Moody and irritable ??
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Orlando
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Hi, Guest and Crimefish!
Well, I just say to other people that "I'm feeling moody (or blue.)" Usually, they understand because they have felt the same way at one point in their lives. Another thing I do (I'm not sure if this is good or not) is that I isolate myself. I just try to get away from people. If people ask why I am avoiding them, I just say, "Well, I just really moody now so if I'm around people I'm just going to yell at them...so I would rather be alone now until this mood passes." Usually, they will leave me alone....But don't do this too offen because you do get very lonely....
Last one.....When I'm moody, I also talk it out to either my friends or my family. I tell them that I don't want advice (Sometimes, I really just don't want to hear it!)...I just need someone to listen to me, then I just vent and vent and vent and vent...until I feel a little better......then I offer them the same service when they feel crappy too! :wink:
Well, I just say to other people that "I'm feeling moody (or blue.)" Usually, they understand because they have felt the same way at one point in their lives. Another thing I do (I'm not sure if this is good or not) is that I isolate myself. I just try to get away from people. If people ask why I am avoiding them, I just say, "Well, I just really moody now so if I'm around people I'm just going to yell at them...so I would rather be alone now until this mood passes." Usually, they will leave me alone....But don't do this too offen because you do get very lonely....
Last one.....When I'm moody, I also talk it out to either my friends or my family. I tell them that I don't want advice (Sometimes, I really just don't want to hear it!)...I just need someone to listen to me, then I just vent and vent and vent and vent...until I feel a little better......then I offer them the same service when they feel crappy too! :wink:
solo1
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I do exactly the same thing as you do Orl! I isolate myself mostly though because I find I get angry too easily when I am in that mood, and sometimes I will lash out at the people I really care about over sometimes nothing, and afterwards, I am very ashamed of myself. When I finally get to the point that I can cry, then I feel somewhat better. I think that a lot of my bad mood is because of anger, frustration, & unhappiness caused from not being able to change the way I am.
I cleaned my parent's deck for them not too long ago and unfortunately I was in one of those moods and my Mom came out on the deck numerous times and asked me where this or that was and it came across to me that she was thinking I was hiding the stuff in my car and planning on stealing it! I was hot, tired, and miserable & then she came out another time and told me that my sister called & was going to see a movie with my neice--- I SPAZZED! Flipped out... and my poor Mom slithered quietly back inside the house, not knowing exactly what just took place. I was so ashamed of myself after it happened... but at the time all I could think of was that my Mom thinks I'm a thief instead of being grateful for helping out and then my sister is sitting in some air conditioned movie theater grubbing pop corn when she COULD be helping me out with the deck. I thought of what it would be like to have a video of what just happened and if I would even recognise myself on it.... I think I would be highly disgusted and wonder why I'm not in an institution. Gosh, putting things into perspective, my Mom was just concerned she wouldn't be able to find her things, and it wasn't my sister's idea to clean the deck, why shouldn't she enjoy a movie! I HATE ME (even worse) when I get like that!
I have a very special friend that I have been corresponding with for over 2 years now, and I have explained these moods to him and explained to him that when I am in them, it's not a good idea for me to write. He understands, but unfortunately he found out about the mood the hard way! I lashed out at him over something ridiculous and I am very lucky that he is an understanding & sincere person and continues on to be one of my best, if not my best freind!
There have been people that attempted breaking the mood and much to my surprise, actually succeeded, because at the time, it seems like there is nothing short of killing someone or destrying something (and regretting it later!) that would get me out of that state, but likewise, some have tried and only made it worse and I've wanted to strangle them--- literally!
Anyway... if I could just reach that crying point earlier somehow, I know it would help, but I just can't seem to get there without some final incident triggering it.
