This happens when i'm in a Social Situation.

[Falkor]

Hey,

I feel just so tired of being so anxious in social situations,
This is what happens exactly:

I dont know how to act, I dont know how to show a good attitude,
I get afraid of eye contact, I stutter, I shake, I feel uncomfortable,
And have a weird feeling on my chest/belly. Kind of cold scared feeling.
This feeling makes me so afraid, that I feel like never want to be in any social situation anymore. It makes me just so tired, I avoid everything.
And everyone tells me I'm not willing to anymore, that my motivation is gone.
But i just give that impression because I dont do it. But I do want to.
But not with this ****ed up anxiousness.

My life sucks ::

Does anybody know how I can train/help this get away.
I really want to feel and act better in social situations.

HELP! xxx

 

[Emily_G]

Ha, I sometimes have SA because I stutter, and you sometimes stutter because you have SA How cute.

I don't have any advice though My situation is kind of flipped than most people on here.

 

[TheIllusiveMan]

Forget social situations avoid as much as possible imo, but this is probably a bad method, avoiding fears instead of how everyone wants you to overcome them, but I say who needs people. Most people anyways.

 

[lef09012]

I don't have advice eitiher, but I have exact symptoms you have.

Xanax worked great, but it doesn't work as good as it used to be after taking it a year.
And it has sideeffect. So, I'm cutting it back now.

 

[recluse]

The only thing i find that works is by being a good listener and atleast pretend i am taking interest in what the person is saying.

On the whole i find people to be draining though.

 

[Dj SL]

Hey,

I feel just so tired of being so anxious in social situations,
This is what happens exactly:

I dont know how to act, I dont know how to show a good attitude,
I get afraid of eye contact, I stutter, I shake, I feel uncomfortable,
And have a weird feeling on my chest/belly. Kind of cold scared feeling.
This feeling makes me so afraid, that I feel like never want to be in any social situation anymore. It makes me just so tired, I avoid everything.
And everyone tells me I'm not willing to anymore, that my motivation is gone.
But i just give that impression because I dont do it. But I do want to.
But not with this ****ed up anxiousness.

My life sucks ::

Does anybody know how I can train/help this get away.
I really want to feel and act better in social situations.

HELP! xxx

Sorry to heard this. you posted this about a year ago. Did you overcome this?
Do you feel better?

 

[upndwn]

My SA was so bad that I would rather starve than go to the store to buy food. I locked myself inside, turned off my phone and rarely opened the door when someone came to visit. This went on for years. My dad finally managed to get me to see a shrink and from there a long and troubled road of rehabilitation started.

I have spent over half of my life trying to overcome my SA and depression. Only through years of therapy, medication and confronting my problems and fears, have I gotten any results. Although I'm not cured (and probably never will be), my SA has gotten a lot better. The biggest help for me was when I started working. I was literally tossed into a situation where I was forced to deal with people on a regular basis for several hours every day. At first it was hell, but it only took a couple of weeks before I got so used to it that it didn't bother me at all anymore. I could not have dealt with it if I hadn't used any medication or received any psychological treatment however.

 

[Paahi]

The only thing i find that works is by being a good listener and atleast pretend i am taking interest in what the person is saying.

On the whole i find people to be draining though.

^this.
..........

 

[cola junky]

saskia,
i totally understand you and know how you feel, i am like that when i meet new people to....a couple of weeks ago i went to a party with alot af new people and i was so freaking nervous and when i saw every one else but me having fun at that party it made me feel even worst....

IllusiveMan,
if we all could be loners then our life would be alot easier
but humans are social being by nature and i think whoever says otherwise just fools himself and now one could live and feel good without company....

 

[Bo592]

How I see thing like that is people don`t see talking as somthing that you need practice for, but it is . You got to thank what are people focusing on in there conversation this is what help me I had to rethank what people focus on and why. Because talking is about somthing if there nothing to talk about then there is no conversation. Not being nerous around people that I still struggle with that too. your a pretty girl and just by reading this thread I can tell your a really nice person too.

 

[Dj SL]

How I see thing like that is people don`t see talking as somthing that you need practice for, but it is . You got to thank what are people focusing on in there conversation this is what help me I had to rethank what people focus on and why. Because talking is about somthing if there nothing to talk about then there is no conversation. Not being nerous around people that I still struggle with that too. your a pretty girl and just by reading this thread I can tell your a really nice person too.

Most of social phobics can't focus on conversations because their minds go blank. This happens because the individuals experience intense anxiety during a conversation. They prefer to avoid social interactions, they become isolated and depressed. Medication is required. CBT is required. Will power is required. If there is nothing to talk about you can find a subject and start talking about it. That's how you practice and improve your social skills.