I am scared of saying hi to people, even people I somewhat know. I think I am scared of the rejection or humiliation if that person doesn’t say hi back, also I don’t like brining attention to myself and it seems that’s exactly what you do when you say hi to someone. I have no problem talking to people or even starting conversations if the timing is right, but yet I am so scared to say a simple hi, I just look down or think they are too busy or wouldn’t notice me if I said hi to them. I find it kind of embarrassing saying hi to people, I don’t know why. I spoke to this one guy last week after class, we had a little conversation. The next day I didn’t even notice him or bother to look for him as I walked in the class to say hi. I look down or at any available seats when I walk in a classroom anyways, I don’t look at people. But I am thinking how every time I go all the way to the back of the room to sit, I pass him and I never make eye contact with him, I could nod or something I suppose.
This “saying hi” thing has always been an issue with me, even in jobs I had, but I have to say it is a bit easier at work but I still have that anxiety. But school…forget about it, it seems too personal to say hi to someone I don’t even know. I go to a community college and the kids mostly socialize with people they already know, they aren’t that friendly with strangers, I kind of hate that about my school.
Maybe it’s a psychological thing, like I unconsciously think I am not worthy or “cool” enough to be acknowledged, like I automatically assume the worst, or I think that by saying hi I am somehow swallowing my pride.
Does anyone else have this problem?
This “saying hi” thing has always been an issue with me, even in jobs I had, but I have to say it is a bit easier at work but I still have that anxiety. But school…forget about it, it seems too personal to say hi to someone I don’t even know. I go to a community college and the kids mostly socialize with people they already know, they aren’t that friendly with strangers, I kind of hate that about my school.
Maybe it’s a psychological thing, like I unconsciously think I am not worthy or “cool” enough to be acknowledged, like I automatically assume the worst, or I think that by saying hi I am somehow swallowing my pride.
Does anyone else have this problem?