Rooftops
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Well, I'm pretty sure my fifty-year-old lecturer fancies me (I'll call him Jimmy). Jimmy tries sitting/standing next to me, talking to and staring at me whenever possible. He looks like he's about to touch my arm sometimes, then jerks away when I notice.
In the past my lecturer has (embarrassingly) put my work onto the overhead projector to tell the class how perfect it is and secured me a very good work placement without me even asking. For a while I thought I was being paranoid, until a few weeks ago when my room mate was convinced that Jimmy had a massive thing for me (this is without me bringing up the subject with him).
Most recently I have been absent for two weeks, whereas normally I am in most days. I have been depressed for a number of reasons and can't motivate myself to go in: once the class-skipping cycle starts it's hard to break. Jimmy sent a message to my non-university email account today, saying he was worried about my lack of attendance and was I okay? There are other students with MUCH poorer attendance compared to mine who have not had this sort of treatment.
To make matters worse he added "pop in to see me tomorrow" and "Yours, Jimmy" - not yours sincerely, faithfully or whatever, just yours. In emails addressing the entire class he has never signed off with "Yours" before.
I would never report him unless something physical happened, I just need advice on what to do. Although Jimmy has done a lot for me (ACADEMICALLY, obviously) I don't fancy talking to him about my depression/anxiety, I already see a councillor for that. If it was 20/30 years ago I might've considered it, as he is an interesting and well-travelled guy, but he is way too old for me.
In the past my lecturer has (embarrassingly) put my work onto the overhead projector to tell the class how perfect it is and secured me a very good work placement without me even asking. For a while I thought I was being paranoid, until a few weeks ago when my room mate was convinced that Jimmy had a massive thing for me (this is without me bringing up the subject with him).
Most recently I have been absent for two weeks, whereas normally I am in most days. I have been depressed for a number of reasons and can't motivate myself to go in: once the class-skipping cycle starts it's hard to break. Jimmy sent a message to my non-university email account today, saying he was worried about my lack of attendance and was I okay? There are other students with MUCH poorer attendance compared to mine who have not had this sort of treatment.
To make matters worse he added "pop in to see me tomorrow" and "Yours, Jimmy" - not yours sincerely, faithfully or whatever, just yours. In emails addressing the entire class he has never signed off with "Yours" before.
I would never report him unless something physical happened, I just need advice on what to do. Although Jimmy has done a lot for me (ACADEMICALLY, obviously) I don't fancy talking to him about my depression/anxiety, I already see a councillor for that. If it was 20/30 years ago I might've considered it, as he is an interesting and well-travelled guy, but he is way too old for me.