Does anyone can't get a date?
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Tempus35
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Ditto, I am very bad with people in general, let alone women.
Yeah, I'm amazed at the mess I get myself into (seemingly safe things in the beginning). At least I can say I once did this or that.
Tiercel
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They sure can! It seems like most Americans will do anything if the price is right, so go for it!
combat
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No girl is perfect. Liking her a lot is great, but don't tell yourself that you are somehow inferior to her. I know this is easier said than done, but it's an attitude you need to train yourself to adopt.
theslowesthand
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Never had a date, and gettin close to 40 now!
Am a member of MANY dating/connection sites, but i STILL don't know how to start a "process" (well a non-programming one anyway). These sites still seem a way to go to be of any real/practical use for me - it's still all to vague/general, so i have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA about whether any of the women would be suited to me .. and am too scared to try to organise a date with any (as in real life)
Also, i'm all about thoughts & logic, not feelings/emotions - and with (most?) women, i suspect they're ALL about feelings .. so i'm doomed then!
Am a member of MANY dating/connection sites, but i STILL don't know how to start a "process" (well a non-programming one anyway
). These sites still seem a way to go to be of any real/practical use for me - it's still all to vague/general, so i have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA about whether any of the women would be suited to me .. and am too scared to try to organise a date with any (as in real life)Also, i'm all about thoughts & logic, not feelings/emotions - and with (most?) women, i suspect they're ALL about feelings .. so i'm doomed then!
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Pookah
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SingleAloneForever
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Nope never been on a date. Never had a gf. Never had anything at all.
I've tried the online dating thing, I've been trying it for years. But think it's time to just finally give up. Of all the dating sites I've tried (about a dozen), over the past six years, I've never gotten even a single response.
There was one site I was on quite recently, and one woman actually allowed me to chat to her for a few minutes. However, she definitely wasn't interested, and I think that she was only being polite. It ended up being just smalltalk.
It quickly went downhill, because she asked me a question in such a way, that made me think that she already knew what the answer was going to be.
The question was "Tell me honestly, have you ever been on a date, or had a girlfriend."
I told her the truth, and her reponse was "No, nobody can be that pathetic. Really? You're almost 28 and never even had a girlfriend. OK, you're too pathetic. Stop talking to me."
Now I'm giving up on everything and just wating patiently for the day I die, and all this pain will leave me the **** alone.
I've tried the online dating thing, I've been trying it for years. But think it's time to just finally give up. Of all the dating sites I've tried (about a dozen), over the past six years, I've never gotten even a single response.
There was one site I was on quite recently, and one woman actually allowed me to chat to her for a few minutes. However, she definitely wasn't interested, and I think that she was only being polite. It ended up being just smalltalk.
It quickly went downhill, because she asked me a question in such a way, that made me think that she already knew what the answer was going to be.
The question was "Tell me honestly, have you ever been on a date, or had a girlfriend."
I told her the truth, and her reponse was "No, nobody can be that pathetic. Really? You're almost 28 and never even had a girlfriend. OK, you're too pathetic. Stop talking to me."
Now I'm giving up on everything and just wating patiently for the day I die, and all this pain will leave me the **** alone.
Lorraine Manca
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i can never get the date right. normally i just guess.
Jesushasomeoneforme
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today i had more confidence i talked to a hot woman
theslowesthand
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theslowesthand
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Dude, DON'T let lack of a woman cause you pain - nowadays i'm NOT EVEN BOTHERED IN THE SLIGHTEST that i've never had a g'f or date, it's (& they) are "barely on my radar"!!! I've never really "had a life", but that's fine, as i've only ever been interested in academics & other solitary pursuits. DON'T rely on ANY women/woman for your emotional health - as they WILL let you down sooner or later. AT BEST they might increase your hapiness a BIT (& DON'T believe all the "hype" that the media (and people, and women themselves) expel through their "facial rectum", about a man "NEEDING" a woman, etc, etc - its NOT TRUE - it's BULLSHIT. You've got to LOSE the notion in your head that they are these perfect/wonderful/spiritual/heavenly/etc/etc creatures. They (& us males) are basically just ANIMALS WITH A MEMORY/FOREBRAIN. So, we are a BIT above animals, but for many people on earth the difference is barely noticeable!
