love or lust ?

[mrb]

so what would you like multiple partners sex galore with lots of diff people , and still live a single life knowing all you had to make was a phone call to get sex , meaning not prostitutes but just girls who want free love .... OR a loving relationship ... same to the girls free love with lots of men .. or loving relationship ......

 

[mrb]

I actually would not mind just finding one girl who just wanted to have nice, clean, fun sex with no strings attached. Meaning we could just have sex whenever we both wanted it, but not have sex with other people. This of course would be in a perfect world for me, lol. No relationship for me.

blimey bazza this is the first time you posted on one of my threads im chuffed lol

 

[Emily_G]

Def a loving relationship. I did the sexually promiscous thing, stupid.

 

[mrb]

Both have their pros and cons. Sometimes a person is in a crappy relationship which makes freedom and promiscuity preferable (in my opinion), and then there are good relationships who's benefits far outweigh freedom and promiscuity. You can always be in a relationship and be a swinger! I knew a married couple (young and good looking) who regularly had other join them in the bedroom. They tried to get my husband and I to join them.

hmmm you know what i know swingers , and more than once the woman has tried to get me to have sex with her ... hes a lorry driver shes a milk recorder .. there both nice people but weird habits sex wise .. its like they get a thrill out of seeing someone have sex with there partner ... iv never done it i just laughed when she asked me thinking she was mucking about .. but she wasnt hmmm whatever floats your boat i soppose , but i will say this , no way would i want to see another man doing my gf wife whatever ... but i soppose if there all happy with it whatever ... but i wouldnt do it

 

[klytus]

Ideally, a loving relationship with a great mate. But that's hard to find. So lust is the only viable option. Sadly, I don't get that either. :: That's my fault, though. I don't go to the right places.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

Loving relationship, definitely. Even without SA I'd still be a very choosy person in that department.

 

[DebbieDowner]

Never done the whole promiscuous thing, so can't really relate, but, i've had friends go down that road and just end up getting hurt...apparently it's hard to find good friends with benefits these days lol

maybe i'm old-fashioned but i've never understood how some people can have sex with someone they don't/barely know...i have a hard time just trusting people enough to speak to them - let alone getting naked with them! ::

 

[lollipop103]

Definitely a good relationship ~
It feels a lot safer.

 

[Pookah]

Promiscuity is not an option for me, ever.

 

[Noca]

Both have their pros and cons. Sometimes a person is in a crappy relationship which makes freedom and promiscuity preferable (in my opinion), and then there are good relationships who's benefits far outweigh freedom and promiscuity. You can always be in a relationship and be a swinger! I knew a married couple (young and good looking) who regularly had other join them in the bedroom. They tried to get my husband and I to join them.

Sounds like my kind of relationship lol

 

[recluse]

Promiscuity = loneliness, std's, unwanted pregnancies, loss of self respect

 

[Brokenx]

I'd definitely say a relationship, one night stands are meaningless and frankly i believe quite trashy, i prefer the real deal

 

[Pink_Paula]

I've never beein into sleeping with someone just for the sake of it, when i was a bit better i used to go out all the time and i had ample opportunity to sleep with a different guy each night, but that just isn't me, I much prefer to be in a relationship and give myself to one person rather than feeling dirty and sleeping with random guys!

 

[FOR REAL]

anything that doesnt cost me money.

 

[dreamqueen]

love ofc

lust is only temporary and a satisfaction

 

[iamthenra]

Definitely a loving relationship, because I have a feeling that anyone who has sex with me is probably going to hate it for a while or at least until I learn what the heck I am doing... Of course I am thinking about how I learned how to ride a bike, and it took me a while to learn when I was a kid of course, and then I started with training wheels... Somehow I don't think that any partner would want an old guy who doesn't know what he is doing... Like the 40 year old virgin, that kind of stuff only happens in the movies... I know I could never be promiscuous, or cheat on anyone, because I would never want my partner to be that way with me...

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I have a feeling that anyone who has sex with me is probably going to hate it for a while or at least until I learn what the heck I am doing...

It's actually remarkably easy. Keep in mind that if it weren't our species would have gone extinct ages ago. Finding someone and maintaining a relationship are both far more difficult.

 

[iamthenra]

It's actually remarkably easy.

Not too easy if you have SA and a very poor self esteem.

I almost blacked out the other day when I went in to the urologist for a burning sensation when I urinated. He wanted to go into the bladder to take some pictures, the scope went in through the urethra and of course he sent in his nurse in to numb up the "entrance" of the urethra which meant she touched me in order to put the numbing gel inside. She kept telling me to breathe, I think I was having a major melt down, all because I was naked in front of a woman and she was touching me, and to make matters worse....shrinkage! I almost blacked out....

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I meant the act itself, but I see what you're saying. My first time she loosened me up with copious amounts of wine and weed. I basically went from 'why is she looking at me like that' and nervous to 'oh hey that feels really nice!' pretty quickly. By the time I was naked I didn't really care that much. I had crap for self esteem (and still do) and the whole thing was quite a baffling surprise.

I guess I'm basically saying that once you get started your instincts will take over. Getting to that is the hard part.

ETA Plus I wasn't on display in cold doctors office, hurting and with people wanting to shove things up my sausage. Yikes.

 

[humansrare]

LOVE. no contest. but I sometimes have a hard time distinguishing one from the other, I admit.