persuaded easily

[LazyHermitCrab]

So i make up responses sometimes..

eh one example: This new Weezer album sucks. You're not a real fan if you like the new cd. The old ones are way better.
-Yeah i know.
At times I catch myself agreeing even when i don't actually agree with it. Should have been "actually all the cds are great to me" etc.

The point is to not agree with things you don't agree with and be able to back it up, even if you have to pause before saying it

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I catch myself doing this all the time. I wish I wasn't so submissive, but I can't find the words or muster the courage to stand up for myself. Last week I had a class with my 12 person discussion group and we were discussing our upcoming final. The final was supposed to be a 5 page paper we would just hand in on what we learned from the sequence of classes we we took for the past 4 semesters, but my class complained. Instead my professor "bargained" and said that the week before finals each of us have to go around the room and talk about our experience with the class sequence for 5 minutes each. He asked the class if this was a better deal and of course since my class is full of extroverted outgoing people they all agreed. Because I didn't speak up, this was assumed to be an agreement. The thought of speaking in front of 11 other people is terrifying to me. I regret not approaching the professor after class and asking if I could just write the paper.

I know what you mean i'd rather write a long paper then do a presentation anytime. Maybe you could email the professor and ask, unless it's too late or your pretty much done with thinking about your presentation. A five minute presentation sounds like two pages instead of 5 but yeah it can be more challenging if youre not extroverted.

 

[Hottie]

I have strong opinions and views on things so i dont usually conform. I have a mind of my own, and i usually stick to it.

But i have found times where i would just go along because its not worth the effort to disagree

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

I catch myself doing this all the time. I wish I wasn't so submissive, but I can't find the words or muster the courage to stand up for myself. Last week I had a class with my 12 person discussion group and we were discussing our upcoming final. The final was supposed to be a 5 page paper we would just hand in on what we learned from the sequence of classes we we took for the past 4 semesters, but my class complained. Instead my professor "bargained" and said that the week before finals each of us have to go around the room and talk about our experience with the class sequence for 5 minutes each. He asked the class if this was a better deal and of course since my class is full of extroverted outgoing people they all agreed. Because I didn't speak up, this was assumed to be an agreement. The thought of speaking in front of 11 other people is terrifying to me. I regret not approaching the professor after class and asking if I could just write the paper.

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The trouble is, even if you had approached the professor and he'd agreed to your request, when it came time for everyone to do their 5 minute talk and you didn't do one, everyone would be asking "Why is Tigerlilja not taking her turn?" which would then draw attention to you, which I'm sure is something you wouldn't welcome.

It's a lose-lose scenario for you really.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

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The trouble is, even if you had approached the professor and he'd agreed to your request, when it came time for everyone to do their 5 minute talk and you didn't do one, everyone would be asking "Why is Tigerlilja not taking her turn?" which would then draw attention to you, which I'm sure is something you wouldn't welcome.

It's a lose-lose scenario for you really.

Or, just not come to class that day

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I have strong opinions and views on things so i dont usually conform. I have a mind of my own, and i usually stick to it.

But i have found times where i would just go along because its not worth the effort to disagree

Yes true.. is it more trouble then it's worth?

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Or, just not come to class that day

Good idea!

 

[nicole1]

People don't like it when I do it. When I disagree, I sound like a know it all or a**hole. So sometimes I say, "Yea," or, "Oh."

 

[Hottie]

Yes true.. is it more trouble then it's worth?

What about the CD?
No this kind of thing i wouldnt admit to liking if i didnt really like it. Its not going to cause hastle.
But what hastles one may not another...

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

What about the CD?
No this kind of thing i wouldnt admit to liking if i didnt really like it. Its not going to cause hastle.
But what hastles one may not another...

Heh i do like to cd though just bought the ratitude album .... I like the older stuff too though

 

[Gray]

Think it's all about assertiveness. Me personally i'm not assertive and i end up giving in far too easy.

I don't particularly like saying "no" to people, or refusing to do anything. It can definately make you miserable if you don't put a stop to it.

I recall back in my first job, i was regularly going to the gym in my "me time", but thanks to my lack of assertiveness i would end up getting boxed in and made to do overtime at work, because i never wanted to say no or upset my supposed workmates.

Roughly around the same time, there was a clique, and i wasn't part of it. So i ended up having to do all the jobs while they stood around talking. Although i ended up getting a wee-bit of backbone then, and actually told them in the middle of the workfloor to stop pissing about and get doing some work. Infront of customers.

That felt good, but at the same time it was a stupid thing to do. Although it did it's job nicely!

 

[sam89]

Or, just not come to class that day

That's a strange coincidence because I have the same thing next week. At first I thought to do anything but not go there before a class of 40. But soon I realized there is no way since the professor set it up as the grade is received collectively for the whole work, and everyone must present. God help me

sorry if this off-topic

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

I'm not easily persuaded as much as, depending on the situation, not assertive. Just give in. Or don't argue at all. Depends tho who's around.

 

[Kiwong]

I argue and disagree alot. I can be quite outspoken and say what I think. I don't think it is a good way to move forward in the world. It is far better to talk in platitudes and agree with people, while you are secretly thinking the opposite

It seems I live and work in a environment of euphism in language. Of not really saying what you think to someone in person, but letting rip with criticism through gossip when they are not present. The language of government and politics encourages duplicity this filters down into everyday conversation as well.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Think it's all about assertiveness. Me personally i'm not assertive and i end up giving in far too easy.

I don't particularly like saying "no" to people, or refusing to do anything. It can definately make you miserable if you don't put a stop to it.

I recall back in my first job, i was regularly going to the gym in my "me time", but thanks to my lack of assertiveness i would end up getting boxed in and made to do overtime at work, because i never wanted to say no or upset my supposed workmates.

Roughly around the same time, there was a clique, and i wasn't part of it. So i ended up having to do all the jobs while they stood around talking. Although i ended up getting a wee-bit of backbone then, and actually told them in the middle of the workfloor to stop pissing about and get doing some work. Infront of customers.

That felt good, but at the same time it was a stupid thing to do. Although it did it's job nicely!

That's great you were able to get the job done haha. If someone asks me to work overtime i just make up something. I used.. sorry im working on a project and sorry company is coming over. Haven't been asked again yet. It can be hard to say "no" But if your busy... or can make it seem that way then you won't feel obligated to do something you don't want to do and continue with your day

 

[awkwardamanda]

Yeah, I often pretend to agree with people like that. Partly because I think it's not worth the hassle to disagree and partly because I feel ashamed of my opinions. If I say something and then people don't agree with it I get insecure and just wish I hadn't opened my mouth.

 

[Green_Day_fan]

I do that a lot myself. Just to keep my friends happy, really. Lol.

 

[Green_Day_fan]

I do that a lot myself. Mainly just so that i don't end up having big debates with friends about "Why? What's wrong with their songs? I like them", etc, etc. Lol. I will always be myself and have my own opinions. Lol