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small talk

Started by cowboyup · Feb 6, 2013 · 30 replies

#21 Report
coyote said: ↑
dogs and cats sniff each other's butts

we talk

that's all small talk is - human butt sniffing

I never thought of it like that, lol
#22 Report
mikebird said: ↑
smile yourself right out of your soul and light up the fathoms of deep space

that. is. awesome.

p.s. i'm stealin that for my sig!
#23 Report
coyote said: ↑
the topic of small talk is unimportant - the point of it is the connection between people

97% of interpersonal human communication in non-verbal

the small talk itself is just a vehicle for two people to interact and exchange gestures, glances, body language, posture, voice inflection, mannerisms, smell, touch, etc. that indicate to one another what they think of each other and/or what each other's relative position is in the social hierarchy

dogs and cats sniff each other's butts

we talk

that's all small talk is - human butt sniffing


That's a very interesting thought, and I think you're right. I am going to try to remember that the next time I feel like my small talk is boring.
#25 Report
coyote said: ↑
the topic of small talk is unimportant - the point of it is the connection between people

97% of interpersonal human communication in non-verbal

the small talk itself is just a vehicle for two people to interact and exchange gestures, glances, body language, posture, voice inflection, mannerisms, smell, touch, etc. that indicate to one another what they think of each other and/or what each other's relative position is in the social hierarchy

This is terrible for me. My body language does not reflect how I really feel. It just gives people the wrong impression. It's more a reflection of my crazy neurotransmitters.
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ImNotMyIllness said: ↑
This is terrible for me. My body language does not reflect how I really feel. It just gives people the wrong impression. It's more a reflection of my crazy neurotransmitters.

a good reason to practice then

so that you can become more comfortable and better at it :thumbup:
#27 Report
rebirthnow said: ↑
This is my attempt at doing small talk.

I found approaching is less difficult than starting/carrying conversation

that's awesome, man :thumbup:
#28 Report
coyote said: ↑
a good reason to practice then

so that you can become more comfortable and better at it :thumbup:

It doesn't make a difference. (believe it or not) I've been in extremely social situations for years, where there was nothing but small talk. In my case, it's more of a neuro-chemical thing.
#29 Report
There's nothing wrong with you, you're perfectly engaged, I think it was rude of that person to say that.
#30 Report
I'm bad at this too. But i'm getting better, I just learned not to take the lead, and let the other person take control.

although... sometimes it's easier to make small talk with people who are shyer than i am. i dont know why
#31 Report
I've tried so hard to shoot the breeze but I always miss. I habitually go for weightier targets.

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