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Hey everyone, I rarely make threads but I've been thinking about something lately and thought I should share it.
I wanna discuss the importance of feeling valued when you're fighting SA. I feel like it's something that I've completely ignored and is the reason why I think I've hit a wall in my progression. Often I see people here talk about confidence. I, myself often thought that the reason why I feel depressed sometimes is because my confidence is low. However, I've made a search for threads on feeling valued and there were none. I find it weird, since I think it is much more important than confidence.
I think it is common knowledge among the members of this site that having a lover will not save you from your SA. Personally, I've always told myself that I will not have a girlfriend until I'm fully cured of my SA, but as I learn more, I realize that this might not be possible, because I will always lack that feeling of value through a woman's eyes. Seeing a woman smile because she sees me, or seeing her being happy because I'm there with her and being fully accepted by her, there's incredible value in that if you still have a heart and it's something that I think is important. Without it, I might never feel normal around other people if I haven't lived it once and if I can't feel normal around other people, then I can't beat SA.
It's important to not mix what I just wrote with the first sentence of the previous paragraph. What I'm doing here is simply asking the question: Do you think it is possible to beat SA when you've never felt valued through love, work, friendships, etc..? I think there's only so much you can do on your own. You can gather all the confidence that you want, but if you don't feel valued through a multitude of things, you cannot feel like you're an at equal level with other people and your spirit will always end up being brought down.
I wanna discuss the importance of feeling valued when you're fighting SA. I feel like it's something that I've completely ignored and is the reason why I think I've hit a wall in my progression. Often I see people here talk about confidence. I, myself often thought that the reason why I feel depressed sometimes is because my confidence is low. However, I've made a search for threads on feeling valued and there were none. I find it weird, since I think it is much more important than confidence.
I think it is common knowledge among the members of this site that having a lover will not save you from your SA. Personally, I've always told myself that I will not have a girlfriend until I'm fully cured of my SA, but as I learn more, I realize that this might not be possible, because I will always lack that feeling of value through a woman's eyes. Seeing a woman smile because she sees me, or seeing her being happy because I'm there with her and being fully accepted by her, there's incredible value in that if you still have a heart and it's something that I think is important. Without it, I might never feel normal around other people if I haven't lived it once and if I can't feel normal around other people, then I can't beat SA.
It's important to not mix what I just wrote with the first sentence of the previous paragraph. What I'm doing here is simply asking the question: Do you think it is possible to beat SA when you've never felt valued through love, work, friendships, etc..? I think there's only so much you can do on your own. You can gather all the confidence that you want, but if you don't feel valued through a multitude of things, you cannot feel like you're an at equal level with other people and your spirit will always end up being brought down.