I cleaned my parent's deck for them not too long ago and unfortunately I was in one of those moods and my Mom came out on the deck numerous times and asked me where this or that was and it came across to me that she was thinking I was hiding the stuff in my car and planning on stealing it! I was hot, tired, and miserable & then she came out another time and told me that my sister called & was going to see a movie with my neice--- I SPAZZED! Flipped out... and my poor Mom slithered quietly back inside the house, not knowing exactly what just took place. I was so ashamed of myself after it happened... but at the time all I could think of was that my Mom thinks I'm a thief instead of being grateful for helping out and then my sister is sitting in some air conditioned movie theater grubbing pop corn when she COULD be helping me out with the deck. I thought of what it would be like to have a video of what just happened and if I would even recognise myself on it.... I think I would be highly disgusted and wonder why I'm not in an institution. Gosh, putting things into perspective, my Mom was just concerned she wouldn't be able to find her things, and it wasn't my sister's idea to clean the deck, why shouldn't she enjoy a movie! I HATE ME (even worse) when I get like that!
I have a very special friend that I have been corresponding with for over 2 years now, and I have explained these moods to him and explained to him that when I am in them, it's not a good idea for me to write. He understands, but unfortunately he found out about the mood the hard way! I lashed out at him over something ridiculous and I am very lucky that he is an understanding & sincere person and continues on to be one of my best, if not my best freind!
There have been people that attempted breaking the mood and much to my surprise, actually succeeded, because at the time, it seems like there is nothing short of killing someone or destrying something (and regretting it later!) that would get me out of that state, but likewise, some have tried and only made it worse and I've wanted to strangle them--- literally!
Anyway... if I could just reach that crying point earlier somehow, I know it would help, but I just can't seem to get there without some final incident triggering it.
ker27
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hey all,
i always knew i was a little moody, but i didnt realise how bad i was until my mother took me aside and pointed it out to me, she said some days i can be lovely and other days you only have to look at my face and they know not to bother with me, i was really upset by this, i didnt realise i was sooo bad, but it did make me more aware of it, so now, i try really hard not to be as evil :twisted:
i always knew i was a little moody, but i didnt realise how bad i was until my mother took me aside and pointed it out to me, she said some days i can be lovely and other days you only have to look at my face and they know not to bother with me, i was really upset by this, i didnt realise i was sooo bad, but it did make me more aware of it, so now, i try really hard not to be as evil :twisted:
neddy
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Hello, I have been moody and irritable for a long time now. One minute I am up then I am really down in the dumps and god help anyone who tries to talk to me. One of my biggest problems is that I spend too much time alone and all I seem to do is think how bad my life is and that I wish it was better, I often get really morbid and think bad things all the time or I am really negative and thats usually when I notice my moods changing.
My mum used to take one look at face and she knew and used to have a go at me asking why I was always in a bad mood, what was wrong with me etc. I am trying really hard to overcome this now
My mum used to take one look at face and she knew and used to have a go at me asking why I was always in a bad mood, what was wrong with me etc. I am trying really hard to overcome this now
Ostrich
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Oh gawd yes
This is the reason I discussed this whole thing with my boyfriend yesterday.. because we live together, have two small boys and I'm an irritable mess most of the time. Not with my children, but the smallest thing annoys me and I get very angry.. thankfully, BF knows when he shouldn't do those small things now lol
I think with me, it's because I chose to be alone for so long. I did things my way and I could be alone when I wanted for as long as I wanted. Now, I'm around someone constantly (which also helps) and when I want to be alone, I'm questioned and bothered and made to feel worse.. that is until I told him exactly what was wrong with me. He says I hide it well, that I seem to be very social and always have a lot of friends etc.. but these friends have been around forever, the social life really started when I was a drinker and the way I am around people is forced and due to many years of practice.. inside though, I'm scared and clumsy.
ok that went off topic a bit lol.. Now that BF knows what the problem is, I think my irritability will lessen a bit because he won't be thinking there's something wrong with US and I'll be allowed the alone time I need.
