Personal Attraction/Attraction in general
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sullyS1985
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I know it just feels like it sometimes. And I think that attitude affects me in a negative way because I feel like most girls think that way so when I meet an awesome girl I always assume I have no chance. Maybe my standards are too high but i believe most girls im attracted to would no feel the same way about me since I am overweight so i dont ever talk to them and never approach them. I guess this means self-confidence is key in most walks of life.
Pink_Paula
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I know what you mean, i do feel bad when i meet a really nice guy, he has an attraction toward me but i dont feel the same, it makes me feel superficial and cruel. I'm the same as you, i know for a fact that most guys i would find attractive would have absolutely no interest in me at all, you just have to keep it in your head that we all have different tastes, just because one or two people might reject you, that doesn't make you unattractive or worthless, Confidence is most definitely the key, but building that up is easier said than done sometimes!
Pink_Paula
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I think, I'm going to print this out and show it to my shrinkI really appreciate when girls are honest like this.
oh dear! i dread to think what your shrink will say lol but it's better to be honest than mess people about i think!
sullyS1985
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I really appreciate that input. While I have never thought i was worthless when being rejected, that is an adjective i have used to describe myself on many occassions. I definately think it is key to realize that different people have different preferences in looks or attractions because i am so used to applying previous rejections of other girls to the mentality of the girl i may be interested in. If that even makes any sense at all.
Dronee
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I think there's several components to it, physically atrractive (symmetry, 'averageness', novelty..), personality/character, novelty, that person finding you attractive, 'power' (for women, I think guys perceived as strong or powerful is part of attraction)..
But sometimes I think that if you can make the other person feel good about himself or herself, he or she can feel attracted to you? (I say this from personal exp... My friend all but confessed that if there were not some unfortunate circumstances, she'd like to be more than friends)
But sometimes I think that if you can make the other person feel good about himself or herself, he or she can feel attracted to you? (I say this from personal exp... My friend all but confessed that if there were not some unfortunate circumstances, she'd like to be more than friends)
looks mean everything to males. it means very little to most females.
not to be arrogant but i've been told i'm goodlooking by many people. I also have severe social anxiety. guess what...i've never had a gf in my life. every male i know whos in a relationship is worse looking than me. i also have no female friends. i repel girls...why? because i'm socially awkward and quiet.
Imagine your typical quiet male with social phobia...what does he look like? a dweeb right? Now replace him with someone with the exact same personality traits but well dressed and good looking. do you honestly think this guy is attractive to girls? again, not to sound full of myself but I'm that guy and i can tell you for a fact that he isn't.
Jake123
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You mean like the people who looked amazing then got hit by a truck or something and the people who were rich and lost it all? Or vice versa (ugly ducklings blossoming and bums winning the lottery I guess?)
Jake123
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My family and people at school pretty much permanently programmed me to feel ugly. Bullies at school made me feel hideous for a lot of reasons, so has my family with their extreme homophobia and always comparing me with my sister. I can't remember ever being satisfied with or accepting how I look. I've never thought of myself as good-looking... not even remotely. I wish I could, but I really do see myself as ugly and I think others do too (regardless of what they may say now)
I know how you feel.
But you are beautiful, Serafina
Jake123
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Actually my parents don't even know, I've had to live a lie my whole life because they come from a completely different background and they are incapable of understanding. They hate gay people with a passion, and they would quite literally kill me if they found out. In Cuba gays were sent to concentration camps and executed.
I know my parents will never love me and I've come to terms with it.
Thank you for your kind words though. You sound like the mother I've always wished I had.
AmunetSide
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I try not to start a relationship based on what society deems "attractive", because that interpretation of beauty is so warped it’s un-friggin-believable.
Is it important for someone to personally be attracted to their partner? Of course.
But personality is SOOOOOOOO much more important. I'd rather be with someone who complemented me emotionally and mentally than some hot hunk of manly goodness who had the personality of a turnip.
I'm just sayin'....
Is it important for someone to personally be attracted to their partner? Of course.
But personality is SOOOOOOOO much more important. I'd rather be with someone who complemented me emotionally and mentally than some hot hunk of manly goodness who had the personality of a turnip.
I'm just sayin'....
sullyS1985
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well that is good to hear and i wish i could meet girls like you where i live but unfortunately it seems as if other things are more important.
Jesushasomeoneforme
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Girls judge me on my confidence. They're to quick to have an opinion. This sucks. Rarely are attractive girls really look into my heart.
Jesushasomeoneforme
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I know Jesus has a christian female bodybuilder wife for me.
Aiyieeeee
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I find as I get older, I'm not as picky as I was when I was younger, which is a good thing because I can't really afford to be.
Not that I'm actually picking anyone. Attraction is torture. You see all of this pretty people and you can't have or even interact with any of them.
Initially attraction begins with the physical appearance of someone (Unless it's some online thing. Of course once pictures are exchanged, it's possible that interests will wane, as it has). Pure and Simple. And then you go from there.
Not that I'm actually picking anyone. Attraction is torture. You see all of this pretty people and you can't have or even interact with any of them.
Initially attraction begins with the physical appearance of someone (Unless it's some online thing. Of course once pictures are exchanged, it's possible that interests will wane, as it has). Pure and Simple. And then you go from there.
Silvox Black
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Attraction is based on a set of physical, emotional, and personal criteria. Each person holds a certain standard that must be met by the potential partner before the mind will consider taking the chance to make the link for attraction. There are also personal thoughts that will measure what the likelihood will be. Naturally a low self-esteem will cause this factor of success chance to decrease. Sometimes even to the point where the person will simply give up and not bother at all.
EXACTLY! Girls like qualities in men which spell success and if you don't have those you are out the door most of the time. Supposing you have these qualities, then you need to have the persona characteristics which any particular girl find appealing, in order to be successful.
