Unable to Connect With People
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Flowers-Of-Bloom
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Hellhound
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I can relate to that, partially.
Hellhound
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Maybe they just don't understand you? I don't think it's you... maybe they just don't understand and aren't worth your effort. Sometimes the solution is simply meeting other kind of people, maybe those who are more like you.
lyricalliaisons
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I'm not able to connect with people, either. I see other people "connecting" with one another & making friends & being a part of something, but I'm always left out. I just don't get what they get or see what they see or whatever (I'm doing a very bad job of explaining this).
social phobic ally
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Sounds like you are having difficulty relating to other people or difficulty forming attachments. My LT BF has social phobia and he often speaks about feeling emotionally detached and at times describes it as feeling "inhuman". He feels a vague indifference towards most people. Is this how you feel? If anyone wants to speak more about emotional detachment, I'd be very interested in joining the convo!
I've had a difficult time connecting with people my whole life. I feel like I can't relate to anyone around me - nobody seems to have the same interests as I do and I don't find the same things interesting and funny. My roommate cracks jokes all the time and I find myself feigning laughter, or I don't understand why they're jokes at all. I've been told I have no personality, no sense of humor. Whenever I have a conversation with someone around my age who's very outgoing I tend to zone out during conversation because I find a lot of the things they talk about to be meaningless and irrelevant. I used to get called on in class by teachers and was so nervous that I couldn't answer the simplest questions. I got a reputation of being slow, and nobody wanted to associate with me.
I don’t allow myself develop addictions to anything, physically harmful or not. I hardly watch TV so I don’t have a favorite TV show that I must watch every week, I don’t care or get hyped up about sports teams. I can’t stand reality television. Being in college I'm surrounded by people who enjoy watching sports on television (this causes my eyes to glaze over), being involved with every sport possible, bowling, texting, and going out partying over the weekends. I don't find any of these activities interesting in the slightest. I'd rather stay in my dorm all week doing quiet activities, like reading a book, drawing, or surfing online. My parents wonder why I'm not a normal college kid and why I'm not at all like my polar opposite chatterbox of a younger brother. The only friend I have is my roommate, and I still don't share every aspect of myself with her.
I feel so distant from other people. I'm happy that I am distant to avoid getting hurt, but paradoxically sometimes I want to be just like them and wish I knew how to fit in with other people. I don't think there's a person on this planet who really knows who I am.
I don’t allow myself develop addictions to anything, physically harmful or not. I hardly watch TV so I don’t have a favorite TV show that I must watch every week, I don’t care or get hyped up about sports teams. I can’t stand reality television. Being in college I'm surrounded by people who enjoy watching sports on television (this causes my eyes to glaze over), being involved with every sport possible, bowling, texting, and going out partying over the weekends. I don't find any of these activities interesting in the slightest. I'd rather stay in my dorm all week doing quiet activities, like reading a book, drawing, or surfing online. My parents wonder why I'm not a normal college kid and why I'm not at all like my polar opposite chatterbox of a younger brother. The only friend I have is my roommate, and I still don't share every aspect of myself with her.
I feel so distant from other people. I'm happy that I am distant to avoid getting hurt, but paradoxically sometimes I want to be just like them and wish I knew how to fit in with other people. I don't think there's a person on this planet who really knows who I am.
brokenfingers04
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I believe I can connect to people its just I really dont know what to say and how to say things most of the times. Its like I have trouble articulating myself. I know what I wanna say but it doesnt come out right or at all most of the time.
Bustn Justin
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I have difficulty connecting to others since I feel different from them and fear getting hurt.
Kiwong
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I get scared when I start to connect with people. Lately, I find that some people are reacting positively with me, which I kind of enjoy. Interacting positivley with people brings me some peace. But connecting with people is such a slippery slope.
My anxiety always rears its ugly head and wonders what it can to annoy these people and push them away. Spending time with people is really hard work and it leaves me really tired. It's like this huge minefield that I don't understand know how to cope with and it is definately easier to retreat and spend time on my own.
My anxiety is a selfish disease, and it doesn't leave much room for anything but my own thoughts.
Lately some people have even been smiling at me. And I look behind me to see if they are smiling at someone esle. Are they laughing at me? Maybe they are only being friendly, but it makes me uncomfortable. I'm still that invisible overweight soul of three years ago, before I started running. I'm still that adolescent that was bullied and ridiculed. I always will be. Are they checking me out? That's even more scary. I wouldn't have any idea how to respond to that.
My anxiety always rears its ugly head and wonders what it can to annoy these people and push them away. Spending time with people is really hard work and it leaves me really tired. It's like this huge minefield that I don't understand know how to cope with and it is definately easier to retreat and spend time on my own.
My anxiety is a selfish disease, and it doesn't leave much room for anything but my own thoughts.
Lately some people have even been smiling at me. And I look behind me to see if they are smiling at someone esle. Are they laughing at me? Maybe they are only being friendly, but it makes me uncomfortable. I'm still that invisible overweight soul of three years ago, before I started running. I'm still that adolescent that was bullied and ridiculed. I always will be. Are they checking me out? That's even more scary. I wouldn't have any idea how to respond to that.