This is the reason I discussed this whole thing with my boyfriend yesterday.. because we live together, have two small boys and I'm an irritable mess most of the time. Not with my children, but the smallest thing annoys me and I get very angry.. thankfully, BF knows when he shouldn't do those small things now lol
I think with me, it's because I chose to be alone for so long. I did things my way and I could be alone when I wanted for as long as I wanted. Now, I'm around someone constantly (which also helps) and when I want to be alone, I'm questioned and bothered and made to feel worse.. that is until I told him exactly what was wrong with me. He says I hide it well, that I seem to be very social and always have a lot of friends etc.. but these friends have been around forever, the social life really started when I was a drinker and the way I am around people is forced and due to many years of practice.. inside though, I'm scared and clumsy.
ok that went off topic a bit lol.. Now that BF knows what the problem is, I think my irritability will lessen a bit because he won't be thinking there's something wrong with US and I'll be allowed the alone time I need.
Anonymous
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Well, this is something. I just feel kinda sadish. It's so amazing what we do to ourselfs. See right this moment, im ok, (except saddened by my friends sadness) and so i just feel like Common guys, we're ok!! Dont be sad! But awful as it is, i know that i too will be in that "mood" sooner or later. Whoo knows, mabie later today even, fact is, it's usually daily with me, but dosnt last a whole long time. I kinda snap into it, and slowly, somehow come out of it. Oh boy, wish i could fix that part of us. Well, im no help right now for sure, and i'd better split the seane for now before i go ripping someones head off :wink: , instead of feeling kind of ok :? ...oh oy, what a mess....scarde
nezzy
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Hi guys...
this forum is great....
I get incredibly irritable and angry at the slightest thing. i grew up in a very abusive household and venting ones feelings at people is something i had gotten used too.
My main problem is communication, i find it extremely hard to talk to people about anything. including my girlfriend of 4 years. i owe everything i am today to her, but finding words for normal conversation is at best, difficult.
When i get angry these days i never get violent or abusive, but i bottle it up and say nothing just grump around and make people notice that i'm angry.
i live with my girlfriend, her mother and her brother, the latter two have Chronic Fatigue and suffer from pretty bad depression so talking to them even when i'm feeling chatty is hit and miss.
Neddless to say my poor g/f is suffering with two depressives and a habitually quite introvert.
I wish with all my heart i could switch this shit off and just be normal and go out take her out of this crap for a dance or a beer or even dinner.
I know this is common amoung us...
We both have good jobs, and hers revolves around wine... which means she has dinners she has to attend and all her work friends dont understand why i never go (besides i HATE wine).
To her credit she never has a standing fight with me, we rarely raise our voices at each other.
so my anger problem i had as a child, has totally reversed.
*shrug*
Nez
this forum is great....
I get incredibly irritable and angry at the slightest thing. i grew up in a very abusive household and venting ones feelings at people is something i had gotten used too.
My main problem is communication, i find it extremely hard to talk to people about anything. including my girlfriend of 4 years. i owe everything i am today to her, but finding words for normal conversation is at best, difficult.
When i get angry these days i never get violent or abusive, but i bottle it up and say nothing just grump around and make people notice that i'm angry.
i live with my girlfriend, her mother and her brother, the latter two have Chronic Fatigue and suffer from pretty bad depression so talking to them even when i'm feeling chatty is hit and miss.
Neddless to say my poor g/f is suffering with two depressives and a habitually quite introvert.
I wish with all my heart i could switch this shit off and just be normal and go out take her out of this crap for a dance or a beer or even dinner.
I know this is common amoung us...
We both have good jobs, and hers revolves around wine... which means she has dinners she has to attend and all her work friends dont understand why i never go (besides i HATE wine).
To her credit she never has a standing fight with me, we rarely raise our voices at each other.
so my anger problem i had as a child, has totally reversed.
*shrug*
Nez
Old topic..but definitely what I am...moody and irritable.
My grumpiness does affect the few relationships I have. For example, when I offer to accompany my mother somewhere, she tries to make excuses. But I keep aggressively insisting. Then she eventually tells me that she doesn't like going out with me because I easily get angry and impatient. I don't blame her. I take out all of my frustrations on her since I see her more often, and she never fights back.
