Any positives out of it?

[jco3]

As many of you have already said, I am far more sympathetic towards others, and I seem to put my heart into a lot of the things I do now; which, is something I had never really done prior to my "illness."

My low point involved me staying inside for nearly 3 months, while staying home from school. It sucked, but I lived through it. Just as many of the people before me have lived through their situations, and the people of the future will inevitably have to deal with the same thing. There have been far worse situations in the world, guys. Go read about Nigeria, and the shit they've had to go through.

 

[brokenfingers04]

I think having SA for me has made me more aware of everything. Yeah I can sympathize and have empathy sometimes but at the same time I don't care.
Theres always people looking to me to say something or anything but I 'm like "Oh well." tomarrows another day. life goes on. whatever.
All I can do is be myself with a dose of SA.
I'm very open-minded and can put myself in almost anybodies shoes. and ....... I don't know. (dazed)

 

[arsenalwa]

Ha! You speak of ignorant bliss as a positive. Are you truly that deluded? You are entitled to your opinion but do not force it onto others. If you think that you are correct, the least you could do is put some damned effort into your words. You think being "normal" and ignorant is something good? Go join them then. None of us shall stop you. But don't prance around saying that everyone should listen to you. If you find you are happier being ignorant, that does not mean everyone will.

That's what I thought too...

 

[Weirdo]

Ha! You speak of ignorant bliss as a positive. Are you truly that deluded? You are entitled to your opinion but do not force it onto others. If you think that you are correct, the least you could do is put some damned effort into your words. You think being "normal" and ignorant is something good? Go join them then. None of us shall stop you. But don't prance around saying that everyone should listen to you. If you find you are happier being ignorant, that does not mean everyone will.

Way to miss my point. Living through SA and THEN becoming happy is not the same thing as being normal. If you never had SA you would be a completely different person with different thoughts than you have now. Hello, I have SA too, I know the way you people think. I revel in my individuality and uniqueness too but it's all I have left. You might be thinking "I have no friends, no job, no gf and I'm depressed as ****, but at least I'm unique and not a shallow jerk like other people" but you must realize that it's only to feel better about yourself. If you either disagree or miss my point again, you're the one living in delusion.

If you find you are happier being ignorant, that does not mean everyone will.

This statement makes no sense, because once you learn something, you can't just forget about it and become ignorant. I have SA and even if I overcome it, I'll still be a person who's development, thoughts and attitudes were heavily shaped by this illness. I can never become the person I would have been if I never had it. I would've been ignorant and happy, but I wouldn't care, because I would have a nice gf, many friends to hang out with, and a nice job to distract me from over-analyzing this world.

Damn, where's Cynic, I think he at least he would understand and agree.

 

[arsenalwa]

Way to miss my point. Living through SA and THEN becoming happy is not the same thing as being normal. If you never had SA you would be a completely different person with different thoughts than you have now. Hello, I have SA too, I know the way you people think. I revel in my individuality and uniqueness too but it's all I have left. You might be thinking "I have no friends, no job, no gf and I'm depressed as ****, but at least I'm unique and not a shallow jerk like other people" but you must realize that it's only to feel better about yourself. If you either disagree or miss my point again, you're the one living in delusion.

This statement makes no sense, because once you learn something, you can't just forget about it and become ignorant. I have SA and even if I overcome it, I'll still be a person who's development, thoughts and attitudes were heavily shaped by this illness. I can never become the person I would have been if I never had it. I would've been ignorant and happy, but I wouldn't care, because I would have a nice gf, many friends to hang out with, and a nice job to distract me from over-analyzing this world.

Damn, where's Cynic, I think he at least he would understand and agree.

Yea. And that means you agree with us that SA positively influenced you?

 

[Weirdo]

Ofcourse, but that still doesn't mean that I wouldn't be happier if I was just a regular joe.

 

[recluse]

1) I have empathy for people.
2) I don't have std's because i can't even ask girls out::
3) I don't follow the crowd.
4) I don't do drugs, smoke, and i drink in moderation (no peer pressure)
5) I have money to spend because i have no social life!
6) I'm careful with my words/tactful.

 

[2ate]

SP or SA is a blessing disguise. As many people on this thread have listed, you develop attributes that non SA/SPers don't have.

Does it make you better than them or them better than us? not really imo. you are what you are. They are what they are.

 

[Noca]

Having SA will help me as a psychologist to understand it more in my patients. I'll know what they are going through from real life experiences instead of just reading from a textbook.

 

[Luke1993]

I don't think it has helped me at all sorry for being negative but I honestly cannot think of anything.

 

[Squishy]

I think I can read people more, from being the one who just stands there listening to people and being quiet. I'm not prejudice against anyone. I'm pretty optimistic, i just think oh well I'll sort it out if I'm worrying about something. I think if i wasn't so shy I would have got in trouble more for talking back to teachers in school, I always found getting told off annoying but would just stay quiet lol.

 

[kayelle]

I'm the exact same as most people on this thread, I'm extremely patient and empathetic with people now. If someone's an *******, I wonder 'what's bothering them? I hope they're ok. They must have something awful going on in their life right now' instead of thinking 'they're such an *******!' or 'they hate me!'.

 

[arsenalwa]

Good to see this old thread got quite some replies.

I agree with pretty much everything everyone's already said. I really think I would have been a much worse person in a way than I am today if it wasn't for SA. That's not to say it's a good thing to have SA or something, though. You just get the point.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I've definitely noticed a change in me with my SA. I was a social girl once upon a time and I had a lot of friends, wasn't afraid to be in the spotlight, and put my trust in too many people. People took advantage of my trust and that's when I learned that people were cruel and deceitful so I put this barrier around myself that still stands strong to this day and I don't intend on tearing it down just yet. I have a few close friends and nothing more. I have a number of acquaintances but we don't really talk much so I wouldn't necessarily call them friends or people I would trust.

I've also noticed that I've become significantly more patient, observant, and understanding with people. Before, I would see an upset person and instantly think to myself "What's up their a**?" but now when I see people like that I know not to judge them because they probably have a lot going on in their life and I don't know what kind of background they're coming from. It's like me: people look at me and see that I look upset, gloomy, and just overall unhappy most of the time and they assume that I'm just a stuck-up b**** but they don't know that it's because I'm socially anxious and don't enjoy being around people.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I think the best thing that has come out of my SA, is the growing i've had to do to accept myself with SA, and to gradually begin to heal from it. I feel like, in a few months, I've become a whole new person, a person who puts their happiness first and who no longer cares as much about what others think. I have had to learn to accept my body image, which I still am not all that enthusiastic about also. A large percentage of the general public still lives for the attention of others, and is still at risk for becoming as reclusive as I, yet here I am, going right from damaged to living my life away from even the minor related social insecurities of the public. It's almost a gift, once we heal, with as much time as it takes, we change our ways of thinking for life, while others are predisposed and vulnerable to our previously negative means of thinking through their insecurities (influenced by society) to end up like us. We have the opportunity to grow so much more than I even thought possible

 

[vj288]

I once made this exact same thread.

And I just revived it.

 

[arsenalwa]

Real horrorshow threads-reviver you are!