Why do you think you havent grown out of SA
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I don't know what's my problem tbh. I used to be outgoing when I was bout 11, 12. Then when I turned 13 I developed agoraphobia and it just worsened my SA which I always had.
It's reached to a point where if I go somewhere by myself I feel like crying. No kidding. The other day I was in a store and my dad left me for 2 minutes and I just felt to cry and run out the store and never show my face there.
It's reached to a point where if I go somewhere by myself I feel like crying. No kidding. The other day I was in a store and my dad left me for 2 minutes and I just felt to cry and run out the store and never show my face there.
^How old are you darkrider?
I'm 16 years old
oopsiedoop
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Someone, maybe on this site, made the distinction between social anxiety, which most people feel to some degree in new situations, and social anxiety disorder. I don't remember what he said the difference was but I think that people who feel some social anxiety in new situations can grow out of it, if you want to call it that, as they get accustomed to them, while social anxiety disorder does not just go away on its own.
popolala
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i dont agree with that.. if thats what people think, then they might aswell not seek help and just live as a hermit for the rest of their life since they believe there is on cure. If someone see therapy and dont believe they can break free from SA .. then might aswell stop seeking help. If you dont believe in change, then nothing will happen.
I believe if you set your heart into something, you can do it.
I think there is an underlying reason why people have SA, and SA isnt a thing you are born with .. with no reason. Mostly its a sad past that affected SA. therefore, its the past that people need to let go and move on.. whether or not someone is loud or hyperactive.. If someone is confident in themselve with who they are.. to me that person is confident.
maybe that time, you thought u lost him.. i wont take it as that bad..
i used to have that feeling, when my mum walk off... i hope she gets back okay.. and i miss her inside my heart. maybe its just you miss your dad for a moment thing.
popolala
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Yeah, i know what you mean. I think everyone has SA to be honest. Everybody in the while wide world has a little to some extent.
But we are more of a worst case and need to learn how to put it under control, cope..
we may not be visually loud, hyper active.. etc..
but if we are a confident person inside as in knowing what we want, and being sure of ourself, that is fine.
i think SA links to being confident and having confidence.. Its better to be confident on the inside, because then it will be natural to be confident on the outside. Than to act... its hard to pretend to be confident, when your not on the inside.. i know im bad at acting.. so i should really seek help for my inside..
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vj288
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I don't think I've grown out whatever I have because it isn't a phase. A phase is something I think you sort of grow out of naturally. I think of this as more of a injury, or a wound, and it reminds me of the expression "Time heals all wounds." I used to believe that time would solve my problems, that once I got to a certain point everything would be okay. I don't think it's that simple anymore. I think time plays a part in the "healing" process, but it is not the only thing that is involved. If you break your leg, you have to wait x amount of weeks before it gets better, but that is not all. You have to get aligned, you have to get a cast, keep it elevated, walk on crutches, ect ect. So while things may not become better instantaneously, without doing a, b, and c along the way you won't get better at all. In order to "grow out" of SA I think you have to work at it, challenge yourself, set yourself up for success. It doesn't just happen, you have to make it happen.
Kiwong
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My anxiety had probably always been there, but not a real problem until I hit forty. So it's been worrying me for about 10 years now.
I beat panic attacks by acknowledging the feeling and riding it out. I still get the panic feeling, but it doesn't lead to a panic attack. I am learning to turn down the volume on my anxiety, excercise, diet and relaxation techniques helped. I acknowlegde it is there, but it has lost its power.
My anxiety will always be there, but at a manageable level, that lets get on with my life.
I beat panic attacks by acknowledging the feeling and riding it out. I still get the panic feeling, but it doesn't lead to a panic attack. I am learning to turn down the volume on my anxiety, excercise, diet and relaxation techniques helped. I acknowlegde it is there, but it has lost its power.
My anxiety will always be there, but at a manageable level, that lets get on with my life.
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popolala
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i have to disagree with you since i know people who have grown out of it.. i think everyone has sa to an extent, and if you have that mindset of never over-coming extreme shyness, then it wont happen.
deadend
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Grown out of it as in it just disappeared?
There is no "cure" for Social Anxiety Disorder and I have to disagree to say that everyone has SAD to an extent (at least by clinical definition). Mere shyness doesn't count. I would agree to say that one can successfully manage their anxiety to the point that it is no longer such a hindrance (through medication, counseling, desensitization, acceptance, or what have you), but to say that SAD is a phase that can be "grown out of" doesn't sound quite right.
Relapse is also common, and I would think this particularly true for those who are fooled into thinking they no longer have it.
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EscapeArtist
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Becuase I don't 'want' to!
I know it sounds stupid but when you know what way works for you and still you choose not to do it, you must want something else more than you want that.
I know it sounds stupid but when you know what way works for you and still you choose not to do it, you must want something else more than you want that.
Shant
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I don't know if I can grow out of it, to be honest.
I think my negative perception of how others would be destined to treat me, keeps it going. I might be able to convince myself I'm not bad, but there is no way I can easily convince myself that any good will come out of getting close to anyone.
I think my negative perception of how others would be destined to treat me, keeps it going. I might be able to convince myself I'm not bad, but there is no way I can easily convince myself that any good will come out of getting close to anyone.
popolala
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Well if thats what you believe, then you will never change. People who believe they can change will make a break though, being shy is a natural personality, but we can break away from it. It can happen and i've seen it happen.
You just have to believe, its poweful what can happen, when you really believe in it.
Its a disorder, not a disease, its like eating disorder, there are many disorder, people can change.
I know someone who was shy, and then gradually become unshy and is loud, hyperactive.. because.. her true personality is loud (online)
which is her true self, she just brought her out.. and i think being around people who would make you comfortable and happy helps.
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Agent_Violet
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i just started accepting it as part of who i am. The older i got the more selfish i became about not changing just bc society thinks I should be different. If anything, I've gotten worse...the older i get the more stubborn I become. "no i will NOT pretend to be happy go lucky and smiley just bc my normal brooding,serious self makes all the little creampuffs around me uncomfortable." "no I will NOT pretend Im ok with going to a huge gathering when i'd much prefer curling up and reading a new book."
If I choose to start branching out and expanding my circle of comfort...then i'll work on it when i'm ready. I refuse to work on it until then just bc i'm "getting older" and should have "grown out of it" by now. I'll do it in my own darn time...IF i decide to change at all.
If I choose to start branching out and expanding my circle of comfort...then i'll work on it when i'm ready. I refuse to work on it until then just bc i'm "getting older" and should have "grown out of it" by now. I'll do it in my own darn time...IF i decide to change at all.
