Something I've heard a lot of people say is love doesn't make sense and that it is blind.
I think they meant it when they looked at a couple and couldn't figure out why they were together at all!! (I've met some of such couples lol.) /eg if one of them is generally considered very beautiful/sweet/great person and the other 'nothing special'/bad personality/or even 'jerk'... Usually, there was still some trait the other one greatly admired in the other one.. some of these relationships have been surprisingly long-lasting too../
I've got a big problem with this. If something doesn't make sense, then why would I want to be in it (love)? I know I probably sound stupid when I write this, but why should I be in love?
You don't have to ha ha.. We're all different.. If you don't want to be, don't.. There was a thread 'Why should I have a girlfriend?' have you read it? It was quite interesting too..
What is a g/f or spouse besides a great friend that you around a lot of the time and have sex with?
lol I guess you have not experienced 'true love' then?
Maybe you don't even believe in it? Well, some people do, and I've seen it happen for some people..
And I'm not homosexual, but why does this woman (in a guy's case) have more importance over his best male friend? From what I've seen, many guys bond better with men than women, and men are easier for guys like me to talk to.
Well, again, people are different... If best friends get significant others, it can be annoying.. I guess this is something that's maybe easiest to understand when/if it happens to you, when you meet somebody and fall in love.. I don't think 'happy couples' do it on purpose, they're usually just taken with each other, and live in some sort of 'bubble of love'.. and you're still a meaningful friend, though time for hanging out may be decreased.. I think it's good if both still respect friendships and have time apart, with friends, too..
The idea of love is that (if you are heterosexual) you are putting a person of the opposite sex above everyone else.
Well, that's the idea of some people... Some wives/husbands want to have their partner for them alone or may be jealous.. others are okay with it, if their partners have friends etc. It's not putting 'above all else' it's just about making a committment and staying with it.. If you two have children, it's only fair that both spend time with them and take care of them, it's not fair if either one of the couple sleeps around, leaving the other one home alone with the kids, no?
(unless it's a non-traditional marriage, and I've heard those may be difficult to pull off well & may not last long..)
Now, we know that about 96% of people get married at some time in their life.
I think the percentage may actually be smaller, did you research this? Or at least percentage of single people (including divorced & widowed & never married) is bigger!
So that means 96% of people made the decision that someone of the opposite sex was the most important person to them in the world. That seems impossible. Why can't this best friend be a male for guys? Why can't your best friend be above your wife?
Well, some people do it this way too.. And I think the gay movement would be happy to get another supporter
It sounds to me like all these people are bowing down to sex and making sex the reason they should get married. I admit I've felt this way before, I've felt that I better get a wife so I don't die alone. Well that is fear, not love. And I think fear is a powerful emotion, and many people (not all of course) are getting married because they are afraid of being alone and not having someone to have sex with.
People marry for all sorts of reasons, for some, it's fear or sex/lust indeed.. for others, it may be true love.. It's difficult to tell what is what from the outside, the people in question know it best... (if they do.. some mistake these things too..)
I've had marriage phobia for a while.. I think if it's with a right sort of guy it could be fun, otherwise it may not be worth it..
Just depends if you can find someone like that, or not..