Staring (from others)

[NightTimeForever]

So, I was at work tonight and this one girl walked in front of me and turned around and stared at me for a solid 3-5 seconds as she was walking. I heard blalant staring is bad, is it? I'm sure it depends on the circumstance.

With this SA thing, I always assume any kind of attention towards me is bad or patronizing.

 

[spherr]

I hate when people stare at me! I work in the dining hall. Every shift, its almost a guarantee that food will run out. As I'm waiting for the food to come out, the students stare at me all the time. It makes me so uncomfortable that I go hiding in the back.

 

[dottie]

i hate people who stare. it's so rude and invasive.

 

[NightTimeForever]

But the intent behind that particular stare is what concerns me

 

[Videotape]

H A T E starers.

 

[kuze]

I cant stand staring also, i wish i could be anonymous sometimes/

 

[siren_0_0]

But the intent behind that particular stare is what concerns me

What if she was staring at you because she thinks you're a hottie? How would you feel then?

 

[chris87]

I actually think that someone staring at you can be a good thing.

 

[dottie]

I cant stand staring also, i wish i could be anonymous sometimes/

one of my coping mechanisms throughout the years is to kind of convince myself that i am invisible. this all goes to hell when someone starts staring or engages interaction with me. instantly the anxiety goes +++++through the roof. it would be great to be invisible.

But the intent behind that particular stare is what concerns me

totally! that's why it's so rude! who knows what she was thinking! did she have a certain look on her face? was she walking with someone? we could analyze the situation but we will never know what she was thinking unless you ask, which i personally would not have the balls to do!

 

[NightTimeForever]

But the intent behind that particular stare is what concerns me

What if she was staring at you because she thinks you're a hottie? How would you feel then?

Like Mr Big Stuff I guess , but it would be hard to prove that she was staring because of that...

And dottie, no she was by herself. And she was kinda smiling, so I don't know if that was good or bad.

 

[siren_0_0]

Either way, since you can't prove it and there's nothing else you can do about it, just think positively and believe that was it was good thing.

 

[NightTimeForever]

Well, I could test the theory but I would have to talk to her, and... you know the rest

 

[toothpastekisses]

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[ben12]

you can never know what people are thinking, dont let it piss u off.