one comment which has affected your confidence
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noblame4
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To all the people who've had their sexuallity insulted, you should've just dropped trou and SHIT on the person, because that is the most lamely obvious self-projective insult in the book. Make sure when your poop comes out, it has the words YOU WISH on it! (and THAT takes practice!)
Chod77
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"Are you a lesbian? Because you have never had a boyfriend. Whats wrong with you? Why don't guys like you?"
From my sister (a social butterfly)- "Everyone knows God didn't give you a funny bone."
From when I was in 6th grade and going through a very awkward phase - "Hey why don't you take off your ugly mask Halloween isn't till later."
Such a lame insult though.
From my sister (a social butterfly)- "Everyone knows God didn't give you a funny bone."
From when I was in 6th grade and going through a very awkward phase - "Hey why don't you take off your ugly mask Halloween isn't till later."
Such a lame insult though.
AM
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"You used to be cool, but you're not anymore" and also, "He'd have to be desperate to want to be with you."
All in highschool, but it stuck with me. I am thinking about those things less and less these days, especially since the girl who said the first comment, she and I have become good friends in adulthood.
All in highschool, but it stuck with me. I am thinking about those things less and less these days, especially since the girl who said the first comment, she and I have become good friends in adulthood.
proudmummy
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my most recent one was when i was on my lunch break at work and there was a man sat on the table behind me (he was about 20 years older than me), he asked me to come sit on his table in which i replied "no thanks". He goes "your such a b****, just sit on your own then". I was trying to eat my lunch and felt my face burning as he was shouting so loud, so people on other tables could hear. He was joined by another man who was chuckling away whilst the rude man kept saying things like "c**t". I stopped eating and just walked away, went straight to the toilets and burst into tears.
The amount of times I've cried is a joke, but this one really stuck in my mind as it was someone absolutely broadcasting the fact I'm shy.
The amount of times I've cried is a joke, but this one really stuck in my mind as it was someone absolutely broadcasting the fact I'm shy.
soulsearcher
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The first time I brought my boyfriend (now husband) home to meet my family my grandfather said to me in front of him, "Christie you look like you've gained a few" and I replied numbly "yah maybe a few" to which he replied, "YAH like 25 or so!! hahah" and I ran in the bathroom and cried for about 20 minutes. Any weight comments are hard for me considering I've struggled with my weight forever.
Another thing that bothers me is when a family member is flippant about my anxiety. I am usually really outgoing, probably loud, and funny. But when I get anxious I get really quiet and visibly uncomfortable...I just can't seem to mask it. So I was at a family get together and my sister said in front of everyone, "What's the matter, you need to go take an Ativan??" in a sarcastic tone. That sucked.
Another thing that bothers me is when a family member is flippant about my anxiety. I am usually really outgoing, probably loud, and funny. But when I get anxious I get really quiet and visibly uncomfortable...I just can't seem to mask it. So I was at a family get together and my sister said in front of everyone, "What's the matter, you need to go take an Ativan??" in a sarcastic tone. That sucked.
dpr
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soulsearcher said:
wow... that's awful. you know what? if your family is not supportive of you and exacerbates your anxiety, i would say goodbye to them. at least until they are ready to treat you with respect. my girlfriend had to do this, as her family treated her very badly. it took her a while to get her head right, but i think she is better off for it. there's no law that says you have to love your family.
noblame4
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proudmummy said:
I dont think that he was broadcasting your shyness so much as broadcasting his being a psychotic asshole. If this is a company or factory you work at, I think you should file a sexual harrasment report on him. Calling you that because you wouldnt go sit with his nasty ass!
Darkened
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recluse said:
That is so stupid. :?
There was two guys at my class that I used to talk to, and have no problems at all. One day I made the mistake to tell them that they usually ignored me (and others) when they were with some other friends. Maybe I used a unvoluntarily sentimental tone or something.
Day after they started to ignore me and started to say things at my back but loud enough to make sure I was listening. Started with some stupid laughs and so on. I was already very shy back then and did nothing, I chose to ignore it, hoping it would stop.