I also have been more of a tattletale lately. In that instant I feel the urge to expose other people's flaws and errors (especially my siblings). Trying to get them in trouble or make them appear like the "bad guy"....but later I feel guilty and awful for being so evil. I can't seem to stop...I'm not sure why I do this. It's not particularly satisfying.
I've always been told that I was an angry person since I was a kid. I start to wonder if that's my true self. My moodiness and jealousy also increases the more I avoid social interactions, the more I compare myself to others, the more things get out of control, the more people take advantage of me, and the more I avoid adult responsibilities.
But I do choose to be alone. It's partly self-punishment for being a cruel person, because I'm ashamed to let other people learn about my irritability and how terrible I treat my family, and because I don't want others to experience my moodiness.
When I was randomly tuning into that US reality show, "Bridezilla" I kept thinking that these women were disgusting psychotic monsters that didn't deserve any happiness for maltreating others. But now that I think about it, I'm not so different from them. I just act similarly in private.
I don't really deal with my anger. Not a good thing since the guilt just makes me more anxious.
My grumpiness does affect the few relationships I have. For example, when I offer to accompany my mother somewhere, she tries to make excuses. But I keep aggressively insisting. Then she eventually tells me that she doesn't like going out with me because I easily get angry and impatient. I don't blame her. I take out all of my frustrations on her since I see her more often, and she never fights back.
I also have been more of a tattletale lately. In that instant I feel the urge to expose other people's flaws and errors (especially my siblings). Trying to get them in trouble or make them appear like the "bad guy"....but later I feel guilty and awful for being so evil. I can't seem to stop...I'm not sure why I do this. It's not particularly satisfying.
I've always been told that I was an angry person since I was a kid. I start to wonder if that's my true self. My moodiness and jealousy also increases the more I avoid social interactions, the more I compare myself to others, the more things get out of control, the more people take advantage of me, and the more I avoid adult responsibilities.
But I do choose to be alone. It's partly self-punishment for being a cruel person, because I'm ashamed to let other people learn about my irritability and how terrible I treat my family, and because I don't want others to experience my moodiness.
When I was randomly tuning into that US reality show, "Bridezilla" I kept thinking that these women were disgusting psychotic monsters that didn't deserve any happiness for maltreating others. But now that I think about it, I'm not so different from them. I just act similarly in private.
I don't really deal with my anger. Not a good thing since the guilt just makes me more anxious.
MaliceInWickedland
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I certainly do, but I don't know of any ways to control it.
Whenever I get anxious I get irritable and lash out without meaning to, especially when it comes to my mother. Whenever we go out together, which is like every weekend, I usually get really irritable as my anxiety build up and my mom, being the cheerful and silly person she is, says really corny or silly things that either cheer me up or irritate me even more. I tend to get more irritated with her than anything else and I'm amazed that we still manage to get along well on normal days when we're at home and I'm not anxious.
I don't know why I get like that and I have no way of controlling it. In the worst case, I shouted at my mom once and told her "How can you be so happy when I'm not?! I f*****g hate you!". That woman has been through so much in life that I could write a whole novel on her, yet she always manages to have a smile on her face and make a joke out of all the crap she deals with at work while I have everything a girl my age could ever ask for but am always unhappy and irritable and I piss myself off knowing that. Its like I don't know how to be happy anymore. I'm an ungrateful emotional mess who doesn't deserve anything she has in life.
Whenever I get anxious I get irritable and lash out without meaning to, especially when it comes to my mother. Whenever we go out together, which is like every weekend, I usually get really irritable as my anxiety build up and my mom, being the cheerful and silly person she is, says really corny or silly things that either cheer me up or irritate me even more. I tend to get more irritated with her than anything else and I'm amazed that we still manage to get along well on normal days when we're at home and I'm not anxious.
