So who here feels like an outcast

[KiaKaha]

And yes those kinds of people that show that support deserve a medal; they probably put way too much on their shoulders.

Well...lets not get carried away here... just jokes. What I respect most is the awareness and intuition that some people have. Its not necessarily about the actual help, its more about... the inclusivity - the gesture, the meaning behind the words - that is what I admire.

I've always felt like and outcast, and the few times I didn't it was just a temporary feeling, usually due to someone taking advantage of me.

I really don't know how to connect with people, and there are some people out there who I really like, but no matter how hard I try to build a friendship between us it just doesn't work.

Mr Jones you should give yourself a lot more credit than you do. I dont think you really realize just how much of a positive influence you have... but I know its easier said than done. I have similar beliefs and feelings.

I do think there is complicated dynamic between the whys and hows of how people bond and relate to each other and why some seem to relate to certain people more than others I also think its very fragile... I am quite friendly, but I become very shy if the other person is shy, because I see it as them not being interested. One thing I need to remeber is that I am not the only one who feels shy... people might be shy around me for exactly the same reason why I feel shy around them.

Aghh.

 

[dreamcatcher]

Yeah, I've felt like an outcast for most of my life. It's strange because people think I'm friendly and they tell me I'm nice. But somehow, I can never move past that because I'm always so reluctant to share about myself. I've gotten into the habit of centering the conversation around the other person so I can share as little as possible. This makes people think I'm a good listener when the reality is I'm just afraid of them getting to know the real me :/

 

[new account]

I never socialize or even try. I know that not everyone is going to get along so I don't care most of the time, but if you have no friends at all, then it starts to bother you. I haven't seen any new people in a long time, so I am starting to forget about the anxiety that I used to get. It will probably return. What if you look bad? No one has said that to me in a long time, but they used to for many years, so that made be feel even more uncomfortable.

 

[Kat]

It probably sounds a bit dramatic this quote but I have been watching Conan the Barbarian the older version.

"Sometimes you have to take life by the throat and demand that it gives you what you want!" So true.

 

[ROBOTS]

All my life. But looking through this thread, it gives me comfort knowing that I'm not alone in feeling like this ::

 

[OceanMist]

I just don't see how someone can tell me I'm not an outcast. I really appreciate your sympathy but it is a definite fact that I'm an outcast. I'm not just sort of an outcast, I'm one of those giant outcasts.

I haven't hung out with friends in years and even when I did, I always the outcast of the group. I was always the outcast of the party, too.

Whether I'm being negative or not doesn't make it not true.

I wish life was rainbows and balloons but unfortunately it's not when someone has SAD. I am different, there is no disputing that.

 

[IcedEarth25]

I'm an outcast, I stick out like a sore thumb on bad days, some days i'm alive and other days people look at me either as if im a zombie or they're looking and a non existant being.
Plus Social events trigger the who SA problems again so yea I can safely say I'm an outcast.

 

[totoro]

Sometimes. At work, I'm not really a part of 'the group'. Whilst I'll go along to meals and the occasional social outing, it feels like I'm on the outside looking in.

There are people there that have been working there for a fraction of the time I have, yet they slot in nicely with others.

I can see that part of it is my approach to dealing with others; my social skills are lacking. The other part of it is my own self-esteem (which is fairly low).

I'm like that too. I just don't "click" with people easily

It's tough ::

 

[coyote]

any casting out i may have encountered has been of my own doing

to quote Marx: "I don't care to belong to a club that accepts people like me as members."

 

[ChrisN]

I don't feel like an outcast, I feel like someone who can still have it all but I need to stop making mistakes.

 

[Aletheia]

I get called names often

Oh Kiwong.

::

 

[Aletheia]

One thing I need to remeber is that I am not the only one who feels shy... people might be shy around me for exactly the same reason why I feel shy around them.

This.

.....

 

[Aletheia]

This makes people think I'm a good listener when the reality is I'm just afraid of them getting to know the real me

Oh God this.

 

[Griffin]

Yeah, I've felt like an outcast for most of my life. It's strange because people think I'm friendly and they tell me I'm nice. But somehow, I can never move past that because I'm always so reluctant to share about myself. I've gotten into the habit of centering the conversation around the other person so I can share as little as possible.

+1

Yes, I can identify with this. I only put forward details about me to certain people, and even then, it's only when they ask.

It's only around my closest friends that I feel comfortable talking about anything. For everyone else, I tend to make something up or shift the conversation away from me.

 

[Shyangel]

I'm definitely an outcast and always feel like one. People have never excepted me and just seem to choose to mock me instead. It makes me feel bad about myself.

Thanks for the call out, Kiwi.

 

[KiaKaha]

I'm definitely an outcast and always feel like one. People have never excepted me and just seem to choose to mock me instead. It makes me feel bad about myself.

Thanks for the call out, Kiwi.

Um sorry - I dont mean to make anyone feel bad about themselves - this is thread is merely a reflection of my own feelings of inadequacy, confusion and self reflection.

You know its such as shame that we all cant behave in the real world as we do online - its so easy to feel isolated and alone. - Just imagine how supported we would feel if there were just as many people offline to encourage us and feel accepeted as there were online.

I have always felt it should be the opposite.... but I guess you have more to lose in the real world.

You shouldnt feel bad about yourself... nobody should. Its usually the kindest and most thoughtful people who get trampled on....and that sucks.

 

[Shyangel]

Um sorry - I dont mean to make anyone feel bad about themselves - this is thread is merely a reflection of my own feelings of inadequacy, confusion and self reflection.

You know its such as shame that we all cant behave in the real world as we do online - its so easy to feel isolated and alone. - Just imagine how supported we would feel if there were just as many people offline to encourage us and feel accepeted as there were online.

I have always felt it should be the opposite.... but I guess you have more to lose in the real world.

You shouldnt feel bad about yourself... nobody should. Its usually the kindest and most thoughtful people who get trampled on....and that sucks.

Oh, don't feel bad. It's not your fault. I was just merely speaking of my feelings.

That would be a perfect world. I think we all might find a place were we feel comfortable and accepted one day.

 

[Iluv]

Yeah I'm an outcast. I used to feel like I fit in for awhile but as everything, I ruin things.

 

[bsammy]

um yeah ive always been an outcast, always will bethr truth is im eccentric and when you factor in the avoidant and issues with depression, forget about it.i will never be part of society..it would take a miracle and i dont believe in miracles..

 

[Bustn Justin]

I feel that people don't really care about me even if they say they do. I have been an outcast when I was in high school and that mentality stuck ever since.