sevenroses
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Is it true that most social phobics value their own space? I certainly do but I wonder if that goes for the same for other social phobics.
Is it true that most social phobics value their own space?
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THE-INTROVERT
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yes i would say so i value privacy too
AutonomousAutomaton
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I don't think I used to need my space so much. I spent so much time being lonely I never really felt a strong urge to be alone. But recently my emotions have been quite strange and sometimes when I get upset I just go up to my room to get away from my family for a little bit. It's really new to me because i never used to do that.
Yes, both emotionally and physically I need allot of space. I live in a quite hostile situation, that's why my own room is deliberately colored in aggressive and dominating colors (almost entirely red, white and black) just so other people won't feel as comfortable here.
I personally love it, but I found that when people come her with the wrong intentions (manipulation and whatnot) they feel overwhelmed by the aura that the room radiates. Which makes it easier for me to call them on their b.s., and confront them with it. :3
Not to mention they leave me alone because of it. Which was the point I was trying to make. ^W^;
I personally love it, but I found that when people come her with the wrong intentions (manipulation and whatnot) they feel overwhelmed by the aura that the room radiates. Which makes it easier for me to call them on their b.s., and confront them with it. :3
Not to mention they leave me alone because of it. Which was the point I was trying to make. ^W^;
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Hannes
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I think most people value their personal space, not only people with SA. It is this personal space which creates our comfort zones which can be both a good and bad thing, much like anything else in life.
Has anyone considered that sometimes it is these comfort zones which we get so comfortably nestled into which can begin to become responsible for ones stagnating own personal growth?
Has anyone considered that sometimes it is these comfort zones which we get so comfortably nestled into which can begin to become responsible for ones stagnating own personal growth?
hippiechild
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People in general value their personal space. There is an inverse relationship between the amount of space you feel comfortable with and your level of intimacy with those around you: Not intimate, I don't know you/trust you, who are you again? ... 100 foot restraining order.
Since social phobics tend not to be intimate with other people, their personal space is significantly larger. We also take longer to consider a person safely intimate, which can lead to confusion and hurt feelings when other people inadvertently get too close, assuming that they were more intimate than the phobic felt comfortable with.
In regard to our 'own space' separate from ourselves, rooms, closets and objects, once again, anyone can be protective of their belongings/territory. Since we are generally less trusting, it would make sense for us to carry some extra paranoia and be unusually exclusive about who does what in our closet when we aren't present...
In any case, personal space and territory are pretty universally valued by humans and other animals.
edit* Hannes nailed it
Since social phobics tend not to be intimate with other people, their personal space is significantly larger. We also take longer to consider a person safely intimate, which can lead to confusion and hurt feelings when other people inadvertently get too close, assuming that they were more intimate than the phobic felt comfortable with.
In regard to our 'own space' separate from ourselves, rooms, closets and objects, once again, anyone can be protective of their belongings/territory. Since we are generally less trusting, it would make sense for us to carry some extra paranoia and be unusually exclusive about who does what in our closet when we aren't present...
In any case, personal space and territory are pretty universally valued by humans and other animals.
edit* Hannes nailed it
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awkwardamanda
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i value my own space and privacy, but the space i value most is my personal space, that half a meter radius that surrounds me, i hate being in crowds and those touchy feely people that have to touch you while there talking to you.
This.
I hate touchy feely people. It sucks when a stranger starts talking to you at the bus stop or something and touches your arm while talking to you or whatever. Like, wtf are you doing? Stay out of my bubble! I don't know why people think this is appropriate. Or there's those relatives that always have to kiss you on the cheek. Sometimes I've seen people kiss each other on the mouth like that. Just a quick friendly peck. What the hell? I would feel very creeped out if someone ever gave me a kiss like that. A hug will do, and even that I could do without. I'm not a touchy feely person at all. I'd probably be quite cuddly if I had a boyfriend, once I got comfortable anyway, but otherwise I do not like touching people. I don't initiate hugs. I need my personal space. I need a good amount of alone time too. But that's part of being an introvert. I just like to keep a safe distance.
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bigrob
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This and this.
I was just telling my wife I wish I could live life as a ghost and leave no paper trail that I even existed.
I'd totally be happy being the old cranky guy living out in the woods. I just haven't figured out how to make money doing that.
CPA23
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You're right Serafina. I absolutely hate it when someone talks to me in very close proximity!! I mean, do you really have to be that close to me. I can tolerate it now more than in the past, but I still have to have my breathing room.
Aru_Sarutobi
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LOL, thats what I call strategy
lyricalliaisons
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It's definitely true for me. I value my own space, my privacy, my solitude, & everything similar much more than anyone I know.
Rembrandt Broam
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Yes. Very much so. Probably too much.
Rembrandt Broam
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Yeah, I find that very uncomfortable. Why do people even need to do that? Why can't they just speak to you without the touching? I would never touch someone while talking to them, even someone I was close to like my gf. It's just not necessary. There's a guy where I work who will sometimes put his hand on your upper arm while talking to you. It's almost like he's holding you there, so you can't get away while he talks at you.
bluemoonrising
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Half the time I want to be alone, on my own. Period.
The other half of the time I yearn to be with others as I annnoy/bore myself like you would not believe. This always depends on my mood which changes a lot and sometimes suddenly.
The other half of the time I yearn to be with others as I annnoy/bore myself like you would not believe. This always depends on my mood which changes a lot and sometimes suddenly.
Fear of people
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I value my space so much...I find my neighbours irritating... due to living in a built up area. I would love to be able to move out to the country and not have any neighbours what so ever...to me...they are nothing but a nuisance anyways.
