What do you think about love?

rainstreet

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Today in lunch, a girl who liked me sat next to my table. I was reading a book, and I felt someone looking at me and I looked up and saw her looking at me, I looked away quickly because I was too shy lol. She said to her friend "he does that all the time". I felt like a loser after lunch, because I thought the same thing was going to happen again, I go on a date, then bam I get dumped the next week for being a boring bastard, I mean if people don't like me being me, then to hell with love, I have other things to do rather than trying to fake my personality.

I think love is too complicated; as in it is the most beautifull thing to people find true love, but to everybody else it just plaing sucks. love makes you dependent on the other person instead of yourself, which in that sense makes you weak, because your love and therefore your happiness depends on that one person, and that person will always dictate when you are happy and when you (eventually) will feel sad and depressed, especially when they leave you ( which in todays world,will probbly happen). It also sucks because it recquires you to make huge risks and sacrifices to get to it, and ussually they do all end up in vain. You can spend all the money on them in the world to keep eachother happy, but in the end it still depends on the other person, not you. Some people become so infatuated with the idea of love because they think they found it, even if it’s there first time ever having feelings like that. the feeling will drive them crazy and make them do real retarded things that they wouldn’t normally do in other situations. but in the end it will all fall apart, they will be left with that depressed feeling of lonelyness, and also not even worth all the work. True love used to exist, where you could meet someone and be with them for life, where it wasn’t such a risk to be in love. but in todays Godless, corrupt, and superficial world, where 50 % of marriages end in divorce, people cheat left and right, everygirl looks for the bad boy even tho they all end up hurting the girl in on way or another, and people look at love so superfically, love is very rare.



What do you think?
You're right, love sucks. You can feel absolutely wonderful one minute, then fall into a deep, dark, stinking pit of misery the next minute. It's worse for guys like us that crave love but don't know how to get it. It's the most painful thing about social anxiety. There's a pit of poison spiders surrounding us. We can see love, touching, affection on the other side but one step that way means death.
 

Aru_Sarutobi

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You're right, love sucks. You can feel absolutely wonderful one minute, then fall into a deep, dark, stinking pit of misery the next minute. It's worse for guys like us that crave love but don't know how to get it. It's the most painful thing about social anxiety. There's a pit of poison spiders surrounding us. We can see love, touching, affection on the other side but one step that way means death.

LOL, that is exactly true
 

rainstreet

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Dear sir/madam :D love is not about picking a partner because you believe them to be a suitable father/mother well not in my case anyway, i do not have children and i wouldn't plan on having them either as i do not believe that i would be good enough mother having SA and my husband has is own mental problems that would mean he would not be able to be a good enough father so we have chosen not to have children together.
A lot of couples decide not to have children so your pondering is not always correct.:D
I think that many people have kids believing that it will satisfy an unfulfilled need for love, affection, appreciation, respect, whatever. For some reason, these people expect to receive this from their children. I know for a fact that this was my mothers reason for having kids. I think she has finally begun to realize that kids aren't around to make their parents feel good.
 
I think that many people have kids believing that it will satisfy an unfulfilled need for love, affection, appreciation, respect, whatever. For some reason, these people expect to receive this from their children. I know for a fact that this was my mothers reason for having kids. I think she has finally begun to realize that kids aren't around to make their parents feel good.

Yes i know what you mean, i believe too many people have kids just because they WANT them and never think if they SHOULD have them.

I WANT kids but i know i SHOULDN'T because its not fare on them.
 

eggpod

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I try to convince myself that I don't need it and that it's all just pre-programmed chemical reactions anyway. That works most of the time.
 

brokenfingers04

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jamez

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I never use to think this way but...

I think it's one of the most important things in life. People talk about things that motivate them to go through life and love is possibly at the top of the list. It's missing in today's world. Love for another human being can bring about a lot of joy as well as pain. In the end, it's all that matters though.
 
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I think desperation is whats ruining love for a lot of people in this generation.
 

apollo

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Well said thao87

You need to make sure that the other person is on the same level as you are.

Healthy honest communication is key. People who sneek around behind your back are not worth it anyways.

I don't know. I don't believe in the concept of true love anyways.

We've all been brainwashed into thinking that love just happens and that it's just this thing that naturally occurs (a bow and arrow). People paint it as something perfect and rosy. This is all false.

I see love as two people who truly care about one and other at a given moment in time. And you need to work at that anyways.
 

oui

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I was in love once. And by love, I mean I was completely caring and compassionate to one guy, and he felt the same about me, or so I thought.

I loved him because he was very intelligent. It's difficult to find a thinking person nowadays. You know, a person that can have discussions about space, time, philosophy, and politics, without getting pissed off? The kind that can work out differences in ideology and come to a conclusion? That was him.

It sounds perfect, I guess. And some days, it seemed to be so. We'd spend a full day together, and I'd leave for school the next morning, not having a wink of sleep, running on the pure high of love. It was really like nothing I've ever experienced. And this was before we'd actually started being together. Before we even told one another how we felt.

He started hanging out with his friend. I knew he was hanging out with her prior to the incident, but I trusted him very much, and I told him so. But he began to withdraw from me. I kept trusting him, giving him space.

He told me that he'd started screwing her, and that it would be better if he and I weren't exclusive, meaning, "She's a good ****er, you're a good talker. I want both. Lets three way." It really hurt me. I was monogamous to him the whole time. Why couldn't he show me the same respect? And now, he wants me to accept it and move on?

I told him how I felt. I tried to keep calm. He got very defensive, claiming that intimacy "isn't a big deal," and "people don't take monogamy seriously, you know that, sweetie." He was condescending toward me, then impatient. "I guess this is good by then." He left, expecting me to follow, begging him back. I did no such thing. I'll admit it: He's made me extremely bitter toward love and men. I loathe intimacy-- mental and physical. I avoid revealing too much of myself, for fear of some guy losing interest, and finding another woman to sniff.

I know, not all men are like this. And there are lots of weird aspects of my relationship that I haven't said, that probably affected the way things turned out. But I can't help thinking that women and men weren't meant to be monogamous, and those that do stay together are anomalies. Those that think "soul mates" are real, are brainwashed. It makes me sad, though, thinking I can give so much to a person, and never get the same amount back. Like hugging a wall.

He called me a few weeks later, telling me he was sorry. He was so disingenuous. He tried to humiliate me, by saying things like "it must have been shock. I should have anticipated your overreaction." Overreaction?! I unleashed the beast. I made him cry. And I don't regret it. Revenge is sweet.

Sorry this is long.
 

mysissucks

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I think this is one of the biggest issues with the concept of romantic love - it goes againts our nature.

I think men are supposed to **** as many women as possible and women are supposed to stay with one man. That is how it goes in nature. Women get emotionally attached, men much less so. The concept of love is sooo different to different genders, it's simply INSANE to think it could ever work! ::(:



I am beginning to see this to be true as well. That 90% of men are shallow and do not get attached. Relationships are a joke. Who needs them???
 
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