Social networking sites scare me

[recluse]

I've joined a new social networking site and i have already made about 10 contacts (they contacted me first) and i feel so bloody weird...Everyone seems to be outgoing and they ask me what i've been doing on the weekend. I just don't feel that i am at the same level as these people and feel that i have nothing in common. I think i better stick to other social phobic people from now on.

 

[Richey]

I think you need to look at how sincere and or fake these people are bieng in their descriptions, photos of people in nightclubs flaunting around and posing to the camera, there is nothing wrong with it but you get people bragging about how often they go drinking, what does it mean? it means jack shit in the long run ...i could care less about that ...thats all apart of the scenery ...

if i have something in common with another person and we enjoy each others time together, the rest is peripheral, so its never a competition of popularity for me ..

so try and respect yourself for who you are and dont judge yourself on the basis of how much you drink or whether you go to clubs all the time or if your interesting enough..

wehn i was 18, 19 i frequented bars and its nothing special ..

find what makes you tick, not what you want others to think of you and just roll with it, focus on your individual interests and then you can discuss them with people on those networking sites. . ..

 

[blonderedhead]

awww but agreed! I feel so strange talking to socially competent people. I have nothing to talk about and I feel like I'm just way too damn depressing. But 10 people contacted you so far! Thats really good! They must of found you interesting in someway or another. And everyone is only human so theres always something to have in common. I don't think its good to just stick with Social phobics (I do the same thing) but I think its another way of isolating ourselves.

 

[recluse]

awww but agreed! I feel so strange talking to socially competent people. I have nothing to talk about and I feel like I'm just way too damn depressing. But 10 people contacted you so far! Thats really good! They must of found you interesting in someway or another. And everyone is only human so theres always something to have in common. I don't think its good to just stick with Social phobics (I do the same thing) but I think its another way of isolating ourselves.

Well i just think that they want a lot of friend on their contacts just to appear popular, i don't think there's anything special about me.

 

[aj]

I've thought that since I first heard of MySpace. On Facebook, I have nine friends. I have met six of them in real life. Well one of them has four hundred and fifty one friends. Do you think she talks to and sees all of them regularly? Nothing against her but obviously she puts everyone she meets on there. They're like trading cards.

 

[slicenrice]

what sites did you join, if you don't mind my inquiry?

 

[Seabreeze]

've joined a new social networking site and i have already made about 10 contacts (they contacted me first) and i feel so bloody weird...Everyone seems to be outgoing and they ask me what i've been doing on the weekend. I just don't feel that i am at the same level as these people and feel that i have nothing in common. I think i better stick to other social phobic people from now on.

Like somebody else said it depends on how genuine the sites are. I had a personal profile on myspace but didn't add much friends. I also found because I was invited by a friend (who does not know about my social anxiety) I did not say anything about my anxiety on my profile so always felt I had not been upfront and did not feel confident adding friend requests etc. I ended up just making my profile private and don't bother with it anymore.

However lately I was directed to www.socialanxietyfriends.com which is a breath of freshair for people like us. Don't forget there are all different levels of anxiety. Mine I am fine one to one and I like writing or corresponding with people online or by letter. Meeting people one to one is fine too but I feel out of my dept and very anxious in group situations where I don't feel comfortable.

 

[toothpastekisses]

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[noblame4]

I dont like them, either. I get nervous replying to messages, and even posting in forums. I keep picturing the other person reading what i wrote and thinking, "What the?! This person's a freak/weirdo/asshole!" even though I know they can't POSSIBLY know what i'm like from a few little scentances. :roll:

 

[autumn_82]

Well, I finally joined Facebook about a year or so ago, and I like it because it's let me find friends from long ago (before I became so paralyzed by SA), which is really cool. But I also have some anxiety about it, because I only have 11 people on there, as opposed to most others I know who have about 200 "friends." I liked someone's comment that friends on these sites are just like trading cards.
Every time I've invited someone I kind of hold my breath, waiting for them to not accept my invitation. But so far so good. Have any of you gotten rejected from making an invitation?
The way people reveal their lives and their personalities is pretty scary for me. I'd be scared to put pictures up or talk about myself, simply for fear of being laughed at or ridiculed.