Superacion
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Someone has this problem? Thanks you.
Are you afraid that the people see you your anxiety?
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I can be honest here. So I can say, very much so!
Over the years I have developed good acting skills to avoid recognition.
I get the impression many anxiety focused people can play the part well but unable to stop the feelings very well.
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arsenalwa
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Yeah, that's it.
sevenroses
Well-known member
I hate when people discover the real you. Like at work when I was new, certain coworkers thought of me as normal, but when it was time for the very first staff meeting they discovered the real me when I was all nervous and quiet. Same thing at school back then, certain classmates thought I was normal, but when a presentation came up or when it was time to participate they would see the real me with SA.
Yes it bothers me allot. But it bothers me more how I cope with it. Some people with SA are just shy and dont talk much. But I'm not shy. I'm trying to hard to be confident and NOT to be shy which comes across very forced. This actually repels many people. In contrast shy people can be even charming. I think it can make a girl look very cute when they are blushing and shy
Very much so, usually with a sense of guilt or disappointment dipped in their afterwards.
LovelyAmor
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You basically took the words out of my mouth. This crap happens to me ALL the time! By looking at me, people do not think that I would have SAD, but as soon as I open my freaking mouth, it all goes to hell. It's like they give you a look like "what's wrong with her?", or like a confused look.
Then they start to ignore and stop talking to you. :: I'm a Sophomore in college and I am always kicking myself in the butt because this always happens and I feel like I need to get over this and enjoy my college life! My roommate asked me, "Do you go out?" (The whole question was sarcastic...-_-') Ugh I wish I didn't have to deal with this! And THEN when you try and open up and tell them what you have, they steer away from you even more! I'm a sophomore in college and i am the biggest loser ever.
Truthdigout
New member
For sure, someone say it directly in front of me, making me very hurt!
KiaKaha
Banned
Yup. Me too. Its pretty obvious how I feel about myself, the world and other people. Its pretty embarrassing. Most people seem to be able to mask their insecurities so that they can function properly, but with me its written all over myself and exposed to the world. Like I am naked or something...
Obstacle 1
Well-known member
Yes, and masking it gets tiring.. I end up forgetting details becaused I am too focused on what I am showing or how I am coming across, which doesn't really help you socialise/at work.. and in the end I do not have the energy left to keep it up forever. So I just close up for a while and this defeats any benefit, in some cases makes it worse
lostandproud
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You basically took the words out of my mouth. This crap happens to me ALL the time! By looking at me, people do not think that I would have SAD, but as soon as I open my freaking mouth, it all goes to hell. It's like they give you a look like "what's wrong with her?", or like a confused look.
Yeah...for me it is easy at the beginning as well. It is when I get talking more in depth and worrying about running out of stuff to say that I get nervous. I don't think I have the most serious anxiety, but I know what you mean.
I'm also a sophomore in college....don't worry, you are not the biggest loser ever. Today, I was doing the dishes "for fun" at the house I live in, and a housemate made a joke about "oh, I can't imagine what your Saturday nights are like! they must be wild...." Usually she is nice, and I don't think she thought I'd take her seriously.
I know it's hard, but the less you call yourself a loser the better things can get. Even just eliminate the word, use something that's actually descriptive. I don't know, I'm okay being a loner, but I try not to call myself a loser.
Also, I used to go the library on weekends...it made me feel better to see other people alone who weren't "going out"....
kihira
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Years ago I saw a video made at a family gathering.
I looked so nervous and uncomfortable when someone was talking to me, that it was very unpleasant to watch!
Ever since then I have always worried about how my nervous behaviour must annoy any person I am talking to!:
I have never watched my wedding video because of this, I was so nervous; I don't want to see myself like that :
:I have never watched my wedding video because of this, I was so nervous; I don't want to see myself like that :
At school we had a weekend of social skill training (I couldnt get out of it, otherwise i would have
). Part of that training was to give a presentation to the group about anything you want in front of a camera. After the presentation we would analyse the video and everybody gave some feedback. While I was presenting it felt like it went soooo very bad. But when we looked back the video it went much better then I thought during the presentation. Actually everybody felt the same way as I did. They all thought that they looked better on cam than in their mind.A few years later I did an assertivity training and we had to do the same thing. Also now on the tape it looked allot better than it was in my mind while i was talking. The knowledge that its always less embarassing you think really helped me. Since then i feel less stressed when i have to talk to groups of people. And I think this also counts for most of the social situations. We draw a totally different picture than reality.