Social Anxiety + Facebook

[aNOTfox]

What are peoples opinions on facebook here?

I must admit I don't have facebook due to my social anxiety.

I think the main reason is that I find it depressing to read how amazingly awesome everyone elses life is, compared to my own hermit lifestyle xD

However I relised that the only reason peoples lives seem amazing is because they choose what they want people to see, leave out all the boring bits, and only put the dramatic or interesting stuff on so peoples lives seem jam packed. (apart from those that feel the need to post pictures of what they had to eat for breakfast every day xD)
Its sort of similar to the celebrity world, its all kinda fantasy in a weird way, you only see what the media want you to see/hear. So everyones turned into a sort of mini-celebrity?

Opinions?

 

[takeheart]

Well I personally don't have facebook but I used to though back in 2009 but I deleted it. But my brother has it and I sometimes go on it to see what’s up with his friends and all I see is people with good lives. Really kind of depresses me since my life sucks! Nevertheless OP, you said people on facebook put only the interesting stuff and leave the boring bits. You are kind of right but looking at some people's profiles you can clearly see that these people are living good life even though they may leave some boring bits to show. There still have a life nevertheless. See what I mean...

 

[MNM322]

I use facebook but it depresse me greatly for the reasons you listed OP. I just have it cuz everyone else does and out of boredem

 

[JackOfSpades]

I have some social profiles on other sites, but there's something about Facebook's massive, ubiquitous nature that doesn't sit right with me. So I avoid it.

 

[laure15]

I think the main reason is that I find it depressing to read how amazingly awesome everyone elses life is, compared to my own hermit lifestyle xD

However I relised that the only reason peoples lives seem amazing is because they choose what they want people to see, leave out all the boring bits, and only put the dramatic or interesting stuff on so peoples lives seem jam packed. (apart from those that feel the need to post pictures of what they had to eat for breakfast every day xD)

You make a good point. A lot of people use fb to market themselves to future employers so of course, they would only post good stuff on their fb page. I'm not active on fb because I don't want to be cyberbullied and I also don't want to feel depressed everytime I see one of my friends post a uber-happy picture of themselves posing with gadgets in Japan.

 

[chibiXphantom]

i have a facebook mainly for a way to contact people. id delete it, but its the only way i can contact some people

most of my friends on there just complain about their lives, post stupid song lyrics, or post pictures they found on the internet.
none of them post about their "awesome, fun lives" or how much they party or whatever. in fact i hardly hear anyone saying anything positive. usually just everyone saying how much they hate their lives

 

[neohorizon]

Funny to see this Thread TODAY!

I have a facebook profile for more than 5 months, but i only added my college friends and some relatives. (only friends that i met after school)

All this time and i didnt put a profile picture of myself, than this week i decided to take a picture and post it! OMG, IT WAS FREAKIN HARD! i took 100 pictures with my cell and didnt like any!

After some really bad time struggling to get over my fear (i even cried), i took courage and strength and finally uploaded it! It was horrible! Everybody saw my picture there! But, now i'm better... its me, its how i look, i must live with it!

Now its another struggle, add my friends from school! see how they are today, the parties they went, the trips to europe, the pictures with girls...
I'll feel so much envy

 

[truffleshuffle]

I have facebook but I rarly use it. For me its weird I don;t like posting on it and I feel when I am looking around someone elses face book I am invading there privacy.

 

[Dreamscape]

I have facebook. I don't use very often but check regularly because i don't have anything usefull to post. but fb seems the only way to "stay tuned" with people i happen to know. and; ahhhhh all the freagin posts flowing through!! force me to update myself with their lives and stuff. it's kinda frustrating to see people living their lives but somehow i feel like im connecting with them somehow it's kinda weird feeling.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

I don't know why people just don't change the setting of their newsfeed so they don't get the notifications that bothers them for whatever reason.