Okay, so they have their lovely lumps & bumps & curves, and they often "flaunt" those things, and they are very sensory/sensual beings - but don't get "washed away" by all that stuff, as when you get down to it, women/girls are made of the VERY SAME plain-old bread'n'butter atoms that every other living creature is made of - so nout special in that regard
As for that "excuse" for a woman, she is exactly the same type of woman whom I am repulsed/repelled by - immature, follows-the-flock, no individuality, "common", "superior", full of irrationality, over-aggressive, doesn't think before she opens her "gobby" mouth, etc, etc. They are very very shallow/narrow-minded, and THEY are the ones who are pathetic (& they feel as such, and cover it up by calling OTHERS pathetic). They have never done justice to their existence, preferring to swim in the warm/fuzzy/safe shallows, & not swim out into the wild unknowns of the ocean, and are terrified of even getting their HAIR wet, let alone dive under the surface of life. It's people like us on socialphobiaworld who are the pioneers/explorers of the real "underworld" of life. Most others scavenge/scrap/fight/predate/etc like dinosaur-like wingless vultures up on the surface (of the sea & land)
But keep "chipping away" dude, it's a long slow painful process getting out of the "hole", but when you do get out of it (& you WILL, with lots of perseverance, & a dash of luck) into the light, you will realise that that hole that you were in wasn't really as bad a place as you thought, it just simply lacked "light", and in the darkness your imagination can play dirty tricks on you!
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theslowesthand
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Well, it's probably no
then that your're still single, as if you happen to make a date with a guy (or girl) and then FORGET about it ..... that is, i can't imagine that being "stood up" would make any person want to get to know you more !!!??? 
Bang bang bang
I like the title of this thread. I don't think I've ever been on a date, yet I'm not really sure what counts as one? I don't really care though I guess. I'd rather not think about it, if it's something I don't see happening or don't want to get depressed about.
I like the title of this thread. I don't think I've ever been on a date, yet I'm not really sure what counts as one? I don't really care though I guess. I'd rather not think about it, if it's something I don't see happening or don't want to get depressed about.
Pookah
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Ha ha ha .. thats BANG-ON Pookah!
Spock has his allure. Some women don't like the Kirks. Remember that. (I realize how Trekkie/geeky that sounded and I don't care.) ^_^
Dude, DON'T let lack of a woman cause you pain - nowadays i'm NOT EVEN BOTHERED IN THE SLIGHTEST that i've never had a g'f or date, it's (& they) are "barely on my radar"!!! I've never really "had a life", but that's fine, as i've only ever been interested in academics & other solitary pursuits. DON'T rely on ANY women/woman for your emotional health - as they WILL let you down sooner or later. AT BEST they might increase your hapiness a BIT (& DON'T believe all the "hype" that the media (and people, and women themselves) expel through their "facial rectum", about a man "NEEDING" a woman, etc, etc - its NOT TRUE - it's BULLSHIT. You've got to LOSE the notion in your head that they are these perfect/wonderful/spiritual/heavenly/etc/etc creatures. They (& us males) are basically just ANIMALS WITH A MEMORY/FOREBRAIN. So, we are a BIT above animals, but for many people on earth the difference is barely noticeable!
Okay, so they have their lovely lumps & bumps & curves, and they often "flaunt" those things, and they are very sensory/sensual beings - but don't get "washed away" by all that stuff, as when you get down to it, women/girls are made of the VERY SAME plain-old bread'n'butter atoms that every other living creature is made of - so nout special in that regard
As for that "excuse" for a woman, she is exactly the same type of woman whom I am repulsed/repelled by - immature, follows-the-flock, no individuality, "common", "superior", full of irrationality, over-aggressive, doesn't think before she opens her "gobby" mouth, etc, etc. They are very very shallow/narrow-minded, and THEY are the ones who are pathetic (& they feel as such, and cover it up by calling OTHERS pathetic). They have never done justice to their existence, preferring to swim in the warm/fuzzy/safe shallows, & not swim out into the wild unknowns of the ocean, and are terrified of even getting their HAIR wet, let alone dive under the surface of life. It's people like us on socialphobiaworld who are the pioneers/explorers of the real "underworld" of life. Most others scavenge/scrap/fight/predate/etc like dinosaur-like wingless vultures up on the surface (of the sea & land)
But keep "chipping away" dude, it's a long slow painful process getting out of the "hole", but when you do get out of it (& you WILL, with lots of perseverance, & a dash of luck) into the light, you will realise that that hole that you were in wasn't really as bad a place as you thought, it just simply lacked "light", and in the darkness your imagination can play dirty tricks on you!
agree completely with the whole thing of people with SAD being "pioneers" - so true. There are people out there who havent got a friggen clue how hard it is to open the front door and deal with another human being
