When you feel sad - do people who are happy/positive bug you

[KiaKaha]

Say your world is grey, you feel lonely, like no one cares about you - and everything is going wrong.... does it annoy you to come across or be around people who are really bubbly and happy and think that everything is great? Or they obviously ignore you because they dont want to be influenced by your negativity?

I dont mean in a nasty jealous way, just in a - "well its not happening to me so I dont care - I am happy and you are not" kind of way.

Or is that just me? Its just me isnt it...

of course it is.

 

[fishface19]

Nope.. because you can't empathize with them and vice versa, probably makes both of us even more miserable so I try to avoid it... not that bubbly, happy people are attracted to me anyways.

 

[hidwell]

Nope it aint just you, when you feel down the very last type of people you want to see is successful happy people who appear to have it all. It makes you want to puke and the green eyed monster of resentment grows inside of you until you are all choked up with hate and self pity, not a great place to be.

 

[KiaKaha]

I dont know why exactly but people who are constantly happy all the time (or at least pretend to be), or choose to ignore thinking about or acknowledge that bad things actually happen just really gets on my nerves.

Its so....fake.

 

[FlashGit]

Its not just you, my mother is like this and since shes moved out i have been much happier.
People like this will never help with any depressive moods and/or existential crises, they will only make things worse.

 

[fishface19]

I dont know why exactly but people who are constantly happy all the time (or at least pretend to be), or choose to ignore thinking about or acknowledge that bad things actually happen just really gets on my nerves.

Its so....fake.

Yeah it bothers me. My old land lady used to act all kind, sweet and bubbly in front of me (I'm really cynical but I gave her the benefit of the doubt). Then one day I overheard her talking to people about why I didn't leave yet and how I was bothering her in a tone that I wasn't aware she was even capable of right before I went to pay my rent. She's really good at putting on that facade.

 

[Lea]

It depends on what kind of people the "happy" people are. There are some which make my mood better because they´re chatty and funny and don´t pretend anything, and some seem somehow fake as you say, these falsely or exchaggerately happy people - or "positivists" make me feel worse. Maybe it´s down to the sincerity of the person?

 

[Bubo]

When I'm in a sad mood I hate being around happy people. Part of it is because I want to be alone when I'm sad, and part of it is because I find people who are really happy to be annoying no matter what my mood is. And then there's the fact that when happy people come in contact with someone who's upset, they feel the need to play 20 Questions. Sometimes you just can't explain why you're sad or the incident(s) that made you sad are too upsetting to talk about, but the happy people just won't leave you alone. And they usually end their interrogations with some guilt and shaming.

Ugh. I hate happy people.

 

[KiaKaha]

I dont hate happy people exactly... I just find over the top optimism a little irritating - I also find people who dont want to acknowledge that bad things happens sometimes, and that ignoring bad stuff (or things that make people feel uncomfortable) - do sofor the sheer intention of avoiding feeling unhappy... it's just really insincere to me.

Aint I just a nasty piece of work for thinking this way...

"Hi how are you?"

"I am SO AWESOMELY FANTABULOUS life is full of rainbows, unicorns and gum drops...nothing EVER gets me down because I am high on LIFE - you have choose to be happy man, dont be so DOWN brother... its all about at-i-tude dont you know"

Pfff - yeah. Sure. If you say so.

Maybe life just blows sometimes...?

 

[MikeyC]

I dont know why exactly but people who are constantly happy all the time (or at least pretend to be), or choose to ignore thinking about or acknowledge that bad things actually happen just really gets on my nerves.

Its so....fake.

I disagree. Happy people are happy all the time because that's their disposition. To them, it's not fake but to you it is because you don't feel the same.

Life does blow sometimes, as you so eloquently put it, but happy people choose not to worry about it as much as you or I.

My best friend is happy all the time, but he acknowledges that there's bad out there. His attitude is very good.

 

[KiaKaha]

I disagree. Happy people are happy all the time because that's their disposition. To them, it's not fake but to you it is because you don't feel the same.

