crying during large social situations

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Went out to dinner with a group of people with my friend. We planned to leave right away, but then one of the guys invited us to hang out at his place with a bunch of people. I wanted to leave and felt overwhelmed. I couldn't leave myself because I came with my friend. I started crying and just left randomly and my friend kept texting me, but it took a half hr that anyone noticed I left. I just lied and said got a ride and walked all the way home about 8 miles. Has anyone else done something like this? just feel alone right now. :(
 
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jc972

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I didn't start crying but before I was married my cousin set me up on a blind date. It was summer time and we all met up at a restaurant and he wanted to take everybody out on his new boat in the lake. Cool. My "date" hadn't said much and there was no physical attraction but I wanted to see his new boat. We were out in the middle of the lake and my "date" would insult every topic I brought up so after a while of that I told them all "bye" and dove into the lake. Fully clothed and shoes on, wallet, can of skoal, everything went in the water with me but I was so mad I didn't care it took me a couple hours but I swam back to the shore and got in my truck and left. My cousin was upset that he and his date had to take her home but I was upset at him for trying to set me up with a complete ice block.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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jc972 said:
I didn't start crying but before I was married my cousin set me up on a blind date. It was summer time and we all met up at a restaurant and he wanted to take everybody out on his new boat in the lake. Cool. My "date" hadn't said much and there was no physical attraction but I wanted to see his new boat. We were out in the middle of the lake and my "date" would insult every topic I brought up so after a while of that I told them all "bye" and dove into the lake. Fully clothed and shoes on, wallet, can of skoal, everything went in the water with me but I was so mad I didn't care it took me a couple hours but I swam back to the shore and got in my truck and left. My cousin was upset that he and his date had to take her home but I was upset at him for trying to set me up with a complete ice block.
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Lol sometimes it's better just to leave and not have to explain yourself until maybe later :p
 
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jc972

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That was the closest thing to your situation that's ever happened to me. I can't believe it took them that long to know you were gone, they sound like a warm, caring, bunch. NOT!
 
dottie

dottie

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yep, i've walked out of a party or two... no big deal. i've cried inbetween classes, during class, work, lunch breaks, on the way to work, on the way home from work, at church, dinners, parks, everywhere. i wore one of those furry-costumes (like at a theme park) and i cried in there (no joke). panic attacks everywhere. i keep on going, though.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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dottie said:
yep, i've walked out of a party or two... no big deal. i've cried inbetween classes, during class, work, lunch breaks, on the way to work, on the way home from work, at church, dinners, parks, everywhere. i wore one of those furry-costumes (like at a theme park) and i cried in there (no joke). panic attacks everywhere. i keep on going, though.
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Aw I would have hugged your costume if I was at the same park and somehow knew you were upset.
 
jigglypuff

jigglypuff

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I've cried many times during classes, crowded places, theaters, even in my own home.
I usually go to a bathroom and cry my eyes out in there, but during class i'm not allowed to go to a bathroom so I go to the back of the room and cry there (luckily no one notices me) and I also get a lot of panic attacks (which I hate) it all makes me just want to lock myself in my room and never come out...
 
Nanita

Nanita

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I´m sorry you had that experience. I know how it feels.
A couple of times I started to cry in front of people, or ran out and then started to cry. It happened in school, at a job and at parties. It´s embarassing and just feels horrible. Usually there is nobody who has anything to say to me when it happens, and no one to comfort me, it is probably the loneliest feeling ever.
 
Nanita

Nanita

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jc972 said:
I didn't start crying but before I was married my cousin set me up on a blind date. It was summer time and we all met up at a restaurant and he wanted to take everybody out on his new boat in the lake. Cool. My "date" hadn't said much and there was no physical attraction but I wanted to see his new boat. We were out in the middle of the lake and my "date" would insult every topic I brought up so after a while of that I told them all "bye" and dove into the lake. Fully clothed and shoes on, wallet, can of skoal, everything went in the water with me but I was so mad I didn't care it took me a couple hours but I swam back to the shore and got in my truck and left.
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That is the coolest thing u could have done in that situation... I think you are my idol now, because of that.

dottie said:
yep, i've walked out of a party or two... no big deal. i've cried inbetween classes, during class, work, lunch breaks, on the way to work, on the way home from work, at church, dinners, parks, everywhere. i wore one of those furry-costumes (like at a theme park) and i cried in there (no joke). panic attacks everywhere. i keep on going, though.
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Sounds like situations I´ve been in many times. But unlike you, I don´t exactly keep going, it´s too much for me to handle more of those situations.
 
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jaim38

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Yes I have cried while sitting in a car and yelling too but I could tell people were looking so I pretend to put a cell phone up to my ear.

Several years ago, I cried on my b-day while sitting in a hidden guest room in a hospital. I was supposed to volunteer at the hospital on that day, but instead I ditched my duty and cried in a hidden area. The next time I came, I told the coordinator I didn't want to volunteer anymore.
 
Lea

Lea

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dottie said:
yep, i've walked out of a party or two... no big deal. i've cried inbetween classes, during class, work, lunch breaks, on the way to work, on the way home from work, at church, dinners, parks, everywhere. i wore one of those furry-costumes (like at a theme park) and i cried in there (no joke). panic attacks everywhere. i keep on going, though.
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:thumbup:

I remember I cried once in England when I was still so stupid that I felt prey to a scam and lost all my savings for a long time. I went out and cried like hell on the street. Then I cried on my travels, in Panama when I had stolen my purse, but I was also stressed otherwise and felt like shit. Then again I cried down in Peru when I had the rest of my documents stolen. :thumbup:

Once I cried terribly on the airport and on the plane to England, because it was a day after my grandmother died and besides my father was terrorizing me the same night so it was really too much.
 
neardeath

neardeath

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I cry wherever I go, happy or sad. I hate it. It makes me feel ill to cry so much.

Doesn't sound like they were worth hanging around for!
 
Diend

Diend

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I had to attend a lunch banquet and became overwhelmed by the amount of strangers and i was even invited! I ended up buying a sandwich and eating alone. I cried because i realized how utterly ludicrous my fear was...but it was completely real.
 
rosewood

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LazyHermitCrab and jc972, I understand you were both absolutely miserable and felt forced to leave the way you did, but...WOW. So impressive. I wish I could have done that a few times. A bit dangerous, and I am glad you are okay. I don't think anyone should feel bad about needing to escape people, though.
 
Opaline

Opaline

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Yes... in high school I went on this trip for honors students to a mountain lodge/resort. The place was so nice, and if not for the circumstances I would have enjoyed it. For me, it was a humiliating disaster. I didn't know anyone there well, I was shy and the other girls looked at me like I was the weirdest person they had ever met. They attempted to invite me to hang out with them - out of pity, I think - but I was too anxious and lied and said I had a headache and would stay behind. I felt so terrible that I hid in the bathroom and cried for three hours. That night they had some of the girls and guys from our other hotel rooms come over while I was sleeping. The noise woke me up and I felt so awkward that I pretended to still be sleeping for what seemed like hours while they chatted and had a great time.

I've had a couple other incidents like that, although not as bad. I know how humiliating it feels. It will pass, though, and you'll feel better again. Maybe come up with a coping strategy to handle these situations that you can mentally refer to when this stuff comes up?
 
LoyalXenite

LoyalXenite

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I have a few times, but usually i make it to somewhere private like the bathrooms and sob in there until it passes. Or if i can make an escape i do and cry on the walk/trip home
 
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