coriander1992
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I'd rather have friends.
What's worse: no friends or no partner?
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faithnomore
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having no partner is like 1 million times worse than not having a friend lol.
Richey
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i'd prefer friends, easily, the problem i find with intimate relationships is it seems less innocent and natural and often more superficial, like there could easily be a reason for either person to be involved, for example the girl may want to show off to her friends that she has a boyfriend and she wont want to make these things obvious (bad example but all i can think of now), or she wants security and is desperate to find a partner no matter what it takes ..and visa versa i'm sure it happens alot ..
friends just seems more natural to me, and there is no agenda, its just a connection of minds and interests, i prefer that ..
i'm not saying it can't be that way for couples but its just how i see it from other albeit jaunty angles
friends just seems more natural to me, and there is no agenda, its just a connection of minds and interests, i prefer that ..
i'm not saying it can't be that way for couples but its just how i see it from other albeit jaunty angles
Argamemnon
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Till the age of 28-29, I really thought I could be happy on my own without a partner, and even without friends. Well, time has proven me wrong. It may be different for other people, I don't know. But I know it's not healthy, that's for certain.Kien said:
ChitChatter
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Actually, i know a real case of a person who once he got a girlfriend, who he married later on, he started to care less and less for his friends. At one point, his only friend, besides his younger brother, was actually his wife. But things started to go wrong, they got divorced...and i remember him being in deep shit because he pushed aside all his old friends...things are getting better now, but still i think its a lesson to learn from there. I think its a natural thing to do, if you find a partner, to spend more and more time with him/her, but dont overdo it, and forget the old friends....it might be very dangerous.
PhantomPod
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I would rather have a partner.
Reholla
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worst: having no friends but a partner
my roomate was like that and just having a boyfriend/gf cant fulfill you....and it also makes your relationship unhealthy. you spend every waking moment with that person and youre dependent and cant be without them, its not good for you at all.
i have friends and no romantic partner and im fine...i miss like physical touch and being intimate with some one but i think its so much healthier.
like my roomate didnt know how to cope without he b/f there. she would cry at night if he wasnt there. i am independent and just FINE on my own...its not to say im not looking forward to being in a relationship ...
ideal situation is to have both, but thats what i think...
my roomate was like that and just having a boyfriend/gf cant fulfill you....and it also makes your relationship unhealthy. you spend every waking moment with that person and youre dependent and cant be without them, its not good for you at all.
i have friends and no romantic partner and im fine...i miss like physical touch and being intimate with some one but i think its so much healthier.
like my roomate didnt know how to cope without he b/f there. she would cry at night if he wasnt there. i am independent and just FINE on my own...its not to say im not looking forward to being in a relationship ...
ideal situation is to have both, but thats what i think...
ripewithdecay
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That's a really good question.
They both have their pros and cons.
Friends are usually way easier to get along with in the long run,
and their loyalty runs deep.
Partners can be emotionally destructive after a certain period of time,
but then of course there's the sex aspect of it.
The issue with friends is that they eventually move on and get married and all that, so that kind of pushes you out a bit.
On the other hand, with a partner you can start a family, so it's no longer just one person but several that are your own flesh and blood.
So, while I believe it's important and healthy to have both, i'd have to stick with having a partner. Simply because I want kids one day.
But it would get damn lonely without any good friends who have that brotherly/sisterly connection.
So its a win-lose situation both ways :/
They both have their pros and cons.
Friends are usually way easier to get along with in the long run,
and their loyalty runs deep.
Partners can be emotionally destructive after a certain period of time,
but then of course there's the sex aspect of it.
The issue with friends is that they eventually move on and get married and all that, so that kind of pushes you out a bit.
On the other hand, with a partner you can start a family, so it's no longer just one person but several that are your own flesh and blood.
So, while I believe it's important and healthy to have both, i'd have to stick with having a partner. Simply because I want kids one day.
But it would get damn lonely without any good friends who have that brotherly/sisterly connection.
So its a win-lose situation both ways :/
Moonie
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Alot of great points were made - I must say.
I wouldn't mind either (just as long as I had someone really) but I guess I do prefer the partner simply because I think it's easier for me to find a partner than it is a friend. For some reason, the flirtiness and touching and just laying together makes it easier for me to warm up to someone. I haven't had a real friend since I was 15 years old. And I doubt I could make any anymore. I still really feel a void inside of me- probably because my lack of friends. But, I guess I'd take the partner. But, it really can be more risky of a relationship. As a previous poster had said, 'You are putting all your eggs in one basket.' A friend would do me good, but haven't had one in many years makes me forget how much I would really like it. So, I'll stay safe and say partner. I like the intimate times together.
I wouldn't mind either (just as long as I had someone really) but I guess I do prefer the partner simply because I think it's easier for me to find a partner than it is a friend. For some reason, the flirtiness and touching and just laying together makes it easier for me to warm up to someone. I haven't had a real friend since I was 15 years old. And I doubt I could make any anymore. I still really feel a void inside of me- probably because my lack of friends. But, I guess I'd take the partner. But, it really can be more risky of a relationship. As a previous poster had said, 'You are putting all your eggs in one basket.' A friend would do me good, but haven't had one in many years makes me forget how much I would really like it. So, I'll stay safe and say partner. I like the intimate times together.