Life does blow sometimes, as you so eloquently put it, but happy people choose not to worry about it as much as you or I.

My best friend is happy all the time, but he acknowledges that there's bad out there. His attitude is very good.

Yeah....maybe....I just dont see it as an accurate representation of reality, which I guess is why I see it as fake.

It's still annoying.

 

[MikeyC]

Yeah....maybe....I just dont see it as an accurate representation of reality, which I guess is why I see it as fake.

It's still annoying.

Perhaps, but that's your view of reality. Others see the world as a glass half full and that's their reality.

I agree more with your reality, though, but I'm not terribly annoyed with happy people.

 

[KiaKaha]

Perhaps, but that's your view of reality. Others see the world as a glass half full and that's their reality.

I agree more with your reality, though, but I'm not terribly annoyed with happy people.

I am not annoyed in a malicious way - like, I dont want to bring them down or anything, just - I think being aware and realizing that things arent so perfectly wonderful all-the-time keeps people grounded and puts things in perspective. I sometimes think people will do anything to remain happy - even if that means deluding themselves.

I dont know - when I am unhappy and everyone else thinks the world is just the most amazing thing EVER - it just makes me feel worse - along with aggravation.

 

[dragonoth]

I think that genuinely happy people do not need to outwardly express that they are. You can tell they are happy in the way they handle problems because they don't have a defeatist attitude and they either fix them or carry on the best they can, given the circumstances.

A good friend of mine and her boyfriend are of different religions, and their parents would not agree on them being together, but that doesn't stop them from enjoying their time together. I hope that my friend never changes.

 

[MikeyC]

I am not annoyed in a malicious way - like, I dont want to bring them down or anything, just - I think being aware and realizing that things arent so perfectly wonderful all-the-time keeps people grounded and puts things in perspective. I sometimes think people will do anything to remain happy - even if that means deluding themselves.

I dont know - when I am unhappy and everyone else thinks the world is just the most amazing thing EVER - it just makes me feel worse - along with aggravation.

Oh, I agree. Best to keep yourself grounded and realise that the world does have bad in it. I can see what you mean about overly happy people annoying you when you're not feeling the best yourself, though. Best to stay away and deal with your issues without that.

 

[Dinosaur]

Say your world is grey, you feel lonely, like no one cares about you - and everything is going wrong.... does it annoy you to come across or be around people who are really bubbly and happy and think that everything is great? Or they obviously ignore you because they dont want to be influenced by your negativity?

I dont mean in a nasty jealous way, just in a - "well its not happening to me so I dont care - I am happy and you are not" kind of way.

Or is that just me? Its just me isnt it...

of course it is.

They don't bug me I just envy them.I try not to be around them as I just bring them down and they don't deserve that.Last thing I want to do is bring people down with me

 

[leongrado]

I think it's normal to be annoyed by people who are happy when you are sad. It's normal to be annoyed at people who are successful when you are failing.

If you don't think people should be happy all the time because you're sad all the time then I think you should change the way you think. The world doesn't revolve around you.

 

[Steelsoul]

Sometimes I feel annoyed when I'm really depressed and people around me are always happy. But nobody is at fault. They just enjoy their life. Not worry about bad things is the way they make their life comfortable and full of happiness. And we can't blame them for making us feel worse.

But i don't want these happy people to be around me when i'm sad, so when that happens i just stay at home. Standing around them make me feel jealous

 

[theoutsider]

They only bug me if they are close to me and they show absolutely no sympathy at all. This wouldn't be so bad but some of the same ones who could care less if I'm sad or going through something expect me to feel sympathetic toward them when they are feeling down.

 

[laure15]

Say your world is grey, you feel lonely, like no one cares about you - and everything is going wrong.... does it annoy you to come across or be around people who are really bubbly and happy and think that everything is great? Or they obviously ignore you because they dont want to be influenced by your negativity?

They don't annoy me, sometimes I feel envy towards them but overall I'm happy for them for the most part. But I'm not sure if they want to deal with a "loser" like me who has no job, little friends, and SA so I don't interact with them much.