People as the priority

[aj]

It seems that for most people, being with other people is the most important thing in the world. Well maybe not quite, but very high on the list, much higher than on mine. It also means that my tolerance for them is lower.

I think this because most people love to sit around and talk to others, and that in itself is the main attraction.

I wonder if you can be popular or even just make friends without it being such an important thing for you.

Unfortunately I don't think you can change it because it's like trying to enjoy a sport or something that you simply hate. You can't force yourself.

 

[Scrabbl]

Some people are introverts. Others are extroverts. some people simply enjoys socializing a lot more than other hobbies and pasttimes. It's a part of their personality. I believe it's genetic - but you psychology geeks correct me on that if I'm wrong

So aj you're saying you're just not into socializing? well then good for you. For me though making friends and talking to people is such a big deal. I want it so much so it's like I'm really afraid of rejection and I think that it contributes to my SA.

 

[recluse]

Introverted people don't enjoy being with others much because we feel that people drain us of energy. I find people to be really demanding and tiring to be with and i don't enjoy sitting down drinking and socializing like others do.

 

[aj]

Yeah. I find being with one person fun, two ok, and three or more boring and tiring. Ugh.

 

[RedRibbons]

A lot of the time I don't want to be around people. I'm really moody up and down and don't find people all that interesting for the most part. Plus I get neurotic and paranoid about people hating me, or saying the wrong thing. I feel obligated to socialize, and like I have to do certain things and care a crapload about things that I don't find all that interesting. Basically being around people is stressful for me, so I don't like doing it. If it's with people I know well, and feel comfortable around then it's okay.

And this is just the grumpy non-social part of me speaking. -.-

 

[Ashiene]

I don't want to spend my entire life trying to please people. I'd rather enjoy myself.