Gina_Marie
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Does anyone else here struggle with self-harm (cutting) ?:crying:
Self-Harm Urges
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dannyboy65
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I used to hurt myself but recently i've been getting deeper in it to the urge of nearly killing myself I was already in a hospital for help and see 3 psychologists
MikeyC
Well-known member
I don't, but it appears that you do. Self-harming has crossed my mind from time to time, and I have used scissors to cut my hand purposely years ago, but that was the only time.
From what I've read/heard, the pain from cutting yourself is like a release of emotion, and the pain and the blood can be comforting in a morbid kind of way. I can understand why that would be the case - the literal escape of bad feelings - but it has disastrous consequences if not treated. Scarring, mental and physical, and stopping can be difficult, especially when you're not feeling happy and you need that "release."
If you're cutting yourself, Gina_Marie, please see someone about it. Don't feel like you're alone in this, because you're not. There's a lot of people that self-harm for whatever reason, so seek help before it becomes a torrential problem.
vj288
not actually Fiona Apple
Sometimes when you're frustrated with yourself, how you act or think or feel, you don't know what else to do get yourself to stop or change. It can sometimes be a silent scream, and other times a message to yourself. It's almost always a symptom of a bigger underlying problem that needs to be addressed. If it gets to the point of cutting or some other form of self-harm, it's probably gotten to the point that it feels like there's no other way to deal with it, like a Hail Mary pass, just throwing it and wishing somehow it will fix whatever is wrong and making it better.
I don't think it makes things better. Recognizing that there are other avenues you can take, and that in the long run hurting yourself will do more harm than good in the long run is most important. It can be dangerous in practice, but it's even more dangerous in opening your mind to solutions that involve harming yourself. It's like a gateway drug, and leads to more deadly thoughts (suicide).
Find those other avenues, and take them.They do exist, and they are open to you. Don't focus on what doesn't work, what doesn't help, but instead look at things from a different point of view. Easier said then done, but most things are.
I don't think it makes things better. Recognizing that there are other avenues you can take, and that in the long run hurting yourself will do more harm than good in the long run is most important. It can be dangerous in practice, but it's even more dangerous in opening your mind to solutions that involve harming yourself. It's like a gateway drug, and leads to more deadly thoughts (suicide).
Find those other avenues, and take them.They do exist, and they are open to you. Don't focus on what doesn't work, what doesn't help, but instead look at things from a different point of view. Easier said then done, but most things are.
Lou-s-Darkness
Well-known member
Yes, I do. I used to do it very often a few years back, until I cut too deep and had to get it stitched. It feels good when you need to release emotions, but when you are really upset and angry and at a painful low then the result is you going too far and either killing yourself or doing what I did- which is stabbing yourself open...I didn't hit any major arteries, but the sight was somewhat terrifying. I do it occasionally when I can't stand life and people and well, the feeling I get when I cut is just too good to explain, but it's bad doing it!! ugh. If you've recently started then I suggest you stop. I have learned through time to let out my emotions through different outlets, such as art, music, an even sports.
SilentBird
Well-known member
I used to cut myself many years ago. I did it because that is what I believed and thought I deserved. You are better than this.
Lea
Banned
I could never understand it either..
Flanscho
Well-known member
I just distracted myself, with books and computer games, when I was younger.
I don't really get the self-harm thing either. I mean, the scars will remain there for the rest of your life. That might sound dramatic and important or something now, but will you still think so when you are 10, 20, 30 years older? Imagine being happy and fine again, but whenever it's summer you have to decide: wear long sleeved shirts, or show everyone that you are mentally unstable. Same with swimming halls, or when getting intimate with someone, or whatever. It's like tattooing "mentally unstable person" on your forehead.
I don't really get the self-harm thing either. I mean, the scars will remain there for the rest of your life. That might sound dramatic and important or something now, but will you still think so when you are 10, 20, 30 years older? Imagine being happy and fine again, but whenever it's summer you have to decide: wear long sleeved shirts, or show everyone that you are mentally unstable. Same with swimming halls, or when getting intimate with someone, or whatever. It's like tattooing "mentally unstable person" on your forehead.
mikebird
Banned
Big obsessive actions as a kid, which are still with me, because I spent all my early days, and now... all by myself nose-picking led to disastrous nosebleeds.
I did get into 8 pints of blood lost, needing transfusion. Hard to find a A/B type match. Also a lot of donated platelets in a yellowy bag, taking day to prepare from separate donations, as a treatment, to make my blood clot properly. Honestly. Holding the nose leads to most of the red ending in the stomach, which seems good to others. That leads to horrific spewing as the tummy rejects it - it's like eating raw beef. 100 miles driven by parents to specialist hospital before calling any ambulance because A&E / ER wouldn't understand my special bleeding condition
Now, I do have a good reason to laugh!! :applause:
I do remember when I was 10 in a Children's Leukaemia ward, where nurses & docs would come to my bedside, holding ice packs on my nose for hours, taking cardboard kidney dishes away full of blood. I was fascinated how the stuff would coagulate and form odd shapes! Stalactites more Stalagmites... as liquid drips... They pressed my tummy to see if it hurt. I said 'yes!'. As centre of attention, trying to smile and be happy. I do remember being upright in that bed, and suddenly throwing up really hard, past the end of the bed, coating the floor, walls and windows in lumps of blood, over & again, when vomiting...
As a kid, I still react to ripping off fingernails as they grow. No teeth or tools ever used. Other hand's fingernails. Looks bad, as I'm still alone and don't care what I look like in my own room.
I think a lack of fingernails is why I can't fasten my top button before going to interview
I did get into 8 pints of blood lost, needing transfusion. Hard to find a A/B type match. Also a lot of donated platelets in a yellowy bag, taking day to prepare from separate donations, as a treatment, to make my blood clot properly. Honestly. Holding the nose leads to most of the red ending in the stomach, which seems good to others. That leads to horrific spewing as the tummy rejects it - it's like eating raw beef. 100 miles driven by parents to specialist hospital before calling any ambulance because A&E / ER wouldn't understand my special bleeding condition
Now, I do have a good reason to laugh!! :applause:
I do remember when I was 10 in a Children's Leukaemia ward, where nurses & docs would come to my bedside, holding ice packs on my nose for hours, taking cardboard kidney dishes away full of blood. I was fascinated how the stuff would coagulate and form odd shapes! Stalactites more Stalagmites... as liquid drips... They pressed my tummy to see if it hurt. I said 'yes!'. As centre of attention, trying to smile and be happy. I do remember being upright in that bed, and suddenly throwing up really hard, past the end of the bed, coating the floor, walls and windows in lumps of blood, over & again, when vomiting...
As a kid, I still react to ripping off fingernails as they grow. No teeth or tools ever used. Other hand's fingernails. Looks bad, as I'm still alone and don't care what I look like in my own room.
I think a lack of fingernails is why I can't fasten my top button before going to interview
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