It got worse, they were always saying "... gay ..." at my back.
Everyday was a nightmare. They even delivered me a mocking love letter at "Valentine's Day". Told me: "hey, someone sent you these" (while smiling like a retard).
I knew immediately what it was... in fact: I was already expecting that to happen at that day. :roll:
I just threw it directly to the trash can. They said: "it was only a joke". I replied: "... yeah yeah.... (go f##k yourself)".
I'm not gay and I never was.
But there was one guy which had the "typical gay moves and voice" and he was always suffering from the same kind of pressure. I don't know if he was/is really gay and I don't really care, but I always felt bad for him... It was stupid what he had to tolerate. I used to think: "damn, his school life must be a daily hell".
Well, it didn't take too long to me to start suffering that similar daily pressure.
It was the worst year and a half of my life. All I wanted was to get the hell out of the classrooms and go home.
But, you know what? Before all that, one day I was walking home with one of those two idiots, and.... (like I said: we were normal "friends" before) we crossed with his father. The bastard stopped to talk, kissed him and talked with his father like a real girl. :lol: Like he was the most innocent (female ) child in the world. Called him "daddy"... he was 17.
soulsearcher
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Regarding the gay insults:
I think being openly gay in a largely homophobic world is one of the bravest things a person can do. Talk about courage!!
The people who pick on people in this way are 1)ignorant 2)insecure in themselves. They figure, "let's find a target to pick on in some way so that people don't notice how stupid/dumb/ugly/dorky etc. that I MYSELF am. These types of bullys will never go away and they will always be out there being assholes. They are not the type of people you would want to be friends with anyways. Hold your head up and recognize it for what it is. They don't think you are gay...they just want to get your goat so try not to let them.
I think being openly gay in a largely homophobic world is one of the bravest things a person can do. Talk about courage!!
The people who pick on people in this way are 1)ignorant 2)insecure in themselves. They figure, "let's find a target to pick on in some way so that people don't notice how stupid/dumb/ugly/dorky etc. that I MYSELF am. These types of bullys will never go away and they will always be out there being assholes. They are not the type of people you would want to be friends with anyways. Hold your head up and recognize it for what it is. They don't think you are gay...they just want to get your goat so try not to let them.
newguy1985
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was drinking alcohol
face got red from asian glow
I say "man I'm so hot"
she goes "no you're not"
everyone lols
LOL kinad funny think about it
face got red from asian glow
I say "man I'm so hot"
she goes "no you're not"
everyone lols
LOL kinad funny think about it
Primrose
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This happened in high school I was about 14 at the time. The two girls I hung out with at the time were gorgeous, but I was a bit of a fat plain jane.
Guys in class: "Hello gorgeous girlies - except you" (said whilst pointing at me).
btw why is is really attractive girls feel the need to hang out with not so attractive ones like myself?
Guys in class: "Hello gorgeous girlies - except you" (said whilst pointing at me).
btw why is is really attractive girls feel the need to hang out with not so attractive ones like myself?
littl3misstrange
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I've always noticed that more attractive people tend to hang out with people that are around the same level of attractiveness. Maybe you're more attractive than you think, & that boy was just stupid. Either that or he liked you & didn't know how else to express it except to insult you. Boys can be like that.
Anyway, 7th grade was HELL for me in terms of verbal abuse. Every single day some random person would make some horrible comment about me, saying it particularly loud so I'd be sure to hear it. Once when I was walking into school, some girls that were sitting on a bench were giggling & pointing at me saying "Is that a girl or a boy? I can't tell! It must just be an 'it!"
Another time I was standing in line for the bus & these two obnoxious boys behind me were talking about girls they'd have sex with, & when I came up they both collectively said "ew" & proceeded to laugh.
The most hurtful thing anyone has ever said to me though, was when I was on the bus home, & this younger boy turned around, pointed at me & said really loudly, "OH MY GOD, isn't that girl the ugliest girl you've ever seen in your life?" I went home & cried so hard after that one. That was the first time I ever thought seriously about committing suicide.
