small talk

cowboyup

cowboyup

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Sometimes I don't feel the need to engage in small talk...I mean I will do the basics of course, but sometimes I just don't know what to say OTHER than the basic stuff.

One person asked me, "are you mad" "why are you quiet" "are you depressed"
those kinds of questions...so I replied, "I'm fine, sometimes I just don't feel like talking if I don't have anything to say" (significant at least)

I have always been an observer and some people I suppose don't really get it, IDK.

The point is, someone I was talking to (yes TALKING - in my class) suggested that perhaps I am not engaged ..... I guess they meant not engaged in the conversation, life, I am not quite sure but I had not thought of it like that.

Maybe it would be good for me to make more of an effort to try and make more small talk, oh wait, I'll have to google how to do that...:sarcastic:

What do you think?
 
Lamb

Lamb

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Wow you sound like me! I tell people I'm an observer all the time *hoots*. It seems to bother them. I wouldn't really know since I don't get past the small talk often.

Also, maybe you should ask this person what they meant. I'd be curious enough to want to know.
 
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IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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I really hate small talk too. I think it's because I always feel like I have nothing interesting to say. I always feel like it's my responsibilty to make small talk if the other person and I are just sitting there staring at each other. If I don't I feel like it makes me the weird one and not them... That's why I like the quote of my new signature.
 
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gummybear22

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no need for fluff in conversations. get to the real meat. fluff is for stuffed animals :3
and now i'm hungry for meat...bacon? :p
 
cowboyup

cowboyup

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IntheLabyrinth said:
I really hate small talk too. I think it's because I always feel like I have nothing interesting to say. I always feel like it's my responsibilty to make small talk if the other person and I are just sitting there staring at each other. If I don't I feel like it makes me the weird one and not them... That's why I like the quote of my new signature.
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and your new signature is exactly what sums it up for me - how i feel....good one :)
 
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karl

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cowboyup said:
Sometimes I don't feel the need to engage in small talk...I mean I will do the basics of course, but sometimes I just don't know what to say OTHER than the basic stuff.

One person asked me, "are you mad" "why are you quiet" "are you depressed"
those kinds of questions...so I replied, "I'm fine, sometimes I just don't feel like talking if I don't have anything to say"
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Same here :/
 
PGT

PGT

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I hate talking to strangers. I hate it when I am on the bus or train and just looking out the window minding my own business when the person next to me starts talking. I never want to offend them by not talking back but always end up feeling stressed and anxious, I just want to be left alone.
 
Geo

Geo

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I don't talk much when people are talking me. If it's someone I don't at all, I have this habit of looking away after responding to them and this gives them the impression I don't want to talk. Lots of people assume I'm weak and boring because of this.
 
kilojoule

kilojoule

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People love talking a load of sh.ite I really need to go to the hairdressers but Im dreading all the sh.ite talk
 
coyote

coyote

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fortunately, i have an endless stream of things to talk about, courtesy of Attention Deficit Disorder - have you seen the latest nudibranchs?
 
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jaim38

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I don't mind having a few small talks here and there. As long as people keep it short. Because I often run out of things to say, or I end up saying something that throws people off. Plus I pause a lot so that makes it more awkward.

Lamb said:
What would happen if two listeners had a conversation, I wonder..
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This happened to me several times. My friend is also a listener so when I spoke with her, the conversation was filled with lots of pauses (not the awkward ones, but the more comfortable ones). We struggled for words to say to each other, but other than that, it was great.
 
cocorose

cocorose

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I hate it, I really don't see the point.. it just seems so stupid. Talking about pointless things, when I'm in that situation I just want to leave, it's so awkward and uncomfortable. I can see being polite but if two people really have nothing better to talk about than pointless sh*t, then just don't bother talking to me.
 
coyote

coyote

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the topic of small talk is unimportant - the point of it is the connection between people

97% of interpersonal human communication in non-verbal

the small talk itself is just a vehicle for two people to interact and exchange gestures, glances, body language, posture, voice inflection, mannerisms, smell, touch, etc. that indicate to one another what they think of each other and/or what each other's relative position is in the social hierarchy

dogs and cats sniff each other's butts

we talk

that's all small talk is - human butt sniffing
 
mikebird

mikebird

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wee should just get into some hollywood stardom. It's easy. All you have to do is smile yourself right out of your soul and light up the fathoms of deep space, and doing some net-work-ing

ex-cell-lent in-ter-purr-sun-aisling
 
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