one comment which has affected your confidence

[Walk]

I was 12, in jr. high, and just came back from summer. I didn't hang out with any of my friends in summer vacation, mainly because they lived a little too far.

I saw them during lunch, and I decided to join them.

I literally got pushed away by one, with no opposition from the others.

Possibly the start of my SA.

 

[Walk]

In high school, I was asked a few times to hang out, but probably due to that time in jr high, I declined.

But as a gem in the soil that was high school, this uber hot girl told me, sincerely, that I was "extremely cute". Felt great, but that's as far as it went. Only until recently have I been shedding off the shame and guilt from my fucked up adolescence.

 

[xtina_fan81]

"if you were my daughter, id kill you"

and that came from a person who was the closest thing i had to a "friend" at the time, even though she obviously was nowhere near a real one.

 

[krs1snow]

When I was little I used to lay in my parents bed & read my stories to them, usually to my mom. It would take me forever cuz I was new to reading but i wouldn't let them help me w/the words. One nite my mom said "You're such a patient girl! You just keep trying until you get it"
This made me feel great! It affected my confidence & today, I love to read!

 

[A-UK-Lovely]

i got the award once in college for best room enterance lol i dunno ive had alot of nice compliments....
the one that shocked me the most tho was when me and a friend were havin a semi arguement, and shes goes to me ' its ok for you! everyone respects you!' i was really taken back by this like woah, i never realised?

so that was nice.

 

[xtina_fan81]

spose i shd post a positive one as well lol umm, that i have a nice butt? ive got that compliment more than once. lol.

 

[decadeOfSA]

I haven't really had anyone, besides my father, say anything bad about me (to my face anyway, maybe they did behind my back) since Junior High. I was fat, had glasses and had braces then. I was bullied quite a bit then and a few little punks tried to start fights with me and I quickly ended them and nobody has wanted to tangle with me since. I got contacts, got the braces off and lost weight and turned into an attractive guy gradually after eight grade, so I had a lot of girls after me in High School(and still do) and nobody really said anything bad to me. I was more or less a loner though, because of my SA. My dad has always been a big time critic of mine and says I'm using SA as a crutch and he doesn't think it is very serious. Several other family members probably think the same way, but they have never really said anything directly to my face. I think "they" have finally realized that I have a problem and I am dealing with it the best way I can. I'm not lazy and I'm going back to school and stuff, but still my dad is always on my case. My mom understands my problem though. I'm sure there are other people that I used to be friends with or know me that wonder what the fuck my problem is and think I'm messed up though, but generally nobody, besides my dad, have really said anything really insulting to me for quite awhile. For some reason, there was a short time when I little to no anxiety starting at the start of my Senior year in high school and it lasted for a couple of years and then my anxiety came back worse than before and I've had it bad ever since. I have always been the loner type and never wanted to do what other kids wanted to do when I was younger, so I never developed any great social skills. Then the bullying in Junior High must have lingered. The funny thing is I think is I always consciously think positive thoughts about myself(at least most of the time), but when I'm around people, I have anxiety symptoms. I don't act especially shy either. I talk a lot and am not withdrawn, but I just fell uncomfortable around people for some reason. I have no "conscious' negative thoughts, like "I am ugly" or "Everyone hates me" , etc. I just get anxiety symptoms around people for some reason.

 

[BV85]

Was at a nightclub and this person just looked at me and was like EWWWW.......funny thing was he was ugly as fuck as well lol.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Someone called me 'bones' last week. I'm really thin because of a rather serious illness that I have, that's the main reason I don't go out alongside my ugliness and lack of confidence.

 

[typewriterx]

The Good: Some underclassmen said that she liked how I dress and how I don't give a shit what others think about it.

The Bad: There's really not any plain bad; for me, comments are either quite good or incredibly bad.

The Ugly: When a girl was starting rumours about me "She's suicidal; her mom found a noose&note in her room and frankly, I just wish she'd hurry up and do it."

 

[Disco]

With me it was anything slightly negative revolving around my appearance e.g. my big forehead. I used to get insanely paranoid by anything slightly negative. But the truth is my whole life ive been told by almost everyone that im so beautiful, look truely stunning but I used to not believe it. I would just dwell on the bad (often untrue) things people would tell me. And yes I do have a big forehead but so does Rihanna and shes smoking hot so I can live with it now.

I also had the is it a boy is it a girl thing even when I had short hair. I often used to get called young lady and that would make me feel so awkward especially when I was with family. I remember once when a cousin who was 2 had come over to our house and I got called a she by him! It was just my face used to be so pretty. Now at 18 I have a nice strong jawline so I can pull off my long hair without to much problem.

 

[Gutted]

People call me hippo...
I'm far from as fat as a hippo :x

I always get the "everybody hates you", "nobody likes you" sometimes. And I sometimes wonder if it's true

 

[NothingElseMatters]

'Look at that guy...he always blushes'

 

[Videotape]

'are you shaking on purpose?'

 

[saeriyas]

Last year, someone said to me, "You look like a pedophile."
I thought it was kind of funny, but I really began to worry if other people thought that when they looked at me.

 

[Zarrix]

"What fuckface? Cant you talk to people or something =("

Yelled at me last year at work. Wasnt happy for about a week after that one.

 

[saeriyas]

When I was younger, I was riding my bicycle past someone, and as I passed by, I heard them call out to me "Hey faggot!"

That disturbed me and scared me! [I'm not gay, but I don't really have anything against the concept of a person being "gay."]
Already I was feeling reluctant to be outside going near people, and one of the few people who I passed by, decided to say something harsh to me. So, that made me regret deciding to ride my bike.

I see all the horrible things people have described in here! I feel fortunate now, because some of you seem to have been challenged a lot more by people than I have, especially when you seemed to have been younger and more vulnerable?

A lot of times, I've become afraid of what people "might" say/or what they might "potentially" think or say about me. My imagination gets worked up in a negative way, where I worry about what unpleasant things might be said to me. Even though I've usually been treated alright by people!
Some people on here said they've had people criticize how they grin a lot or laugh? I've only had people comment on that to me a few times, but In the past, I've worried that people "might" see me as a freak who's laughing strangely more than everyone else around.

 

[psipop]

"eww! it's looking at me!"

(there was a gang of girls in middle/high school that decided the funniest thing in the world was referring to me as "it." really dehumanizing.)

 

[blue]

" whats going on with you? ,you have the least confidence out of anyone i have ever met"

This was about 7 years ago i still know this person and its a comment i keep on replay.

 

[alex29]

"are you a girl or a boy?"

screamed in front of over 100 people in the school gym when i was about 12. i was a tomboy. no one has had any reason to ask me that for years but it still hurts