People mess me up

theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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I have recently noticed that almost anything involving real-life contact with people resulting in a real crppy mood shortly afterwards, which often is hard to budge or deal to. Even just talking to a friend on the phone (which i did tonight, for only a few minutes). It's like they temporarily destroy my tentative, hard-won sense of overall peace or harmony with the world and myself. Those feelings of relative warmth or love quickly vanish like a sweet smell in a gusty breeze. It certainly is a strange phenomenon, and is something i don't understand at all.
 
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laure15

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Yeah, I get emotionally drained after being involved in social situations so when I get home, I shut myself in a room and try to recharge.
 
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Dreamscape

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I know the feeling. happens to me all the time, sometimes when i am talking to someone i suddenly go into huge anxious feeling which cause me to shut down and go blank mode. this happens everyday.
 
Roman Legion

Roman Legion

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Dreamscape said:
I know the feeling. happens to me all the time, sometimes when i am talking to someone i suddenly go into huge anxious feeling which cause me to shut down and go blank mode. this happens everyday.
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This generally happens to me at drill.. I hate being around so many people I know I don't really connect with, its draining.
 
theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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Yes, it seems very common for people on this site to get "emotionally drained" by people. But does anyone else also find they get into quite a bad or low mood?. Eg demotivated & low energy, & problems with the "self" (low self-worth, self-criticism, even self-hatred)?
 
hardy

hardy

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Dear,

I get into a bad mood quite often when i say something that is not required. Trash talking, back-biting, lying and saying harsh words result in bad vibrations.I used to back-bite and trash talk a lot...so much that people started hating me. My meditation has helped me to cut down on these 4 kinds of UN-worthy talk.

Also i get into a bad mood when i hurt someone by my actions...i used to look at people with a lot of fear. That made them upset....they gave me bad looks or tried to avoid me and i became embarrassed. When i take my brothers things without asking, things don't go well. Or when i want to flirt a married woman(i don't flirt, but i do get physically attracted)....situations become really bad. Also when i used to drink...i had no control over what i did and became really embarrassed later and got depressed.

It's difficult to understand what's going on when the mind is stressed. Some things that calm me down are regular meditation, exercise, association with wise persons(who avoid bad-mouthing and avoid wrong actions), reading good books.

Don't forget 'we get what we give'. It's so true also...!!
 
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jc972

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I HATE people.:bat: I hate interacting with people, I hate having to problem solve with other people, and i yearn for the day I can work all alone doing what I love. People suck.
 
gustavofring

gustavofring

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I understand OP.

It's even harder for me to anticipate having to face people. I constantly play the film in my head of what the conversation will be like, what will I say, how will I act. How frustrating.:kickingmyself:

Usually the interaction isn't that bad though.
 
theslowesthand

theslowesthand

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hardy said:
Trash talking, back-biting, lying and saying harsh words
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Don't forget 'we get what we give'. It's so true also...!!
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I never act like that, its just not my style. I'm very polite at all times, and avoid all such violent confrontations. It's more like some others have wrote in this thread, in that just normal, plain people interaction itself (without any "drama" at all, including positive interactions with say friends) causes great harm to my mood, often resulting in a crazy, distressed kind of mood, which is very very hard to deal with (only alcohol can really settle me down).
I guess it's probably some kind of subconscious stuff happening, as seldom am i even thinking of anything negative in particular after seeing people, but my subconscious sure as hell has something on it's mind, and is thinking about it all as if it's a matter of life or death. And of course i cannot stop it.
Yes, i am aware that my subconscious is really really stuffed-up, in terms of people. Possibly beyond repair.
 
hardy

hardy

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thesmallestloser said:
I never act like that, its just not my style. I'm very polite at all times, and avoid all such violent confrontations. It's more like some others have wrote in this thread, in that just normal, plain people interaction itself (without any "drama" at all, including positive interactions with say friends) causes great harm to my mood, often resulting in a crazy, distressed kind of mood, which is very very hard to deal with (only alcohol can really settle me down).
I guess it's probably some kind of subconscious stuff happening, as seldom am i even thinking of anything negative in particular after seeing people, but my subconscious sure as hell has something on it's mind, and is thinking about it all as if it's a matter of life or death. And of course i cannot stop it.
Yes, i am aware that my subconscious is really really stuffed-up, in terms of people. Possibly beyond repair.
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sorry if i was too judgmental. Just wanted to share things that i noticed in my life.
 
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aNOTfox

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This is not uncommon. Everyone feels this to some degree. Even people without social anxiety can feel emotionally drained after social situations it all depends on who you with or how long your with them
 
Luka

Luka

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I agree with this! After school, I'm just so relieved to be away from people and is probably the only thing that actually makes my life worthwhile. Stupid, I know.
 
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