Self Acceptance

[zlench]

I find it's easier to accept you for yourself than instead of being somebody that your not.

 

[iamthenra]

Nope, I honestly hate myself... Yeah, I said HATE!

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[NormanBates]

I do accept myself and my circumstances on a regular basis. I make the best of all the solitude I have and enjoy my bouts of extroversion when it arises. Once in a while I have an epiphany and life is great for a while. I enjoy my good days and my bad. (in a complicated kind of way) SOMEONE HELP ME !!!

 

[PennyLane]

Nope, I honestly hate myself... Yeah, I said HATE!

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Me too!

my life is actually ok, all the problems stem from the way i feel about myself.

Also your steve carell avatar was really friendly before...now im just scared of you haha

 

[sorrow1]

true self acceptance is hard to reach but i believe it is the only true road to real contentment.

I used to hate myself because i was always comparing myself to others, i always used to listen to other peoples critisisms and accept them unquestioningly. over the years ive looked deep within myself and thought about what qualties i truely value from other people and tried to hold onto them.

i used to be impressed and drawn to people who were the so-called cool people, those who oose confidence and tick all the right boxes that society deems normal. The sort of people who would gain a following by putting down and belittleing everyone around them. I used to want to be like them so i could fit in and my anxiety started to grow because i was not like them and I would be put down all the time. I believed something was wrong with me.

Then i began to realise that what i really truely value in people is kindness, acceptance and loyalty. not humour, confidence or financial/academic success.

well im not a particularly funny person, nor that confident and im not very succesful (dropped out of uni) but i think of myself normally as a kind person and someone who accepts other people for all their differences and so i like to think of myself as a good person.

accepting myself has made me much happier but not in the way i expected. Im probably less social than ever before. I have less friends than ever in my life but im much happier. Now if someone doesnt like me i can accept that, so long as i did nothing wrong to make them dislike me, where as before i would always make an effort to change my personality so that they would accept me.

Now ive come to really appreciate the people who have stuck by me over the years and really value their friendship. Im much happier being in a small crowd of people who are apart from mainstream society, but that i can trust rather than feeling like an outsider in a larger society.

If this means that for a large part of my life im alone then so be it.

 

[PennyLane]

I used to hate myself because i was always comparing myself to others, i always used to listen to other peoples critisisms and accept them unquestioningly. over the years ive looked deep within myself and thought about what qualties i truely value from other people and tried to hold onto them.

i used to be impressed and drawn to people who were the so-called cool people, those who oose confidence and tick all the right boxes that society deems normal. The sort of people who would gain a following by putting down and belittleing everyone around them. I used to want to be like them so i could fit in and my anxiety started to grow because i was not like them and I would be put down all the time. I believed something was wrong with me.

Then i began to realise that what i really truely value in people is kindness, acceptance and loyalty. not humour, confidence or financial/academic success.

Hye im really glad that you've found confidence in accepting who you are

I tried thinking about in the same terms...ie maybe i value the worng things, but the problem is the thing i value in people is true frienldiness...you know those who are open and make others at ease. Also happy smiley people...i love that...confidence would be nice...but as long as i was able to be friendly, helpful and be someone people could talk to/turn to that would be enough. Unfortunately because i get so nervous..im not these things so Im not quite ready to accept being grumpy old me who doesn't talk to people even when she wants to.

I think if i accept it...i'll stop trying to change it and I want to change instead of accept!

 

[klytus]

How important is self-acceptance in a social setting? Is it not much more significant how others accept you? -- After all, you can accept yourself all you want, if others won't, your situation will only marginally improve. And you can sustain a healthy amount of self-acceptance only for so long as it's not destroyed by repeated rejection.

 

[SnowWolf]

How important is self-acceptance in a social setting? Is it not much more significant how others accept you? -- After all, you can accept yourself all you want, if others won't, your situation will only marginally improve. And you can sustain a healthy amount of self-acceptance only for so long as it's not destroyed by repeated rejection.

I don't really think people can if you don't yourself. Or even you fake confidence and they do I don't know how you could know for sure without thinking "if I don't accept myself, how could they?".

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

How important is self-acceptance in a social setting? Is it not much more significant how others accept you? -- After all, you can accept yourself all you want, if others won't, your situation will only marginally improve. And you can sustain a healthy amount of self-acceptance only for so long as it's not destroyed by repeated rejection.

Perseverance, my friend. Challenges and rejection will not stop once one truly accepts oneself, but self-acceptance will certainly be something to fall back on.

 

[Reiji Moritsugu]

Nope, I honestly hate myself... Yeah, I said HATE!

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I hate myself too >.> my life could be a lot better but also a lot worse...
I am the root of all and every problem, adding to that the fact that I have
not accomplished anything even remotely worthwhile and yay ! recipe for success !!

By the way, that´s a nice new avatar you have

See you around

 

[neko]

What I tell myself is even if I have SA, there are many things and people I wouldn't have met and things I wouldn't have experianced. There is good and bad things about it. Plus it made me who I am today, personality and morals. Maybe I would be a snobby bitch if I didn't have it. Who knows?

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

What I tell myself is even if I have SA, there are many things and people I wouldn't have met and things I wouldn't have experianced. There is good and bad things about it. Plus it made me who I am today, personality and morals. Maybe I would be a snobby bitch if I didn't have it. Who knows?

I feel the same. I still want to overcome my anxiety but keep my morals and basic personality because there is nothing wrong with me. I don't think I'm a bad person because of my anxiety.

 

[PennyLane]

I feel the same. I still want to overcome my anxiety but keep my morals and basic personality because there is nothing wrong with me. I don't think I'm a bad person because of my anxiety.

I wish i thought this...unfortunately i think my SA comes from not liking myself ::