What's the point of being somewhat attractive if

[missjesss]

You have a shy personality or social anxiety as soon as I let someone in they start to see and notice how I can't loosen up in front of ppl etc I HATE THIS it's like I look ok from the outside but inside I'm not what anyone would expect

 

[alejandro84]

i think they assume you are not interested in what they have to say so they go and talk to someone else even i do it to other people and im in the same situation as you

 

[missjesss]

Yeah u generally get mistaken for being aloof and snobbish thn when I get close to someone pol expect me to be all outgoing and something I'm just not pisses me off it's like we are made to feel ashamed of being shy and not accepted for it

 

[doubleM]

Yeah u generally get mistaken for being aloof and snobbish

most women are aloof and snobbish anyway.::

nah seriously. i am not what people expect either. that tends to throw a wrench in the gears of a relationship. you will have to find someone unique who is capable of understanding.

 

[missjesss]

Well I've been seeing this guy for just over a month he has no idea of my s.a I'm still thinking when and how to tell him about it :/

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

A lot of attractive girls, even if they don't have SAD, are mistaken for being snobby and aloof. =/

 

[JosephG]

I know the feeling. I'm not bad looking and when I get attention in girls I think they just think I am really arrogant because I blank them. I'm starting to do that with general people as well (like acquaintances/old friends etc). I'll see someone I know in a bar or a pub or something and I'll just walk right past them leaving them thinking "what the ****".
It is worse because I used to be social - so a lot of people still expect me to be so and when I don't act like I used to around them they are like "what's his problem".
It's the worst with women. There's some girls I think are absolutely gorgeous who I can tell are attracted to me but I can't have them! It is horrible

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

The alternative is what, being hideously ugly with social anxiety or shyness? Not better, I think.

It blows to have people assume you're a snob, true.

 

[fitftw]

I hate this as well, Jess. I'm an above-average looking guy with a below-average personality. I'm one of the most boring and uninteresting people on the planet, but I have good looks.

It sucks, but life's funny like that. It gives you something good and screws you in other ways.

 

[Hastings & Main]

I know what you mean.
Every place I've worked I've been mistaken for "above everyone else".
I think it's part of our body language, as we don't fit the typical "shy" mold - we may be angry that we can't get through to people & that shows, plus it's mixed w/the whole not joining in with others thing & together it comes off as being 'snobby'.
All the ordinarily lightly-shy people I've seen just sort of duck their heads & smile and seem otherwise approachable.
I don't know if I put that across right, but y'know?