Depression4life
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Missed opportunities!!
Hi this is probably the wrong forum to post this as it's not really SA related but I didnt know where to post it. Anyway it's about have problems in meeting women.
Earlier today I was at the post office when I spotted a pretty brunette she had tanned skin she looked of Italian descent I looked at her than took my eyes off her when she spotted me looking at her lol anyway afterwards I spotted her looking at me & she smiled briefly. I could tell she liked/fancied me due to all the signs i.e she was playing with her hair once she saw me glancing at her & she had her elbow pointed towards me & when she smiled briefly
There was 2 queues I was standing at the 1st one & she was waiting in the other. Anyhow fast forward a few minutes & she eventually left.
So obviously I was disapointed & really frustrated that neither of us made the first move to talk to eachother:kickingmyself: Or to start a conversation!!
It just feels like a wasted oppurtunity cause she obviously showed interest in me due to her making eye contact & I fancied her & I felt she was one of the few girls who was likely to date me/sleep with me lol
It's just in this type of situation what can you say to her?? I'd usually say hello or hi but in this situation I can't just walk up & say hello cause she doesn't know me & she's waiting in queue at the post office & so am I??
People might think I'm gay or not confident cause I didnt talk to her but what could I have said to her?? Its not like we were in a bar (which is made for meeting women) we were in the friggin post office!!
This type of thing has happened several times but I never end up with that specific girl cause either me or her never make the first move to talk to eachother its so frustrating. Like at the supermarket you see a girl you find attractive & she catches you glancing at her & you both exchange eye contact but she's 2 cashiers away form you in another queue so what do you say to her in this situation?? Do you leave you queue & go & introduce yourself to her even if they are people infront & behind of her??
The thing is its not everyday I meet a girl who fancies me like the one in the Post office so when the situations happen & I dont end up with the girl cause neither of us took the first step to talk to eachother it feels like I've wasted so many of those oppurtunities with girls who I felt were the only ones who'd date me or sleep with me. There are the only ones who'd I see as potential girlfriends.
I used online dating but girls never reply they dont seem interested in me & when I go out to speed dating events/single events/nightclubs looking for women or a girlfriend theres never any girl who's interested in me but when I got to random places like the supermarket or the post office without even looking for a girlfriend I always seem to bump into girls who are interested in me & wanna date me/sleep with me. It's funny as they say when you got out looking for a girl you won't find any girl but when you stop looking then you bump into girls who are interested in dating you!!
It's a real problem I was gonna talk to my therapist/counsellor about this cause I need a solution so that next time I bump into a girl who likes me what do I say?? What do I do?? I'm really clueless has any of these situations happened to you?? How I see it is when other boys & girls make eye contact they always end up together cause they had the courage to make the first move to speak to eachother. So is it just me or has anything like the situation at the post office happened to you??
Hi this is probably the wrong forum to post this as it's not really SA related but I didnt know where to post it. Anyway it's about have problems in meeting women.
Earlier today I was at the post office when I spotted a pretty brunette she had tanned skin she looked of Italian descent I looked at her than took my eyes off her when she spotted me looking at her lol anyway afterwards I spotted her looking at me & she smiled briefly. I could tell she liked/fancied me due to all the signs i.e she was playing with her hair once she saw me glancing at her & she had her elbow pointed towards me & when she smiled briefly
There was 2 queues I was standing at the 1st one & she was waiting in the other. Anyhow fast forward a few minutes & she eventually left.
So obviously I was disapointed & really frustrated that neither of us made the first move to talk to eachother:kickingmyself: Or to start a conversation!!
It just feels like a wasted oppurtunity cause she obviously showed interest in me due to her making eye contact & I fancied her & I felt she was one of the few girls who was likely to date me/sleep with me lol
It's just in this type of situation what can you say to her?? I'd usually say hello or hi but in this situation I can't just walk up & say hello cause she doesn't know me & she's waiting in queue at the post office & so am I??
People might think I'm gay or not confident cause I didnt talk to her but what could I have said to her?? Its not like we were in a bar (which is made for meeting women) we were in the friggin post office!!
This type of thing has happened several times but I never end up with that specific girl cause either me or her never make the first move to talk to eachother its so frustrating. Like at the supermarket you see a girl you find attractive & she catches you glancing at her & you both exchange eye contact but she's 2 cashiers away form you in another queue so what do you say to her in this situation?? Do you leave you queue & go & introduce yourself to her even if they are people infront & behind of her??
The thing is its not everyday I meet a girl who fancies me like the one in the Post office so when the situations happen & I dont end up with the girl cause neither of us took the first step to talk to eachother it feels like I've wasted so many of those oppurtunities with girls who I felt were the only ones who'd date me or sleep with me. There are the only ones who'd I see as potential girlfriends.
I used online dating but girls never reply they dont seem interested in me & when I go out to speed dating events/single events/nightclubs looking for women or a girlfriend theres never any girl who's interested in me but when I got to random places like the supermarket or the post office without even looking for a girlfriend I always seem to bump into girls who are interested in me & wanna date me/sleep with me. It's funny as they say when you got out looking for a girl you won't find any girl but when you stop looking then you bump into girls who are interested in dating you!!
It's a real problem I was gonna talk to my therapist/counsellor about this cause I need a solution so that next time I bump into a girl who likes me what do I say?? What do I do?? I'm really clueless has any of these situations happened to you?? How I see it is when other boys & girls make eye contact they always end up together cause they had the courage to make the first move to speak to eachother. So is it just me or has anything like the situation at the post office happened to you??
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