Anyway, 7th grade was HELL for me in terms of verbal abuse. Every single day some random person would make some horrible comment about me, saying it particularly loud so I'd be sure to hear it. Once when I was walking into school, some girls that were sitting on a bench were giggling & pointing at me saying "Is that a girl or a boy? I can't tell! It must just be an 'it!"
Another time I was standing in line for the bus & these two obnoxious boys behind me were talking about girls they'd have sex with, & when I came up they both collectively said "ew" & proceeded to laugh.
The most hurtful thing anyone has ever said to me though, was when I was on the bus home, & this younger boy turned around, pointed at me & said really loudly, "OH MY GOD, isn't that girl the ugliest girl you've ever seen in your life?" I went home & cried so hard after that one. That was the first time I ever thought seriously about committing suicide.
hbanana11
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littl3misstrange said:
Something similar happened to me in middle school. I would hear guys playing the "Who would you rather have sex with" game. So one of them would choose two girls out of the class and the other would pick the one out of the two that he would rather have sex with...it was horrible to listen to and I certainly hope no other girls heard it. It's such a confidence killer
txjeepin
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i remember this moment for some reason and it has stuck with me for a long time.
I was a freshmen in high school and a senior on my soccer team had my shoes. he didn't want to hand them to me himself so he told his friend "hey go hand these over to that ugly kid".
he didn't know I heard him but I did. it hurt me a lot. more so for the fact that he couldnt even call me by my name and also for the fact that he was the typical popular jock that all the ladies loved, so I felt his judgment was the cruel but honest truth. i still do.
I was a freshmen in high school and a senior on my soccer team had my shoes. he didn't want to hand them to me himself so he told his friend "hey go hand these over to that ugly kid".
he didn't know I heard him but I did. it hurt me a lot. more so for the fact that he couldnt even call me by my name and also for the fact that he was the typical popular jock that all the ladies loved, so I felt his judgment was the cruel but honest truth. i still do.
PhantomPod
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I was always a tomboy, and there were times when I was little where kids would ask me straight to my face if I was a boy or a girl. I will never forget that. I am 100% self-conscious of myself and my looks now, because I do not want people to mistake me for a boy.
Also, last year on the bus home from school, I said "thank you" to the bus driver as I was getting off the bus and he said, "you're welcome sir." Then, when he saw my ponytail as I started walking down the bus steps, I heard him say "oh, sorry!" But I just pretended I didn't hear a thing and then I never said "thank you" to him for the rest of the school year.
I cut my hair short a few months ago (which was a big move, as it had been long my whole life), and I still have thoughts almost everyday like, "oh crap, why did I cut my hair short? Now people are going to think I'm a boy." Like, although I am happy with my short haircut, I still worry that people will think I am a boy just because of the whole societal thought that "long hair = girl, short hair = boy."
Oh yeah, and right after I got my haircut our neighbors were over and they have a little 4-year old girl who I love to death, and her mom said, "what do you think of her hair?" And the girl sort of made a weird face and said, "she looks like a boy." Yeah, I'll never forget that one either. The day a 4-year old practically made me cry.
Also, last year on the bus home from school, I said "thank you" to the bus driver as I was getting off the bus and he said, "you're welcome sir." Then, when he saw my ponytail as I started walking down the bus steps, I heard him say "oh, sorry!" But I just pretended I didn't hear a thing and then I never said "thank you" to him for the rest of the school year.
I cut my hair short a few months ago (which was a big move, as it had been long my whole life), and I still have thoughts almost everyday like, "oh crap, why did I cut my hair short? Now people are going to think I'm a boy." Like, although I am happy with my short haircut, I still worry that people will think I am a boy just because of the whole societal thought that "long hair = girl, short hair = boy."
Oh yeah, and right after I got my haircut our neighbors were over and they have a little 4-year old girl who I love to death, and her mom said, "what do you think of her hair?" And the girl sort of made a weird face and said, "she looks like a boy." Yeah, I'll never forget that one either. The day a 4-year old practically made me cry.
