Regrets...

[Beatrice]

What are some of your major regrets? Or perhaps the one thing you regret the most? How did you/do you deal with it? What, if any, positive results came about because of it?

As for me, my one biggest regret right now is losing my virginity to someone I thought I loved but realized I didn't, and came to realize he wasn't my type at all and want nothing to do with him and feel disgusted..... it's been bringing me down lately.

That's mine, but I want to hear yours.....

 

[eternalnewb]

My biggest regret is pushing a perfectly wonderful guy away because I was so afraid of messing things up. He is the only guy I have ever met that really liked me for me, even though I would get scared he would always wait for me to come back around until I ended things in the summer.

How do I deal with this?
ummm I don't know if I have really dealt with it all that well. I still hate that I was such a coward, I think I will always really regret what I did.

There was one positive result, afterwards when I was feeling really bad I found this site. I am so grateful to all the members of socialphobiaworld, because even though I don't post on here a lot, reading through the posts helps me feel a little less alone in the world.

 

[MichKat0]

Agh, I regret even having crushes in the first place, it's one of the reasons why I'm all the time getting caught up in arguments.

 

[LonelyWonders]

My biggest regret is loosing somebody that I truthfully loved. Still do, but she doesn't give a crap about me anymore..

How do I deal with it? Uhm, I just try not to think about it. I avoid the subject and ignore my feelings. Reading that back thats probably not a good way to deal with it huh..

 

[Falkor]

My Biggest Regret is taking an overdoze while being in mental hospital, I was tired of feeling so observed about everything and being the center of attention and aware of my fears. But they stopped with my meds and gave me fake pills, to see me suffering, so they could give a good diagnose, i was shocked!
But I won't take an overdoze again, I was just feeling sick of everything, because I needed to kick of the meds , and it was a rough time, because I was in the middle of my ''Most difficult SA period of time'' no wonder that I was in mental hospital, because I wanted to deal with it, but when I got there I was feeling like so afraid, but I had one goal, these people could give me a diagnose, and effective treatment and therapy, finally I have good help now.

 

[Beatrice]

Thanks for sharing, everyone. Regrets suck. I don't know about you all, but I go round and round thinking about mine. I'll feel better about mine for a while, by convincing myself of certain things, or just ignoring my feelings, and then the remorse and anxiety surrounding it will come back and haunt me, sometimes full-force and I don't know what to do....

 

[Phoenixx]

The one thing I've been regretting lately is something that happened a few years ago, pretty pathetic actually. One of my guy friends started having a huge crush on me. He flirted with me and everything, and I liked him back. He eventually asked me out, but I declined. Why? Because I'm an idiot. I was scared. I was afraid if something happened, then we wouldn't be friends anymore. I go to a pretty small school, so everyone basically knows everyone else, which brings me to my next fear. I was afraid of what everyone would think and say, whether they would tease me for going out with the guy. It sounds so stupid now, and I'm still kicking myself for it. It would've been my first boyfriend, and now I still haven't experienced that.

 

[Liam17]

Smoking and other things.

I regret still being alive sometimes, that always gets to me.

I regret, being who i am and i need to change.

 

[Beatrice]

The one thing I've been regretting lately is something that happened a few years ago, pretty pathetic actually. One of my guy friends started having a huge crush on me. He flirted with me and everything, and I liked him back. He eventually asked me out, but I declined. Why? Because I'm an idiot. I was scared. I was afraid if something happened, then we wouldn't be friends anymore. I go to a pretty small school, so everyone basically knows everyone else, which brings me to my next fear. I was afraid of what everyone would think and say, whether they would tease me for going out with the guy. It sounds so stupid now, and I'm still kicking myself for it. It would've been my first boyfriend, and now I still haven't experienced that.

Oh, I know how THAT is....

 

[Beatrice]

And I know how that is, Liam. I feel the same, more often than not lately.

 

[EscapeArtist]

Oof I don't think it is all that productive to look back on regrets. But now that I've thought about it it's better to write it down somewhere anywhoo

Biggest regrets would have to be pushing away all those friends and best-friends. I've pushed away 2/3 of the really good best friends that I've had. Of course they move on with their lives and I'm in this house, on this flat line of apathy. But, if I am able to pull myself out of my bad habits, I can learn more than they were given the opportunity to, and hopefully move onto a joyful and socially satisfying life like they have.

 

[Beatrice]

Oof I don't think it is all that productive to look back on regrets. But now that I've thought about it it's better to write it down somewhere anywhoo

Biggest regrets would have to be pushing away all those friends and best-friends. I've pushed away 2/3 of the really good best friends that I've had. Of course they move on with their lives and I'm in this house, on this flat line of apathy. But, if I am able to pull myself out of my bad habits, I can learn more than they were given the opportunity to, and hopefully move onto a joyful and socially satisfying life like they have.

You're right, more often than not it's probably not productive to look back on regrets. But of course, it is when there is something to be learned, though it's best to learn the lesson and move on for good, I think. So you're right. I struggle with that.

I've lost all my friends.... My latest goal is to build up a good social network. I want to start over socially, and I want to be a different person with a different life...

 

[Newtype]

I can't even put my biggest regret into words because I don't understand how it happened. By not being myself, my true self, I ruined my life. It's the only way I can describe it. Now I'm a prisoner of my past and I have an unknown future.

 

[eek]

i regret all the stupid things i'm going to do

 

[ShyChild]

Losing out on a real childhood because of this. Not having positive experiences to pull from. Not having any connections even in my hometown. Really in a nutshell the time I've lost.

 

[Bustn Justin]

I can't even put my biggest regret into words because I don't understand how it happened. By not being myself, my true self, I ruined my life. It's the only way I can describe it. Now I'm a prisoner of my past and I have an unknown future.

I def feel the same way. I regret not dealing wiht my SA many years sooner. It has really messed up my life.