Single..

[anomicdeer]

I don't mind being single.
I kind of want a boyfriend right now, but then again I don't.
Sometimes I do want someone here with me... and to spend time with.
But... who?

 

[anomicdeer]

I like the idea of being in love but I don't know if it is real or if it will arise from desperation. Not that I have had many offers but you wonder if you like a person just because they like you and vice versa.

Am I capable of feeling for someone the way I expect them to feel for me?

That's what I think was going on with my last (second boyfriend) relationship. I don't think I ever really liked him. I just tried to have a life and be happy.

 

[Bama_Heath]

i dont attract genuine people i always get slimes
my mother says to me

chloe you need to get yourself a fella

im like yeah i KNOWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

From your pic it is obvious that you are a very pretty young woman so yeah guys are going to be attracted to you. I guess my question would be where are you hanging about that the 'slimes' are the only ones attracted to you?? A person's social haunts have a lot to do with which people they come in contact with. What type of person are you looking for? Genuine is a good description to start with but what are your interests and where can you hang out to meet those type of guys? Those would be could questions to think about.

 

[talisman]

I'm content being single. I'd much rather have a friends with benefits arrangement, but shy girls don't seem to be interested in that and the more outgoing ones who are would expect a guy to have more experience than I do, so I'm just stuck in a rut.

I'd much rather have friendships than a relationship. I've had so few friends throughout my life, so just being part of a group yet also having freedom to do things is what really matters to me.

Wish I could fine people who want that too. ::

 

[illuminationSP]

I want a relationship.

 

[Illusions]

Do you mind been single, i hate it.
I get offers but there always from the wrong people !!

*laughs bitterly* Yes, the wrong ones; either not right for me or just plain odd. Oh well, I'm not in a hurry, I'll just go with the flow.

 

[userremoved]

I feel pressured to be in a relationship. Family is always asking me if I've met that special someone. When I tell them no, they start telling me what I need to do to fix myself. When I turn on the TV all I see is stuff about romance and dating. Yeah I think it would be nice to be in a relationship but since Ive been single for so long it wont kill me to stay this way. It's just the little problem of people acting like there's something seriously wrong with me just because I don't have a girlfriend.

 

[Krista]

I feel pressured to be in a relationship. Family is always asking me if I've met that special someone. When I tell them no, they start telling me what I need to do to fix myself. When I turn on the TV all I see is stuff about romance and dating. Yeah I think it would be nice to be in a relationship but since Ive been single for so long it wont kill me to stay this way. It's just the little problem of people acting like there's something seriously wrong with me just because I don't have a girlfriend.

Agreed! I've not had a boyfriend for awhile and that suits me because I'd rather be alone then be with the wrong person or out and about with guys because it's the social norm. Family and friends constantly asking why I don't have anyone, going as far as asking if maybe I'm a lesbian. Well even if I was I'd still be looking for the right woman. It doesn't kill me to be alone.

 

[lurknomore]

I like the idea of being in love but I don't know if it is real or if it will arise from desperation. Not that I have had many offers but you wonder if you like a person just because they like you and vice versa.

Am I capable of feeling for someone the way I expect them to feel for me?

I feel the same way. I think in my first relationship I convinced myself I liked him as much as he liked me, and we even got married.

I think at the time, I felt like no one "better" would probably come along that liked me too, plus I was severely depressed, so I just got carried along with him, later realizing that I didn't even like him, much less love him. And it being my first experience, I didn't know exactly how it should feel, and I thought that how I felt (good, but not great) was how I was "supposed" to feel. I'm worried that that might happen in any relationship I try to get into... I question my own judgment and decisions.

When I left my ex four years ago, I was perfectly happy being single, but loneliness has started really kicking in, especially since I don't really have any friends (besides online). I don't want to be in any relationship out of desperation, but pretty much no one shows interest in me (that I'm able to tell).

 

[iamthenra]

I hate being single. I would sell my soul and all my worldly possessions to be with someone who loves me, besides my dog of course... Don't get me wrong, my dog is great, but I actually get tired of washing my face of all her drool... )

I also have tried dating sites, actually too many dating sites to list. The only dating site that worked for me was eHarmony. I met several nice ladies through that site, but things didn't work out logistically speaking. I feel as though I have been cursed, and it doesn't matter what I do or say, until this curse is lifted I will remain a single virgin till the day I die.

I too have never had any offers, which of course leads me to believe I am just a large pile of dung to most ladies I guess... I am not worthy enough to even be a friend. Just feeling lonely, unloved, and unwanted right now... sorry.

 

[SickCycleCarousel]

I don't like being single, but I deal with it. I'm afraid of males. =\

 

[Redskinsfan]

Do you mind been single, i hate it.
I get offers but there always from the wrong people !!

Must be nice to get offers. Wish I had that problem. When you're a guy you have to work harder. And then, maybe you're judging some of these guys that give you offers too quickly.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Hah I don't get offers... I find those who do lucky.
It's difficult.. I don't think I could handle a relationship, not until I can 'love myself'. I would constantly compare myself, and i'm not comfortable being intimate.. not even gushy words are comfortable for me.

Chlo, you're going to find somebody eventually. You seem like a genuine person, and wanting to be liked for your personality is a POSITIVE trait! I don't know any (mature) guys who like a girl who wants to be liked for their appearance, although physical attraction is just an attraction to good health usually (until we get into fake breasts and stuff.. not sure what that unusual attraction is). Anyways, you'll find somebody genuine, it's just a matter of trusting that you will, and you'll just give off that vibe.

 

[Danfalc]

I don't like being single.But at the same time I think I need to work on getting better before I can be a decent partner for someone.I wouldn't turn away love if it found me though,relationships can be hard work to keep going especially if you have issues like ours.

But life really is just that more special when you have someone to share it with.

 

[overcome.]

I'd actually very much like to be with somebody who I'd be compatible with, like if we shared a really deep bond. I'd want something long term, not like casual dating.

 

[the blue star]

At least you get offers. I'm an involuntary single.

 

[market.garden]

If I was lucky enough to get offers, I'm not even sure how I'd react anymore. I think I'd start obsessing over things immediately, like "Oh crap...How the hell am I gonna deal with this?!"

And after being on my own for so long I think it would be such a huge shock to the system.

 

[Danfalc]

And after being on my own for so long I think it would be such a huge shock to the system.

Yeah and I think with us having so much self doubt for so long it can be so hard to feel good enough for people.But I think maybe the right person will make it feel right.

 

[market.garden]

Yeah and I think with us having so much self doubt for so long it can be so hard to feel good enough for people.But I think maybe the right person will make it feel right.

Yeah, I think if I was with someone who made me feel comfortable with being myself, it'd be easier to maintain a relationship, but without that, the idea just seems exhausting.

Like you said, relationships can be hard work, and issues like we have on here just add to that equation.

 

[Fighter86]

I'm single, and to be honest, there are worse things that being single, like say you like someone and they know it and like you back and then their friends start making a big hooha and then its like everyone knows and you don't have the requisite social skills to deal with it. Happened to me once, and I highly suspect its happening to me again now at my current work place, I seriously have to quit this job soon. It sounds crazy I know, but I feel so suffocated, I don't know what the hell am I suppose to do, so yes, there are worse things in life than being single in my opinion.