Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
You are SO infinitely wrong about this.
Suicidal thoughts.
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You are SO infinitely wrong about this.
Just G
Well-known member
Brother, don't do it. It's incredibly selfish and it would put a great amount of stress, anxiety, and sadness on your family and loved ones.
You're young, and you have bucket loads of potential to do something great for yourself and society. You’re entitled to a happy and healthy life, just like everyone else.
It sounds like you're in a really bad state right now, and I can understand what you're going through. I think everyone here at one point in time has considered suicide or has thought about doing something similar.
About 2-3 years ago, I became severely depressed over my lack of friends, family, looks, social skills, you name it. I felt inadequate in every aspect of life that you could imagine. Most of the reoccurring thoughts in my head at the time consisted of “ah, I’m never going to be happy, this is never going to happen for me, etc.” These thoughts really weighed me down because of the tremendous power I was attributing them. The power became so immense that it drove me into thinking about suicide. I thought about it and I felt like I wanted to do it, but down deep inside, I realized that I didn’t have the guts to pull through.
Upon further evaluating the situation, I came to the decision that I was the reason for my misery. I was the only one stopping myself from living life.
Out of all the things that I mentioned above, the only thing I couldn’t change in theory was my family. However, while I couldn’t choose them, I could choose how I loved them. If I wanted friends, then I could put myself out there more. If I wanted to enhance my looks, then I could so NATURALLY through proper grooming and style as well as exercise. If I wanted to improve my social skills, then I could insert myself into situations that required them.
And it’s no different for you. You can change too.
And that’s it, right there – all along, you’ve avoided taking the first step.
The first step over that cliff.
No matter how many steps you’ve taken, the first step will always taunt and play with your emotions.
Does it go away? No. Does it get any better? No. Is there any consolation? No.
No, no, and no. God, I hate that word, but the repetition is needed to further my point.
The only thing that remains is your willingness to accept your fear and let it better you.
Uncertainty is what makes up life. You’ve avoided living.
Your ego must take a backseat to your endeavors. You have to be willing to **** up in order to grow and develop as a person. It’s the only way to build confidence.
When you no longer avoid living and accept your mistakes, you’ll change.
But, you don’t change into the person you want to be, you’ll change into a more solid, confident you.
You’ll become a consistent person, a personality that does not waver, regardless of who is in your presence.
You can’t learn to drive a car, unless you actually drive the car. I couldn’t read on how to physically drive a car and be able to do it; I had to actually drive.
The same thing applies for honing your social skills. You must put yourself out there and physically socialize with people so that your BODY learns to handle it. As your BODY learns, then so will your MIND.
It requires action, not deliberation on your part.
You can sit around all day, saying to yourself
“I suck at…”
“I’m ugly because…”
“I’m not good enough…”
“When will I ever…”
“Why doesn’t this happen?”
But how do these statements serve you, other than making you’ve even more miserable?
This is not to say that you shouldn’t think, but rather, I’m suggesting that you only think about something that empowers you to make positive and progressive change. This type of thinking can lend to action, whereas negative thinking only leads you to stranding yourself up in your room to sulk.
It has been your thinking that has gotten you into this shape. It has worn away your confidence.
Your thoughts in reality are untrue. Your thoughts have validated them into being true.
There are no set rules for beauty, just as there are no set rules for what makes a superior race. Sure, society presents that as the case, but in all reality, it’s not true. Beauty is subjective, and diversity is important to the growth and development of the world.
In the end, it’s all about your attitude. That’s how people will become attracted to you.
You carry resentment, jealousy, and envy for your friend because is doing better than you. You see the world as a competition, where some men win and others lose. This way of thinking is harmful and creates an inferiority complex the more you think these thoughts.
Try seeing things from a win-win perspective. Instead of competing with him, be friends with him, pick his brain – really take the time to learn from him. Confess your issues and ask for help. As Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues.”
Be humble, be gracious, but don’t be whiney. I assure you that you’ll attract the right kind of people by doing this.
And dude, look at what you’ve accomplished. You’ve already said that you’ve gone out and communicated with women, pursued acting, got into filmmaking, essentially doing stuff that you couldn’t have done before and what many of us have yet to do. That tells me that YOU ARE capable of change, and that you CAN do it.
Just go after what you envision bringing happiness into your life and don’t let anyone or anything stop you along the way.
Brother, sometimes you have to tear yourself down before you can build yourself back up. You have to remind yourself that there will be better days ahead and that you will get through this.
Latino, you’re bound for the stars, not under dirt.
I hope this helps.
You're young, and you have bucket loads of potential to do something great for yourself and society. You’re entitled to a happy and healthy life, just like everyone else.
It sounds like you're in a really bad state right now, and I can understand what you're going through. I think everyone here at one point in time has considered suicide or has thought about doing something similar.
About 2-3 years ago, I became severely depressed over my lack of friends, family, looks, social skills, you name it. I felt inadequate in every aspect of life that you could imagine. Most of the reoccurring thoughts in my head at the time consisted of “ah, I’m never going to be happy, this is never going to happen for me, etc.” These thoughts really weighed me down because of the tremendous power I was attributing them. The power became so immense that it drove me into thinking about suicide. I thought about it and I felt like I wanted to do it, but down deep inside, I realized that I didn’t have the guts to pull through.
Upon further evaluating the situation, I came to the decision that I was the reason for my misery. I was the only one stopping myself from living life.
Out of all the things that I mentioned above, the only thing I couldn’t change in theory was my family. However, while I couldn’t choose them, I could choose how I loved them. If I wanted friends, then I could put myself out there more. If I wanted to enhance my looks, then I could so NATURALLY through proper grooming and style as well as exercise. If I wanted to improve my social skills, then I could insert myself into situations that required them.
