Does anyone else feel like it will never get better?
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Liam17
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nafadda
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first off..i would ask 'make what better'??
and if it's your life ,only you have the power to do that no matter what people may tell you..no medication or therapy can do that if YOU do not want it.
then accept certain things for what they are..life is life..it's not always perfect and what we may want...acceptence...
then find something you are passionate about and enjoy...once again,only YOU know what that will be ..you may not know what it is at this exact moment,but you will one day .
i'm a recluse..some say it's not good..hahaha,,yea tell that to some VERY famous writers and movie stars i say,,i enjoy it now,,i accept it and i have no need nor desire to be on meds because i chose a lifestyle...i love the peace.i Od'd on people and now i make my life about me and not trying to fit in or be accepted by others...
it took me a while to figure it out ,but it's turned out pretty good now....nice and peaceful.
so as far as 'getting better'..look aroud and ask yourself what exactly it is that you want 'better'.......
and if it's your life ,only you have the power to do that no matter what people may tell you..no medication or therapy can do that if YOU do not want it.
then accept certain things for what they are..life is life..it's not always perfect and what we may want...acceptence...
then find something you are passionate about and enjoy...once again,only YOU know what that will be ..you may not know what it is at this exact moment,but you will one day .
i'm a recluse..some say it's not good..hahaha,,yea tell that to some VERY famous writers and movie stars i say,,i enjoy it now,,i accept it and i have no need nor desire to be on meds because i chose a lifestyle...i love the peace.i Od'd on people and now i make my life about me and not trying to fit in or be accepted by others...
it took me a while to figure it out ,but it's turned out pretty good now....nice and peaceful.
so as far as 'getting better'..look aroud and ask yourself what exactly it is that you want 'better'.......
Liam17
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first off..i would ask 'make what better'??
and if it's your life ,only you have the power to do that no matter what people may tell you..no medication or therapy can do that if YOU do not want it.
then accept certain things for what they are..life is life..it's not always perfect and what we may want...acceptence...
then find something you are passionate about and enjoy...once again,only YOU know what that will be ..you may not know what it is at this exact moment,but you will one day .
i'm a recluse..some say it's not good..hahaha,,yea tell that to some VERY famous writers and movie stars i say,,i enjoy it now,,i accept it and i have no need nor desire to be on meds because i chose a lifestyle...i love the peace.i Od'd on people and now i make my life about me and not trying to fit in or be accepted by others...
it took me a while to figure it out ,but it's turned out pretty good now....nice and peaceful.
so as far as 'getting better'..look aroud and ask yourself what exactly it is that you want 'better'.......
Well life's s**t, and get this problem better.
You say its up to me, well i'v failed then.
I don't know how to make it better, cause i'v never had any help with it.
I'm not off to the quacks ethier, i'd rather just stay inside with my bottle of whiskey.
krs2snow
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first off..i would ask 'make what better'??
and if it's your life ,only you have the power to do that no matter what people may tell you..no medication or therapy can do that if YOU do not want it.
then accept certain things for what they are..life is life..it's not always perfect and what we may want...acceptence...
then find something you are passionate about and enjoy...once again,only YOU know what that will be ..you may not know what it is at this exact moment,but you will one day .
i'm a recluse..some say it's not good..hahaha,,yea tell that to some VERY famous writers and movie stars i say,,i enjoy it now,,i accept it and i have no need nor desire to be on meds because i chose a lifestyle...i love the peace.i Od'd on people and now i make my life about me and not trying to fit in or be accepted by others...
it took me a while to figure it out ,but it's turned out pretty good now....nice and peaceful.
so as far as 'getting better'..look aroud and ask yourself what exactly it is that you want 'better'.......
Awesome! What an insightful post. Go Nafadda!
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Danfalc
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I agree. Good post Nafadda. It's not easy but I think it's important to try and always be moving forward, even if it's little steps.
@Liam.It is so hard dealing with the problems we have, they can be so overwhelming and soul destroying that it's hard to see a way out. And sadly there is no easy answer, or solution of just do "a" "b" and "c".
You said you want to know how to get better and have not had any help, but then said you would rather stay In with your bottle of whiskey than go to the doctors? Maybe that is something right there that you could work on. Therapy and the right medication really seems to work for some people.
Depression on it's own can be quite evil as it just makes you want to give up, it saps your willpower and clouds our perception. But what kicks me into gear is asking myself do I want to be like this 5 years down the line. The answer is no so I start trying to think what I can actually do about it, and I write a list.
I start doing things like tidying my flat more often, getting into a routine with my sleeping and eating and exercising. These are really small things but It's weird how they can empower you and make you feel more constructive again. It get's said a lot but it's great advice, break your problems down into baby steps or bite size pieces and they do become a lot more manageable.
