one comment which has affected your confidence

[lunaticbinge]

Jesus, there is some cruel stuff on here. It's crazy how many pathetic people out there need to make themselves feel and look better by putting others down.

 

[dreamer78]

"It's not illegal to smile in Vegas you know."

This was said to me last summer during a trip in Vegas. It doesn't sound like much but for some reason that man's words keep drifting around in my head like an annoying fly. I've been even more self-conscious about my facial expressions since then and I always feel bad now because I always look upset even if I'm really smiling inside, and then people stay away from me because of it.

What happened was, my mom and I were walking down the strip towards Treasure Island and I was definitely not a happy camper at the time. Extreme heat + crowds = very unhappy me. It was well over 100 that day and it was so full of people on the sidewalks that some people had to walk to the side of the road. When I get anxious, my face unintentionally contorts and I automatically look pissed.

We were stopped at a light, waiting to cross the street by Treasure Island and there was a man dressed up as Jack Sparrow and he was greeting people as they walked by. As I approach, he looks at me and says "Hello", a bit gruffly, probably noting my expression and I say "hi" back. I said it in a normal tone, not upset or anything, but the look on my face told him otherwise and he said those words I still remember perfectly to this day: "It's not illegal to smile in Vegas you know." I just stayed quiet and crossed the street as the light turned green.

I understand that the man was just trying to lighten up the mood but people just don't understand what it's like to have social anxiety unless they've experienced it for themselves. Whoever you are Jack Sparrow man - I'm sorry for being me.

I can so relate to this- whenever I'm experiencing anxiety my facial expression seems to change giving the image that I'm really sad, and as a result I've been labelled at school as emo. As the days go by I'm starting to think that they may be right :<

 

[AGR]

bad - somoene said I look much younger than I am today.

good - someone was talking about me indirectly a couple months ago,I didnt got it at first,but then it was clear it was about me,she said I never saw a guy like this,so good looking yet so nice.

 

[scarednotshy]

thought i wouldn't post anything else but today, this older woman who comes in to my work and ignores me on purpose and talks and flatters the girls i work with and goes out of her way to ignore me and gives me dirty looks, came in.......well the young girls she's used to working with me and talks to excessively while going out of her way to give me looks and ignoring me wasn't working with me today.......well she acted all nice and said, "do you remember my order?" and I told her no because the other girl always got her order. She said, "why isn't she in?" and I told her there was a schedule change and she said, "well, you're here so much YOU BLEND IN WITH THE DONUTS SO I GUESS I NEVER NOTICED YOU."

Never noticed me, huh? You went out of your way to let me know you didn't like me, didn't want to talk to me and gave me obvious filthy looks.

My husband says she's jealous......i doubt that cuz she gives so much attention and talks to my coworker who is young and pretty.

But I have to ask, WHY DOES THIS WOMAN HATE ME??????

 

[Anti Matter]

Me = You feeling ok today?

My Ex= Screw you, go and die of cancer you horrible prick

Me = Want a cup of tea love?

Awesome times...

 

[scarednotshy]

Me = You feeling ok today?

My Ex= Screw you, go and die of cancer you horrible prick

Me = Want a cup of tea love?

Awesome times...[/QUOTE



ya know, i'm getting sick and tired of people and their bull****....i'm ready to tell everyone and anyone off......

so much **** i see and hear and don't even post on here but believe you me, i'm getting ready to tell the world how i feel.

i want to stand up for me and everybody here on these boards. problem is i cant cuz i would just go postal.........

okay i'm alright.........

my eight year old daughter just got another rejection from some little brat today and although my husband confronted her, the damage was/is done.....

just reconfirms how much i hate people and why i am not social.

most people are lying, phony, shallow *******s....

i still try to hold out the best for people and try to be sensitive for people who might be sp's.....and i find many people are kind though they are few and far between.

 

[Anti Matter]

Me = You feeling ok today?

My Ex= Screw you, go and die of cancer you horrible prick

Me = Want a cup of tea love?

Awesome times...[/QUOTE



ya know, i'm getting sick and tired of people and their bull****....i'm ready to tell everyone and anyone off......

so much **** i see and hear and don't even post on here but believe you me, i'm getting ready to tell the world how i feel.

i want to stand up for me and everybody here on these boards. problem is i cant cuz i would just go postal.........

okay i'm alright.........

my eight year old daughter just got another rejection from some little brat today and although my husband confronted her, the damage was/is done.....

just reconfirms how much i hate people and why i am not social.

most people are lying, phony, shallow *******s....

i still try to hold out the best for people and try to be sensitive for people who might be sp's.....and i find many people are kind though they are few and far between.

I have felt the same way dude, trust me.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

"If that's how you're going to live then why don't you just shoot yourself already?"

A friend said this to me a few days ago when she tried to get me to go to the mall and shop with her. There was a huuuge sale going on but the problem was, it was CROWDED, and with AvPD I obviously don't do well with crowds. I refused over and over again until she said that to me. After that, I just went home without a word.

 

[dreamer78]

I remember one time during my first week of high school the teacher said to my quite loudly "So Paul do you have to run around in the shower to get wet? You're so small..." everyone stopped and stared and laughed at me, needless to say it was a horrible day.

 

[scarednotshy]

"If that's how you're going to live then why don't you just shoot yourself already?"

A friend said this to me a few days ago when she tried to get me to go to the mall and shop with her. There was a huuuge sale going on but the problem was, it was CROWDED, and with AvPD I obviously don't do well with crowds. I refused over and over again until she said that to me. After that, I just walked home without a word.[/QUO

good heavens! with friends like that, who needs enemies????

you'll go out when you're ready to go out and for that which INTERESTS YOU!!!

what interests them might not interest you and vice versa....can a person be allowed to be an individual?????

