Scared...

[miss_amy]

Peur, I think it's turned in to a generalised topic as others have commented about underage relationships.

I see you have had second thoughts about the whole thing and I really respect you for that.

 

[Waybuloo]

People do realise that the OP stated that he does not want to have sexual encounters with the girl right? His happiness comes from being accepted into society as symbolised by the girl. Somebody showered him with attention. He was more elated by the emotional bonding that is invovled with socialisation rather than anything seedy.

Of Mice and Men springs to mind.

Also at age 12 and 13 I never approached guys, lest older guys, to suck their arms and flirt with them. None of the other girls did that either. So anybody who does that is abnormally sexualised in my books, so sexualised that if something did happen between them it wouldn't be paedophilia. Paedophilia is really attraction to prepubescent features. Watching infant porn is different to watching a poor actress of 17 years of age with big bosoms and hips yes? The law makes an arbitrary boundary when people mature at different rates, physically and emotionally.

Since when does the law equal justice and safety? Does it make much sense that in the US having sex with a 17 year old is criminal when having sex with a 16 year old is legal in the UK?

 

[miss_amy]

So if a child has no parent guidance and hasn't been taught boundries and guidelines for appropriate behaviour it's ok to take advantage of that and abuse them?

 

[Waybuloo]

It's not fair to place that blame on a fellow victim. That child needs her parents to tell her what is right and wrong if indeed she doesn't know boundaries, or doesn't like boundaries.

 

[Remus]

An over sexualised 12 year old is probably a bad sign of something serious happening previously in her life.

 

[panicsurvivor]

A 9 year old girl with a 40 year old guy? seriously, PM me his name and address

Yeah me too. Although I don't think me and Remus have the same intent. He better hope Remus finds him first.
That is disgusting and if I witnessed that I WOULD NOT TRY TO RESTRAIN MYSELF AT ALL.
That is nothing like the confusing situation the OP finds themselves in. That is evil. Period.

 

[Conspiracy]

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAH. o.o
Ok......All I can say is that she's 12 and might be kidding around. The age difference doesn't matter as long as she's making you feel happy. Don't jump too fast into this, like I said she's 12 and wont be able to figure out her life. So best thing to do imo is to just enjoy her company and treat her like that special person. Be careful tho =x

 

[Duraldo]

All I can say is I've had the thoughts....everytime my neighbors bring their 14 year old jailbait sisters over. Part of me wants to rationalize it, by saying "well when I was 15, all the girls my age were dating 20 year olds, so thus I'm getting what's due". But usually I try to put that out my head, or just remove myself from the situation. Then I remind myself my baby sister is those girls age, and I would immediately kick the guy's ass if he were my age trying to hit on her. Believe me, you do not want to get in a situation where her family is after you. Because when they find out...and they will....they're coming for your ass. (this isn't from experience, just happened to someone I knew). Just be very careful....and clear.

 

[doesit]

Unless with one bad action or attention towards the child you want to make your life living hell,stay clear away from someone that age,no matter whats ur condition or if you don't have any friends its plain wrong having such close friendship,especially since you are adult age,so cop on before someone else sees it.