Well what i mean is my parents kind of spoiled me and my sister, you know we didn't have to anything in the way of chores, but i wish my parents would have like gone ''Right here's the washing machine...This is how it works''.....''This is how to cook''....You know taught us to use initiative. I might sound ungrateful but looking back i wish my parents would have done it this way like a lot of my school friends, perhaps i would have turned out more confident like them.
Perhaps I misunderstood the actual topic of this thread but looking for others to blame for your current misery is never going to help. In fact, that knowledge is immaterial to your issues. Even if you found out who or what was responsible for your failing life, it wouldn't make you suddenly succeed. The activities you listed, like using the washing machine, how to cook, etc. are so impressively trivial that you don't even need to formally learn them, so I can fully understand parents who tell their children to "just do it" without prior introduction.
What else should they have taught you? You could arbitrarily extend that list of yours to virtually every aspect of life out there that you can experience. "So, this, my son, is a girl. And this is how to seduce her." - "And this here is a vagina. What you now have to do is...".
People are expected to get life experience by themselves and you do that by "just living". Get out and get to know people - experience life with all its ups and downs. Every single passage of life, whether good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, elating or precipitating is worthy of being experienced. It's not about being perfect and doing everything "right". It's about doing what has to be done and ofttimes what you want to do and then in hindsight, learning from the outcomes. In essence, you learn how to live properly and happily by failing and learning from your failures. Without failures there is no advancement, and you will never get anywhere.
No idea how to use the washing machine? Well, just fill it up and press all possible buttons. It certainly won't explode. After two or three failed attempts you will get the hang of it. Four washing sessions later you have most likely mastered that device. No idea how to cook? Well, grab a book and do it. It sucked the first time? The second time? The third time it's certainly a lot better. Invite over a couple of people, let them try. They liked it? Wonderful. They didn't? Ask them what to do differently. They will share their insights. A couple of attempts later they will voluntarily visit you and want you to cook for them.
No idea how to seduce girls? Well, talk to them. Try it. The worst thing that can happen is a momentarily humiliation. Then you laugh it off and proceed to the next female, knowing that your prior approaches had certain flaws. You correct them this time. Repeating this process will lead to a steady improvement. After perhaps thirty or forty well-thought out attempts (can be easily done in one or two nights out) you will most likely have a girlfriend or at least the ability to seduce practically every female. (Of course, you have to internalize your new insights first. That may take some time - not much, though.)
Success in life is based on repeated trial and error. Failures are natural. Not natural is to let yourself get discouraged. Be a human, be robust.
That ability to persevere is what has brought us so far.
Confidence in yourself isn't based on your present skills alone. Confidence is about knowing that -you- can master it. It's not about not questioning your own abilities, it's about dealing with doubt the right way, about seeing reality as it is, about knowing your present boundaries and how to overcome them, when needed. Confidence is a lot more than you think it is. It's definitely not "having a broad set of skills". More like, "trust in your innate ability to acquire any skill whenever necessary", or "trust in your being a complete human".
What parents may often fail at is to exemplify perseverance (and a proper approach to certain matters) to their children through their own life.