 

[chrisjurban]

when i get told im boring. that really gets to me. or clingy. being boring freaks me out because im always feeling bad about how i cant come up with anything to say and when i actually am saying things its always kinda formal sounding to me and im trying so hard to not sound formal, then someone calls me boring. it hits at one of my biggest insecurities.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

"If that's how you're going to live then why don't you just shoot yourself already?"

A friend said this to me a few days ago when she tried to get me to go to the mall and shop with her. There was a huuuge sale going on but the problem was, it was CROWDED, and with AvPD I obviously don't do well with crowds. I refused over and over again until she said that to me. After that, I just walked home without a word.[/QUO

good heavens! with friends like that, who needs enemies????

you'll go out when you're ready to go out and for that which INTERESTS YOU!!!

what interests them might not interest you and vice versa....can a person be allowed to be an individual?????

My thoughts exactly ::

 

[LovelyAmor]

Where should I start? No I mean really, just one?

-I left you at the adoption agency for a few days but I went back cause God told me to (not because SHE wanted to)
-You're too quiet
-Why are you so quiet?
-Can you talk? (He was very serious, he thought I was deaf)
-Fat Bitch
-The only going for you is your shoes
-You haven't killed yourself yet?
-You are too weak to make it in life
-Crazy ass son of a bitch
-Go take your pills
-Do I need to take you back to the psychiatrist?
-Girl, do you go out?
-Stop (wow?) smiling
-Why are you even here?
-Do you even have a life?
-Stop talking to me like you are actually somebody
-You're a nobody
-You're a beautiful girl..I don't know why you want to be so big


Ok and I could go on..and on..those are not even the worst that has been said, but I find it disturbing thinking about all of these things..so yea.

And im new here! So hi everybody -blushes- =}::

 

[spring]

my mother:
youre useless ,youre not gonna get anywhere in life.
you ruin everything.
youre crazy.
you disgust me.
to my dad:get this animal(me)out of the house or i will leave.
and the list goes on...

back when i was 13 i had a crush on this guy and i thought he liked me too,a couple of day later i heard from someone that he was mocking me and saying that i was ugly and that he liked my cusin(who was extremely beautiful and still is),i felt soooooo bad especially becuz she said it infront of my cusin.

back at high school a friend telling me youre always reading books,you really disgust me,how do your parents stand you?

 

[RelentlessHamster]

someone called me skinhead in Sweden because I had shaved my head due to hair-loss xD

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

omg!! how old is this heartless so called friend of yours?? You need to find better friends than that!!

She just turned 18 a few months ago. No worries though, we stopped talking to each other after that incident. At least I have my other few good friends I know would never say such things about me and accept me for who I am so it's all good now :]

 

[LovelyAmor]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
Welcome to the site, you'll find cool people here
"Amor", that means "love" in portuguese and spanish am I right?

Yea it kind of sucks. ::

Thank you! It feels good knowing that I am not the only one going through these types of things.

And yes it does So it's basically LovelyLove lol...But i thought it sounded cool

 

[Truthdigout]

"You are a supid peson. Although you are deligent, however you are indeed more stupid than you peers"

Have you guys watched the films named" Inception", then you would know how powerful a singel thought is! Especially if the thought orinated from your mother when you are little boy or girl!!! That's really a kind of CRIME.

 

[anxiousnut]

Where should I start? No I mean really, just one?

-I left you at the adoption agency for a few days but I went back cause God told me to (not because SHE wanted to)
-You're too quiet
-Why are you so quiet?
-Can you talk? (He was very serious, he thought I was deaf)
-Fat Bitch
-The only going for you is your shoes
-You haven't killed yourself yet?
-You are too weak to make it in life
-Crazy ass son of a bitch
-Go take your pills
-Do I need to take you back to the psychiatrist?
-Girl, do you go out?
-Stop (wow?) smiling
-Why are you even here?
-Do you even have a life?
-Stop talking to me like you are actually somebody
-You're a nobody
-You're a beautiful girl..I don't know why you want to be so big


Ok and I could go on..and on..those are not even the worst that has been said, but I find it disturbing thinking about all of these things..so yea.

And im new here! So hi everybody -blushes- =}::

Hey girl, welcome to SPW! You are not alone. Everyone of your insults listed made struck a chord with me. I can't believe the first one, I assume it's your mother who said that?? I'm so sorry. I can't relate to that one, but I feel you on some of the others, that's for sure. So just so you know you're not the only one, I've gotten:

- "Have you EVER had a boyfriend"? (from my 16 yr. old cousin, I'm 23 and never have had one. how embarassing right?)

-"You don't look like a girl"

-"Come one, Get a life" Jokingly from my therapist...funny, right

-"Oh, that's a girl!!?" Boy behind my back

-"It's not healthy for you to just sit around here all day, every day."

-"hello, MR. Collins" a boy in eighth grade liked to point out that I was ugly, like a boy, every day

-"Bitch" and "Stop acting like a ****" from my brother

-"Tu Eres feo" from my drunk mexican friend who thought I didn't know that meant "you are ugly (masculine form). i remembered that much from Spanish

-"You don't understand a LOT of things"

 

[Diend]

What's one thing in your lifetime that someone told you that has affected your confidence?

A girl i had to share a work space with in college told me i was no fun to be with and that i had no clue how to talk to people. This was ten years ago yet i still have this going through my mind, and i am constantly worried about how people see me. It seems to bother me a lot that i think that people see me as boring becasue i have a hard time maintaining conversation.

This girl said I was taking the class Tool Academy 101.