Just a question.

Lorraine Manca

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Would you be a recluse if you could pull it off successfully? Or another way to phrase it. If you had a choice between being a comfortable recluse or a fighting sa for the rest of your life, which would you choose?
 

Sacrament

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Fighting SA is challenging and, if you keep at it with enough willpower and determination, very rewarding.
 

Sacrament

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It can be. I am still to face many challenges, but I don't want to say "no" every time something comes along.
 

Lorraine Manca

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It can be. I am still to face many challenges, but I don't want to say "no" every time something comes along.

For me, the rewarding part isnt what its cracked up to be. The reward is to feel the noose around your neck loosened after each ordeal. It feels good to have it loosened, but I dont want to live life that way. That's just my experience though.
 

LadyWench

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I'm sadly comfortable in the state I'm in and have been in for a long time. However, changing and actually living life does sound appealing. At this point, I'm not really sure.
 

PennyLane

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I think you end up feeling alone no matter what, married, not married, friends, no friends. It seems to be part of the human condition to be alone in your head.

When I have been with a boyfriend I have loved and i've known he knew me and genuinely loved me back I didn't feel lonely.

This sounds super needy...but i find if i have someone to go to sleep with at night...im much less lonely!
 

klytus

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I'd prefer a comfortable solitude over "fighting SA" or "becoming more social". Just because I genuinely dislike the general population, independently of any issues with socialization.
 

Satine

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Well, I'm not sure exactly what the pair of us are going to do, but after the holiday we've got in a couple of weeks' time we're going to start saving up and researching to go out into a wilderness somewhere and live the self-sufficient lifestyle!
 

Kinetik

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With me it seems to be that I'm either alone, or else spending my time with someone who loves me unconditionally. For some reason I have no desire to have loose, vapid friendships as I notice lots of people in the real world do. Maybe they're just perfectly content to network without needing a deeper connection, but for me it's kind of an all-or-nothing deal. That's why I'm either hermitting it up by myself, or I'm with a family member, or else I'm involved in a big, epic relationship with someone. I can't have easygoing, carefree interactions with women; it's as if I either make them a family member (again the unconditional aspect) or else I'm just not interested. And as I mentioned, the everyday, "what's-up-dude" sort of people I completely do without. I'll never be friends just to be friends, and I'll never have a MySpace account, for example.

So I suppose that makes the question a tough one for me to answer. I think ultimately I'd choose to fight the SA, if only to keep the handful of people in my life who mean something close to me.
 
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Apple Strudel

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I not very sure in future. But at this point of my life, living comfortably as a recluse sounds so much better than my current situation. No stress, no social hassles, no unnecessary struggles...but I know it's not 80% possible. I don't even know who would want to actually take care of me for the rest of my life. But I do have family support even though im pretty much quite a stranger with them.
 

Lorraine Manca

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Well, I'm not sure exactly what the pair of us are going to do, but after the holiday we've got in a couple of weeks' time we're going to start saving up and researching to go out into a wilderness somewhere and live the self-sufficient lifestyle!

Thats amazing! I wish you all the luck. And you managed to talk someone into doing that? lol. beats taking a volley ball. How would you do it? I figure a person could manage as a park ranger pretty well.
 
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