I don't know why I get like that and I have no way of controlling it. In the worst case, I shouted at my mom once and told her "How can you be so happy when I'm not?! I f*****g hate you!". That woman has been through so much in life that I could write a whole novel on her, yet she always manages to have a smile on her face and make a joke out of all the crap she deals with at work while I have everything a girl my age could ever ask for but am always unhappy and irritable and I piss myself off knowing that. Its like I don't know how to be happy anymore. I'm an ungrateful emotional mess who doesn't deserve anything she has in life.
hm, I can relate to this too... For me, it's sometimes hormonally related too...
I wonder, has any of you seen that documentary about bipolar.. it's really interesting..
This one: http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/excellent-doc-on-bipolar-and-manic-depression-34651/
Yeah, too cheerful people can be annoying lol, if others aren't, especially if they want everyone else to be cheerful at that time.. (my dad can be like that, moody too, with sometimes rapid moodswings/being touchy about odd things/words, and sometimes I can be too, yikes)
Sometimes/often people don't know how to deal with other people's feelings... even if they mean well...
There are basic communication strategies people can undertake, if they're willing to work on it..
Is your mum on any meds, Malice? Or even different blood pressure/health characteristics can make a difference...
Also, I think there are soo many hormone disruptors in our food, food packaging and other surroundings, it's good that any people are 'sane' lol... I try to eat as natural/organic food and avoid packaging, it's not easy sometimes...
Environment our parents and grandparents lived in was different, some grew up in less polluted areas etc (though maybe some in worse)
I wonder, has any of you seen that documentary about bipolar.. it's really interesting..
This one: http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/excellent-doc-on-bipolar-and-manic-depression-34651/
Yeah, too cheerful people can be annoying lol, if others aren't, especially if they want everyone else to be cheerful at that time.. (my dad can be like that, moody too, with sometimes rapid moodswings/being touchy about odd things/words, and sometimes I can be too, yikes)
Sometimes/often people don't know how to deal with other people's feelings... even if they mean well...
There are basic communication strategies people can undertake, if they're willing to work on it..
Is your mum on any meds, Malice? Or even different blood pressure/health characteristics can make a difference...
Also, I think there are soo many hormone disruptors in our food, food packaging and other surroundings, it's good that any people are 'sane' lol... I try to eat as natural/organic food and avoid packaging, it's not easy sometimes...
Environment our parents and grandparents lived in was different, some grew up in less polluted areas etc (though maybe some in worse)
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Phoenixx
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I tend to be quite moody and irritable too, especially when I'm out when I don't want to be, someone expects me to go somewhere, or when it's that time of the month. Most of my moodiness and irritability, I believe, are not just from the anxiety but from PMS and years of shutting in my emotions and issues. :/ Yeah I know it's really not healthy, but at least this site has helped me a little bit with that.
IGotSeoul
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Back some years ago when I was about 15-18 my temper used have a really short fuse. It would take the smallest thing to make me absolutely furious. I broke doors, totaled walls, shattered windows. Small things too, like food coming out the wrong way. I fought a lot at school. I was a complete mess. I lived with loving parents too. I'm not sure if it was a phase or something I grew out of but I honestly can't remember the last time I've been angry at all. Over a year at least. I feel like a very peaceful person now, it's kind of surreal.
@Malice; it's never too late to reconcile and you certainly do deserve the good things you have.
@twiggle; that is how I am handling it now (thanks to your advice a few weeks ago).
@Malice; it's never too late to reconcile and you certainly do deserve the good things you have.
@twiggle; that is how I am handling it now (thanks to your advice a few weeks ago).
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WeirdyMcGee
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Ah-- not really, but my sister does.
She usually takes time to herself when she's in one of those moods. The people in her life are all used to it and know about her mood changes so it's just something we've all accepted.
If you're really worried about it you could ask your doctor for any advice-- medications you could try; maybe getting more exercise or changing your diet habits could serve in helping to balance out your hormones?
She usually takes time to herself when she's in one of those moods. The people in her life are all used to it and know about her mood changes so it's just something we've all accepted.
If you're really worried about it you could ask your doctor for any advice-- medications you could try; maybe getting more exercise or changing your diet habits could serve in helping to balance out your hormones?