Just some scattered thoughts from what I'm learning...
So when you or I are alone or in conversation with a close person (say your brother or sister) we are normal beings, we talk, react, smile, cry, get angry, listen, etc. we do all that genuinely. It's the true us.
But If I worry about what others (say people in the supermarket, or school) think of me this leads me to do all the aforementioned actions superficially. It's like every move, every word we do is hooked to the thought (illusion really) of "what are they thinking of this, how are they going to react, I look dumb, etc." and hence those words and moves come out as superficial and fake. You think you're doing the right thing but in reality you're faking yourself, you're not you, and the here's the kicker: Those people don't even care. It's a sad realization but true and healing: you are not the center of the universe, lol. It's sour isn't it? But it's the truth.
Look at this:
What do you see? Line on the right is longer. That's what your mind thinks after being fooled into false judgement by visual distractors (the head of arrows) but the REALITY? both lines are of the same length! Check for yourself by whatever method. The same applies to fear and thinking of what others think. It does NOT exist, it's your mind being fooled into thinking it exists but it does not exist in reality. Your mind creates it, fabricates it and fools you. You are a victim of your own mind. Wake up.
Finally, a quote that I like:
"We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do." - Ethel Barrett
So when you or I are alone or in conversation with a close person (say your brother or sister) we are normal beings, we talk, react, smile, cry, get angry, listen, etc. we do all that genuinely. It's the true us.
But If I worry about what others (say people in the supermarket, or school) think of me this leads me to do all the aforementioned actions superficially. It's like every move, every word we do is hooked to the thought (illusion really) of "what are they thinking of this, how are they going to react, I look dumb, etc." and hence those words and moves come out as superficial and fake. You think you're doing the right thing but in reality you're faking yourself, you're not you, and the here's the kicker: Those people don't even care. It's a sad realization but true and healing: you are not the center of the universe, lol. It's sour isn't it? But it's the truth.
Look at this:
What do you see? Line on the right is longer. That's what your mind thinks after being fooled into false judgement by visual distractors (the head of arrows) but the REALITY? both lines are of the same length! Check for yourself by whatever method. The same applies to fear and thinking of what others think. It does NOT exist, it's your mind being fooled into thinking it exists but it does not exist in reality. Your mind creates it, fabricates it and fools you. You are a victim of your own mind. Wake up.
Finally, a quote that I like:
"We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do." - Ethel Barrett
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