Sex drive already gone at 19?

[Social_Monstrosity]

I'm hoping this thread won't be too explicit but I've had an issue for a few months that I fear might be rooted from my SAD. Again, sorry if this is explicit.

Okay so I cannot get aroused without myself "intervening" physically. Like lets say the girl of my dreams is in front of me in a bikini...I more than likely wouldn't be turned-on (In fact, I'd probably run away from her >_> )

I know this isn't ED because I can still get fully aroused, but ONLY if I touch myself...it's just I've realized that I have far fewer sexual fantasies than I used to and my libido just seems completely DEAD.

Could SAD be causing this? :/

 

[GoBlue72]

Hmmmm. Interesting, for lack of a better word. Really good question, SM. First of all, do you have any health issues or medications that would affect it? Let me say that I've been on antidepressants for half of my life(I'm twice your age or so). For the most part, I dont' get "worked up" too easily anymore. I've noticed even when I've gone to strip bars and the like, there isn't always a reaction. However, when I was dating a girl and even just holding her hand, I would notice a "change". I think it's a combination of various factors: lower libido, psychological issues, medication, alcohol(or lack of), and stimulation(visual, tactile, etc).

 

[Aussie_Lad]

I don't believe it is too abnormal for men, even young men, to not get "excited" until the actual act itself. This is just a sign of a maturing sexual system. I wouldn't worry about it unless it dramatically affects your sex life.

 

[mictsekk]

watching a lot of porn can desensitize you

 

[thor01]

watching a lot of porn can desensitize you

Yes, Ive been thinking about this idea recently. Which is why I'm trying to stop for a while. Ive sort of had an on and off drive for a few years, and I think it may be to do with watching and masterbating at the same time too much for too long. I believe that given a break, the drive can return to as high as it ever was. I can tell it is getting there for me, since after a week of stopping Ive felt the urge more.

 

[da_illest101]

Yes, Ive been thinking about this idea recently. Which is why I'm trying to stop for a while. Ive sort of had an on and off drive for a few years, and I think it may be to do with watching and masterbating at the same time too much for too long. I believe that given a break, the drive can return to as high as it ever was. I can tell it is getting there for me, since after a week of stopping Ive felt the urge more.

how old are you and how did you stop? I'm 23 and I can't, i have been trying my best for years to no success

 

[Mokkat]

how old are you and how did you stop? I'm 23 and I can't, i have been trying my best for years to no success

This is pseudo advice :

Start browsing 4chan.org/b all the time. If you get the urge, there are lots of pics of mostly natural girls (pics of "real" people are much less desensitizing on the imagination than silly plastic pornstar videos), and if you don't want to satisfy that urge, there is a ton of weird, creepy and funny **** to help you forget about it

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Anti-depressants and numerous other meds can have that effect. Both depression and anxiety can directly affect your sex drive, too.

 

[thor01]

how old are you and how did you stop? I'm 23 and I can't, i have been trying my best for years to no success

20, nearly 21. Yes as to weather it is the right advice or not I don't know haha. Its just something I'm attempting to try. For how long, who knows. But I do know that if I do really feel the need to watch again sometime in future, I aim to ONLY watch, and keep anything else seperate.
And yes it is hard when you've been used to watching for so many years, to stop. Weather stopping fully for ever, or a long time is necessary like some say, I really don't know. I'm just going to see how it goes.

And yes I'm sure anxiety and or depression has lowered it for me at times. Because with anxiety, anxiety itslef (in my case) or whatever youre worried about is much bigger on your mind.

 

[danstelter]

It's definitely the porno that's causing the problem. Years of usage can leave you feeling exactly that way that you are. Porn is a very deep-rooted problem that is very difficult to shake. There is a solution, and if you are interested, it's probably better to PM me to talk further. In any case, hope you get better.

 

[coyote]

sex drive for both men and women can't be measured in a straight line

it goes up and down (so to speak)

it can be an indication of your overall physiological well-being

or you could be in a perfectly natural and temporary "low period"