dj SL

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missjesss said:
Ive never been diagnosed but I'm almost certain I had this growing up ..
I'm not as bad as I used to be but every time I conquer my social anxiety my bdd creeps back in and I go backwards again! The fact that I can't quite manage to accept a certain part of my body has really diminished the quality of my life for example I avoided going to places and participating in activities that would reveal them HOW THE **** TO I GET OVER THIS!??
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Well, SAD can take you to BDD or BDD can take you to SAD...

I don't suffer from BDD because I accept myself, I value who I am each part of my body... You have to think you are pretty, Don't go to the mirror and say I'm ugly; go to the mirror and say I'm pretty like a flower and I'm hot and sexy; believe it... you will gain confidence ;)
 
Falkor

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hey, i think im bdd too. I'm really insecure about my looks. more than i should.
but we've talked before, so u probably remember that :) i hope u can focus more on other things than your looks, but it's hard i know :)
 
DespairSoul

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Hello missy,

Same here, i do the same i avoid places and participating in activities because of BDD, feeling creepy in my own body years..and i don't how to focus on other things how find other values, actually i think im really poor valued if i can't go over it, but who doesn't a lot of people count the appearance like the most important and later they try to know u closer,they try find out also other values as looks is.
 
miss_amy

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I suffer from BDD. Remus is right about seeing a professional. Therapy really helped me. I still see the bad stuff in the mirror but I can now accept that what I see isn't reality. Living with it is much easier now.
 
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Feathers

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there are books about this too. some seem helpful (check the amazon)

if you can get therapy from someone who knows what they're doing that may be best, otherwise, or in addition to that, check the books.

you are MUCH MORE than just your looks!! even much more than 'just' your personality or good nature or intelligence or other things...

some things you can 'hide' with fashion, some just 'ignore' and attract attention to other parts of you that you find more attractive...

a lot of gorgeous people have BDD, this really helped me a lot too!! (someone who was 'Miss World contestant' actually had worse self-image than I did at a time!!) some really gorgeous-looking people on this site have had it too... if that's you in the avatar, you're really goodlooking too!!

Also, look at people less attractive than you by general standards - don't they have a right to live and be happy etc?
 
GoBlue72

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Might've said this on another BDD thread, but I sometimes think I have aspects of it. Much like my confidence, it varies from day to day, body part to body part. Sometimes I look in the mirror and think I look pretty good, other times I hate most of my looks.

I never had weight issues growing up, so now that I've got a few extra pounds it doesn't bother me. I normally can't stand my hairstyle, nose, glasses, teeth, and chin, and "fuzzy ears". But, I like my sense of style,my blue eyes, waistline and various muscles I have. Unfortunately, I'm always dwelling on the negatives.
 
EasySkanking

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Self-acceptance is the way to go I believe. I think I may have bdd, and what helps me with it is to not focus on the way I look - instead, I focus on giving a good impression using my personality(which is what needs the most work anyway.) I try to not care if I look good, I just want to be. That mindset seems to help a lot.
 
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missjesss

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Mine all started through being teased for having muscular calves then most girls so I went downhill from there (I think I developed s.a because of this aswel )

I have tried my hardest to accept myself and move forward but I still hide my legs so really I don't and it's because I can't bare the thought of people looking at them and teasing me ... I mean it's embedded so deeply in my mind that when I reveal them it's like something goes off in me making me overly self conscious and just waiting for something bad to happen

I have spoken with a counselor before I was doing ok for a while but then someone else mentio0ned them and I went backwards again

It's so hard trying to deal with 2 disorders and I just needed to vent :-(
 
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missjesss

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Sometimes I wish I could wipe out my high school memories and replace them with good ones then mayb these problems would not have started now I'm left with hardly any good friends and getting out of the house has become hard and I dread it :(
 
hoddesdon

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If BDD and SA have the same cause, then you are not dealing with two disorders, just the one issue of how you feel about yourself physically. As GoBlue72 said, it is a part of SA to dwell on perceived negatives excessively, so addressing that one issue would help with both disorders simultaneously.
 
EasySkanking

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missjesss said:
Mine all started through being teased for having muscular calves then most girls so I went downhill from there (I think I developed s.a because of this aswel )

I have tried my hardest to accept myself and move forward but I still hide my legs so really I don't and it's because I can't bare the thought of people looking at them and teasing me ... I mean it's embedded so deeply in my mind that when I reveal them it's like something goes off in me making me overly self conscious and just waiting for something bad to happen

I have spoken with a counselor before I was doing ok for a while but then someone else mentio0ned them and I went backwards again

It's so hard trying to deal with 2 disorders and I just needed to vent :-(
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I love muscular calves on girls. Muscular legs are sexy. I think that maybe the girls that teased you were just jealous ;)
 
EscapeArtist

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Missjess i'm sorry to hear that!! What is wrong with muscly calves? I'm jealous of people with muscly legs lol! That can be really attractive too

It's funny because I know that I used to suffer from BDD (I thought I was fat when I was like 115 pounds and hated myself to the core because of it) and now i've gained a fair bit of pudge and I don't even consider myself to have BDD because I just assume everybody sees me now as I have always seen myself- pudgy. That might be a horrible thing to say and really it is the self hatred from the original BDD that has added to my weight. Perhaps I still do have BDD because I'm not obese or anything... just have 20 pounds to get rid of.... but I guess my BDD is so bad that I do not consider it BDD anymore, but rather me seeing the truth and nobody else being able to, or everybody is lying to me. Mhmm..
 
GoBlue72

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EasySkanking said:
I love muscular calves on girls. Muscular legs are sexy. I think that maybe the girls that teased you were just jealous ;)
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For sure. Legs are my fav. Skinny, muscular, a combo, whatever. I know if I ever try to wear anything that's supposed to be tight, my calves are too skinny despite working out to fill out the clothes. They're just too loose. I carry all my weight above the waist.
 
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missjesss

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yes but it is a disorder for me now I won't accept positive comments it's the way I feel about them I have in fact booked myself in for surgery in 2 weeks time! the decision was carefully thought over and planned don't worry!

I have spoken to former patients and they said they have no regrets and were relieved they got it done

now if I can eliminate this problem maybe my s.a will improve dramatically as wel I am sick of switching from one problem to the next I need both GONE GONE GONE FOR GOOD
 
Dj SL

Dj SL

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Guys, the most yall focus on your disorders the most worries yall will have...

First, make an analisis of yourselves; Identify your symptoms and your disorders.

Second, get information about it; on the internet, books... CBT to understand the disorders...

Third, learn the treatments, If you need medication see a psychiatrist...

And finally; Action, step by step; take your time to face the social situations.

In short; It's like whe you were a child and you were learnig to ride a bicycle; the first times you fell of the bycicle, then you thought I'm afraid to fell again of the bycicle but then you tried again and you kept falling of the bycicle but then you tried and tried hard and you learned to ride a bycicle... And what you did when you were a child trying to learn to ride a bycicle? Action :)
 
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I tried to kid myself that I had BDD, but fact is the problem is not in my head, but smack bang on the front of it.
 
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