Some things on my mind. :/

[Falkor]

Hello there,
I have to write some things down, so I can share.
Um, so I decided to have a short-hair cut, and I also like wearing men's clothes.
It means, that I get a lot of comments lately, bad comments, cuz I look a lot like a guy, and people think it's weird. but I don't mind having longer hair, and wear a pony tail, since I look good with it , and I feel happy with it People can see i'm a girl. So they stop making those comments. But... I just cannot help it that I'm a tomboy. I love the men's department, I love men shirts, their just so much better and more comfortable. I love the graphic's of a men's shirt, just the whole image. I don't like those flowered muumuu's , i don't like heels at all and i hate make up, and especially lipstick. I'm the girl type that is like a skatergirl, casual, men street wearing clothes. I notice if I put this all together with short hair, people keep making nasty comments.

In the past I got bullied because I used to be like, which I am now, even more masculine. People beated me up, and I dressed up to be liked and loved. People told me, ''oh you're so pretty! You are getting girly! You're so beautiful girl!!'' Everyone was so suprised and happily, and I know that from my youth i always hated it when my mom wanted to do my hair or wanted to dress me up in a dress. I was super angry and I also have an old school photo that I erased the dress/long shirt with white stuff and my face is still clear on the photo. and I also erased the bullies on the picture. lol.

So that is a long long story, and so my goal is, growing my hair (pony tail able) and gain some fat so I'll become more round. (i'm very skinny).
This would stop the comments and I don't mind it. Long hair suits me.

But I keep on wearing these clothes,of course ocassionaly some feminine shirts, but i don't like skirts.

My mom tells me , I wish you wear make up, it would be so much better.

Everyone still has the ''dress up girl I transformed into, with a mask'' in their head, they actually do know who i am, but they don't wanna see it. they prefer the other image.

I just never want to get those comments anymore..

I never wanna be seen like the girly type, I'm not like that. I'm just another type of girl. The world is screwed, it's bad to be like one of the guys.
I'm like the ''Elissa Steamer'' type of girl, the one of Tony hawk games, you know? the girl who wears skate clothing and just nike's and loves to skate. she's the most professional skate woman in the world.


It's a hard time for me since I'm so insecure, and if I wasn't i wouldn't even give a damn, but I still do.

 

[Falkor]

Thanks Twiggle, you have a great point of view on this forum.
It's just so sad that people make comments all the time.. I hope i can find an attitude to make people see I don't care. so they won't say it

 

[CosmicNeurotica]

I like all of your looks Sassy. Dress how you want and do what you want.
You're a beautiful person and a beautiful singer.
You are who you are. **** people if they don't like your image (physical or otherwise).
As long as you're happy, that's all that matters.
As someone recently told me, "do what pleases you, and forget the conscience that wants other people to think a certain way about you."
That's all I gotta say.

 

[Phoenixx]

I can basically relate to most of what you're saying. I've been a major tomboy most of my life, and a part of me really enjoys it. But, within the past year I've been trying to be more girly, just because my tastes are changing a bit and I want to try some of these "girly" things. Also, I think I'm doing it just to stop the comments of, "Oh you should wear this." or "You should wear make-up, you'd look gorgeous." My mom is one who's really bad with those comments. She's always wanted me to be girly and "cute," but I honestly don't want to completely be that way. Sure, it'd be nice to try those things, but I definitely wouldn't conform to them completely.

Another thing that I could never understand is why is it so black and white? It seems to me most people see it as girls should wear skirts/dresses, lots of jewelry, makeup, heels, always carry around a purse or something, etc. etc. And if you don't dress that way, then it seems people view you as a guy, or close to being like one. Why can't you enjoy both interests? I know I do. I like wearing a little makeup, and I love wearing heels (and I can walk in them pretty good too. ), but I also love playing video games, watching sports (especially football and hockey), and just being friends with guys.

Sorry I'm rambling, but I guess what I'm trying to say is if you want to change, do it for you and you only. Don't care about what others say. I know that's hard, because I'm really guilty of that too. :X

 

[Kathryn.fr]

Express yourself however you feel you look gorgeous either way xD

 

[MollyBeGood]

Ugh...I know this sounds very cookie-cutter advice but it's so correct to say-"wear what you like and feel comfortable in". Clothes and fashion imo is the most over-rated bs anyways. Clothes are ment to primarily protect your skin from the elements and everything else is just mass market crap.
I am a tomboy, I hate like hell worrying about getting dirty. It's a waste of time and I like to be doing the things that get me dirty and I don't want to fuss about my clothes. I do like to look sexy cuz it makes me feel good though.
I think you should wear what you like hun. It's your body and that is the truth. As far as your hair, same thing goes. You will find your "style" and then you will not worry so much. The freedom of that short hair would be great to have-I can't never imagine myself doing anything shorter than shoulder length. I hide behind my hair. I can't even pull it back in a pony b/c of it's security blanket effect on me. LoL
Take Care now.

 

[coyote]

i have always thought "tomboys" were hot

besides, it's more fun being with a woman who is comfortable enough with her appearance that she doesn't spend too much time fussing over it

 

[Feathers]

Well, I think you actually look way better than Elissa Steamer...!! (I googled her up )

It's up to you how you dress and what type of clothes you wanna wear... Clothes don't define you...
I wore some 'tomboy' clothes and had some 'tomboy' haircuts (mum's co-worker could only do boys' haircuts when we were little) and then I wore some girlie clothes, and now have long hair, but it may be short(er) again, and I choose clothes according to how I feel and what colors I want to wear etc.
When I was a teen I didn't want to wear a dress/skirt either, lol - Now I loove wearing them...
So whatever you do or are or wear, it may change in time... (or not, and that is up to you again)

In 1990's men's shirts were all the rage too, and it's 1990's revival lol.. fashions change over time... so you preferences may change too...

You are MUCH MORE than just your 'style' or your clothes... (Even if it may not feel like that when you're a teen/early 20's, I still remember some of that time when 'style' was soo important!!) Later in life you will learn that other things define a person much more than clothes...

It is important to be YOU!! not trying to imitate someone else or be someone else...

Tell your mum make-up isn't healthy and isn't eco!! Tell her Feathers says so!! (Okay, maybe not mention the name cause it may sound kinda 'kookie', tell her you read it on internet/heard from an internet friend!)

The skin also stays much more 'youthful' and good-looking without make-up and such... (Though your mum looks very youthful too, but some people 'ruined' their skin with too much makeup...)

There are some nasty chemicals in some make-up, some even cause cancer or other health problems, so if she or you use make-up, do your research... (to avoid problematic ones) There are lists online, it's difficult to be 100% sure though...

Are you talking about people in the street making comments, or family/relatives or friends/classmates? I guess it depends who makes comments as to how to react or prevent it (if at all)... When I had super-short hair my dad almost 'disowned' me, but my aunt and mum liked the hairdo... And the hair grew back anyway, and I later had it short again lol...

Do you skate too?