And it’s no different for you. You can change too.
And that’s it, right there – all along, you’ve avoided taking the first step.
The first step over that cliff.
No matter how many steps you’ve taken, the first step will always taunt and play with your emotions.
Does it go away? No. Does it get any better? No. Is there any consolation? No.
No, no, and no. God, I hate that word, but the repetition is needed to further my point.
The only thing that remains is your willingness to accept your fear and let it better you.
Uncertainty is what makes up life. You’ve avoided living.
Your ego must take a backseat to your endeavors. You have to be willing to **** up in order to grow and develop as a person. It’s the only way to build confidence.
When you no longer avoid living and accept your mistakes, you’ll change.
But, you don’t change into the person you want to be, you’ll change into a more solid, confident you.
You’ll become a consistent person, a personality that does not waver, regardless of who is in your presence.
You can’t learn to drive a car, unless you actually drive the car. I couldn’t read on how to physically drive a car and be able to do it; I had to actually drive.
The same thing applies for honing your social skills. You must put yourself out there and physically socialize with people so that your BODY learns to handle it. As your BODY learns, then so will your MIND.
It requires action, not deliberation on your part.
You can sit around all day, saying to yourself
“I suck at…”
“I’m ugly because…”
“I’m not good enough…”
“When will I ever…”
“Why doesn’t this happen?”
But how do these statements serve you, other than making you’ve even more miserable?
This is not to say that you shouldn’t think, but rather, I’m suggesting that you only think about something that empowers you to make positive and progressive change. This type of thinking can lend to action, whereas negative thinking only leads you to stranding yourself up in your room to sulk.
It has been your thinking that has gotten you into this shape. It has worn away your confidence.
Your thoughts in reality are untrue. Your thoughts have validated them into being true.
There are no set rules for beauty, just as there are no set rules for what makes a superior race. Sure, society presents that as the case, but in all reality, it’s not true. Beauty is subjective, and diversity is important to the growth and development of the world.
In the end, it’s all about your attitude. That’s how people will become attracted to you.
You carry resentment, jealousy, and envy for your friend because is doing better than you. You see the world as a competition, where some men win and others lose. This way of thinking is harmful and creates an inferiority complex the more you think these thoughts.
Try seeing things from a win-win perspective. Instead of competing with him, be friends with him, pick his brain – really take the time to learn from him. Confess your issues and ask for help. As Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues.”
Be humble, be gracious, but don’t be whiney. I assure you that you’ll attract the right kind of people by doing this.
And dude, look at what you’ve accomplished. You’ve already said that you’ve gone out and communicated with women, pursued acting, got into filmmaking, essentially doing stuff that you couldn’t have done before and what many of us have yet to do. That tells me that YOU ARE capable of change, and that you CAN do it.
Just go after what you envision bringing happiness into your life and don’t let anyone or anything stop you along the way.
Brother, sometimes you have to tear yourself down before you can build yourself back up. You have to remind yourself that there will be better days ahead and that you will get through this.
Latino, you’re bound for the stars, not under dirt.
I hope this helps.
JamesSmith
Well-known member
Hmm, maybe I'm just the only loser to have this happen to me all my life. I guess it's just me. Thanks for confirming that I'm the only guy that women never notice.
ripewithdecay
Well-known member
Wow Just G, that was a really good motivational speech! Want to be my therapist? lol
Just G
Well-known member
Sure, but it will cost ya. I don't come cheap.
Nah, any time someone needs my help or advice, I'm glad to lend my services.
StupidWiz
Well-known member
I used to have suicidal thoughts too, being a gay in a religious community, having a religion that despises your very existence. It was really enticing to just suicide and end the pain...
But I know, if I ended my life, I'd miss all the things that life can offer, and I don't want that. Besides, your family's going to be sad about it. So please don't do it, we all have our own ****s to deal in our lives, don't compare your weaknesses to other's strengths. That's just not fair. Compare your friend's strength with yours, and if he's still better, he can't be better in everything. There must be something good that you have that he doesn't have. You just haven't discovered it yet. Or he may have some weaknesses that you fail to see, nobody's perfect, right? =)
But I know, if I ended my life, I'd miss all the things that life can offer, and I don't want that. Besides, your family's going to be sad about it. So please don't do it, we all have our own ****s to deal in our lives, don't compare your weaknesses to other's strengths. That's just not fair. Compare your friend's strength with yours, and if he's still better, he can't be better in everything. There must be something good that you have that he doesn't have. You just haven't discovered it yet. Or he may have some weaknesses that you fail to see, nobody's perfect, right? =)
scoobycrawler
Well-known member
I think I have died already sometimes and am still here isn't that stupid? Don't do yourself in someone loves you and if at least 1 person loves you then you really have too much to loose. You are no more a coward than me so stop worring so much about things geez spanish I got freckles and ginger HAIR :0 No way are you complaining about that. I don't think its that your ugly even though I have no picture of you it's probably inner conflict. Oh yea you know women are much more desperate then men you just gotta stay in the game and not do yourslef in, be patient.
JamesSmith
Well-known member
Yeah, he probably has something better than his friend, but whatever it is, it doesn't matter. He already said his friend has tons of friends, is great with the ladies, is financially successful, and has superior social skills. These are the most important things in life to have, and his friend has them. Anything the OP has that his friend doesn't is meaningless compared to what his friend has. By no means is this a reason to commit suicide, but I totally understand how the OP feels. So many people are superior to us because they have these qualities his friend has, and people like me and the OP don't have these qualities. It's the truth and it's very depressing.