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nafadda
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.well i am not sure of what age you are,but i will assume you are young ,and yes i also felt that way for many a year,,but as said,YOU will have to be the one that wants to fix it,,NO ONE can do that for you.
as far as 'lifes s**t " as you say,,that is part of life..it happens,,no one says life is easy...BUT it is what you decide to make of it.
if you failed as you say..it may just be for the moment you have,but thats not to say you will always feel this way..perhaps you may look back on this time one day and understand why you felt this way at one time and go on and explain it to someone else and help them.
,,,and to the other posters that posted,thank you..i speak from much experience that i lived through in life and now am at a 'good place'...
i truly believe it's all about finding an inner peace and a passion(s) about something,whatever it may be.
IMO,unless it's natural meds..i am VERY much opposed to them..they may work for some people and that is fine,i did not want to for go any perscription meds route for reasons of my own.
life is all about choices we make i feel now.it may just take some time for people to get to the point of understanding that,and some never get to it.when i did,it empowered me in a way that i now just try and explain to some.everything i will post will be nothing more then my opinion,some will understand it and perhaps some may not or may not want to....once again a matter of choice.
JamesSmith
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I'm 26 and my SA is better and worse than it was in certain ways. It's better because I know and understand my disorder, and have found that exercise helps with depression and anxiety. But it's worse because I have had zero social life for the past 5 years. I'm not even sure if I would define "getting better" as hanging out with friends again for me. I know a lot of people would, but I had really bad depression and anxiety when I hung with friends in the past. I faded away from them, and really struggled to connect with them when I was with them. Once they got to know me, they started to turn bitter towards me because of my shyness. Even after almost two years of hanging almost every day, they still didn't understand me and my disorder. They thought I was a coward because I didn't speak as much as they did. Personally, I think people like us are courageous just because we are still alive and haven't killed ourselves.
Yeah, I think it can get better for people if they are willing to DO THINGS that give you a chance to change. It's tough to say cuz different people have different situations. Some people have worse anxiety than others. I think it depends on who you are and the intensity of your problem.
Yeah, I think it can get better for people if they are willing to DO THINGS that give you a chance to change. It's tough to say cuz different people have different situations. Some people have worse anxiety than others. I think it depends on who you are and the intensity of your problem.
nafadda
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well it gets better if one wants it to,,if one does not want it to it won't.
and liam..at 17 ,what you are feeling is fairly natural.doesn't mean it is not confusing,but many have felt it.it's up to you to overpower it one day.....some do and can,some do not.there is no way to say how long it may take,as all people are not alike.
also,as much as we not like to discover..'we' are not entitled to anything..by that i mean NO one is born and given a bowl of instant happiness..life doesn't work that way,,even some that look as though they may have the 'grand' life ,may not be what it seems.
if a person keeps putting negativity and gloom out...that may be what they get back in return.....thats not to say bad things will not happen to happy and positive people too..it will....
if a person goes through life expecting it to be just what they want and a perfect life..more often then not.they will be greatly disapointed.
and liam..at 17 ,what you are feeling is fairly natural.doesn't mean it is not confusing,but many have felt it.it's up to you to overpower it one day.....some do and can,some do not.there is no way to say how long it may take,as all people are not alike.
also,as much as we not like to discover..'we' are not entitled to anything..by that i mean NO one is born and given a bowl of instant happiness..life doesn't work that way,,even some that look as though they may have the 'grand' life ,may not be what it seems.
if a person keeps putting negativity and gloom out...that may be what they get back in return.....thats not to say bad things will not happen to happy and positive people too..it will....
if a person goes through life expecting it to be just what they want and a perfect life..more often then not.they will be greatly disapointed.
R3K
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Keep creating music/art, focus on that mental groove you got going on--even if no one else appreciates it. Keep your mind focused on it, all the other necessary things in life will fall into place around it. Study the industry, imagine the things you'd do to become a professional singer, even if it seems impossible. Maye nothing will ever get better, but if you're pursuing what your heart wills, then everything else can take a hike. We're social phobics, which means we have lots of extra energy to apply to our potential creative talents since we don't waste all kinds of energy partying and being social. So until something pops (or clicks, w/e) and we conquer SAD, then we just gotta be the best closet artists/musicians/whatever we can be.
and as long as we don't off ourselves, like JamesSmith was saying, then we're winning the battle, haha.
and as long as we don't off ourselves, like JamesSmith was saying, then we're winning the battle, haha.
JosephG
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I think this is great advice. I feel that routine is very important for people with depression.
I find when I lose one I start staying up late and going to sleep in the early morning hours and then as a result waking up late. I then don't get anything done - don't eat or drink properly and end up not going outside and in the light of day. This also means I don't get a chance to exercise. And once you start this detrimental "routine" it is very hard to get out of it. This leads to exacerbate the depression. When you do all of the above you keep a healthy body which links with a healthy mind.
my two pennies anyway