Quit my job over my anxiety

yeahyeahyeah

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I quit my job a few weeks ago over my anxiety problem . I was gonna make up something to tell the boss why i was leaving then i just said screw it and tell him i have an anxiety problem and this job was really rough for me to do with it .

Well he couldn't have been any better about it , thanked me for my good work, said he hated to see me go ,and told me i could use him as a reference in the future . I stayed on till he found a replacement cause he was a really good guy .

Felt really down after i left and wondered if i screwed up again leaving a job when the jobs out there are slim . Well today I got new job , one i did before and am good at , i start next week and i work alone at it which is awesome .

Just wanted to share abit of good news .
 

yeahyeahyeah

Active member
thanks alot Chaos . it was looking real bad for abit looking for work . Alot of jobs i could not do based on my SA . But i got something i can do well and i already know most of the people there , so i feel alot better about it .

I hate starting work at a place where i am the new guy ,, but here i won't have to deal with that .
 

twiggle

Well-known member
That's brilliant news yeahyeahyeah, I'm glad it turned out so well for you.

Extra plaudit for sticking around at your old job until your boss found a replacement. Shows you have a great work ethic.

Hope your new job goes very well.
 

Nanita

Well-known member
Yay you quit a job that was too hard on you.
And then you found a job that is easier on you -- how great is that.
 

mikebird

Banned
You struck a chord with me.

Each job loss is either cos you don't like it and leave, or your boss decides to fire you. Just the same of either way for a partner.

It's a big all time low. I praise you for deciding. It's an emotional mix of success and failure. I've gone from one position to the next

My entire world is based on people who reject me. I think you're doing better.

Only two times when I've had to go now (temporarily) is because my brother is dying. Same for my mother happened, about seven years later. It's hard to convince someone it's true - they saw SA and though I was lying to take a break. I went back.

There's only one time when I chose to quit, which was the peak of my career. I went through 3 rounds of redundancy - all in a room - about 4 in each group. I sat there; we were told they had to be let go. Months between. All three teams were fired. I was the one person left, because they needed me. My boss quit for something new, advising me to do so, which the other heads said - take voluntary redundancy. I was put under new management, which I hated. Within a few weeks, I was told that I set a prime business customer not to bill. I didn't do that. Why would anyone do that? They thought the customer, or someone else, offered me a payment to deactivate the account, to save them money! Meetings about it. I was suspended - 'gardening leave' for month, on full salary! I found a new girlfriend. I felt on top of the world! But wound up on why they did this to me. Time went by. Only right now, for the first time, looking back, I think what I did wrong (they never mentioned, and I was not aware of my SA at all) was never taking holiday; I had nobody to go with. My best and longest girlfriend left me when I took on this great job. It left me in a bit of a mess, but didn't reveal it. This accusation of stopping billing was ridiculous! It didn't happen! I checked! Then I was denied access while suspended. It came to a final meeting, expecting being laid off. It was an imaginary event, with no evidence. I think the reason was purely personal - SA related, while I had no idea at the time. The day before this final meeting, I felt superior to these idiots. I went to the HR office for the first time for months, and gave my notice of leaving. I wanted to, because I felt valuable to them. I couldn't stomach the possibility of being laid off.

I felt weird and sad.

Ever since, my world of finding new jobs has left me in a deep ravine of misery, I think based on this event, and all due to the girl who left me by myself. I've struggled through new partners, and brief jobs which don't last. I never quit. Only that once.

I'll never give up.

When she moved out, to a place nearby, my emotional reaction hit the floor, seeking counselling, not knowing what to expect, but I was telling myself everything will go downhill. I was right. I didn't find this website until... 8 years later

My efforts since have proved fruitful, earning money and finding the right companionship in girls, but everything leads to rejection. Nothing & nobody today
 

dottie

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mikebird, my heart feels for you. i feel i'm going through the same. not what you endured with the job accusation (what a jip) but the rotating door of rejection.
 

yeahyeahyeah

Active member
truck driving sounds like a great job for avoidants. congrats, yeahyeahyeah!

lol. yes it is and thank you ! ,that's why i got into it . I spend my day listening to Howard Stern or some other talk shows on satellite radio . I only talk to a few people at my stops for like 10 - 15 minutes and i can avoid them all together if i like . I do a bit of curse'n and yelling when backing into a tight spot but other then that its cool . Of course winter time an snow is another thing , sliding around in a truck+trailer over 80 feet long can be nerve racking , but it's better then dealing with people .
 

yeahyeahyeah

Active member
and sorry too hear that Mike , i didn't respond cause i didn't have anything good to say other then i hope things improve for you .
 

Richey

Well-known member
when 1 door closes, another opens. Congrats on your new job, I hope it works out in the end.

Exactly right. remember that when your mind believes this its because you tell yourself that. If you tell yourself that opportunities or doors will open elsewhere (which of course they will). You then program yourself to believe it. Its those who tell themselves there are no jobs and that they won't move forward is when that exact outcome will occur.

You have left the job, you wouldn't have left had there not been a reason to leave in the first place, trust me, the few jobs i had that i truly enjoyed i didn't leave because i chose to, it was because of other reasons outside of my control. The project had ended so the job was no longer etc.

For me at the moment its sort of similar, physically my job right now is too physically straining on my arms and hands, i come home and i feel these pains i didnt even know existed, so the alarm bells have rung, i know i need to leave asap. if the same happened with you because of anxiety or whatever else then you've done the right thing.
 

Richey

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lol. yes it is and thank you ! ,that's why i got into it . I spend my day listening to Howard Stern or some other talk shows on satellite radio . I only talk to a few people at my stops for like 10 - 15 minutes and i can avoid them all together if i like . I do a bit of curse'n and yelling when backing into a tight spot but other then that its cool . Of course winter time an snow is another thing , sliding around in a truck+trailer over 80 feet long can be nerve racking , but it's better then dealing with people .

sounds good, i suppose the hard part would be getting used to driving and positioning a big vehicle, getting used to parking etc. making it to destinations on time, reading the SOPs. I'd enjoy it but i think certain people would find that initial learning curve daunting, much like forklift driving.
 

yeahyeahyeah

Active member
How much do truck drivers make.
I'v been thinking about it too.

If you can get a good local job you can make good money and not be getting lost , dealing with maps and GPS sending you in the wrong direction . All that stuff is real problem .

Right now I make $200. a day before tax's ( 10-12 hour days ) , working 4 days a week .

The bonus is you get to work alone , very little talking to people .
The negative is there is no one around to help you in alot of situations , your on your own .

I would not tell anyone to get into trucking for the long haul driving stuff , that is a whole other thing and most of it is not good . Get your licence an look for local work , start in a dump truck and move up from there . Dump trucks pay about $15-17 /hour in my area .

Working alone is the only reason i got into it , i knew nothing about driving them before i went to school for it .
 
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