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Making friends when you have no friends
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Nobody actually cares if you have friends. You aren't defined by your friends. While you do need a life you enjoy, there is certainly no need to have friends to not appear like a loser. I don't have "friends", in the truest sense of the word, and I never go out, but that's because I tend to be busy doing things I enjoy much more than I could enjoy any party I have ever heard of. I meet up with certain people regularly to do with them what I do on my own, because it's fun to be together with like-minded people.
And that's actually all you need. No girl worth being with will ever judge you based on your number of friends.
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Well everyone has to start somewhere, besides when you're meeting new people they really shouldn't have a clue how many friends you already have. Now when it comes to potential girlfriends, I'm not really sure how girls feel about that. I guess it would depend heavily on the age of the girl since older people tend to have different values in life compared to young people.
Try meeting people that share your common interests. Examples: if your athletic, toto the park for a run you may bump into someone while you're having a stretch or whatever that's also there for fitness..or have any pets like a dog? Dog parks are a great way for pets and their owners to socialize.. Ever think of checking out a museum or going on a tour alone? There are so many people that do these things solo that you will surely meet someone. I went to NYC by myself last year and ran into another guy on the metro and turned out he was backpacking solo as well and we've been in touch ever since. Social networking sites like facebook and myspace are not good for making new friends but rather keeping in touch with old ones.
ffeev223234
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Yes, people on sites are harsh mistresses
206Raider
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I had a ton of friends, then I moved and lost contact with them all so I was nervous about making a facebook becuase I felt I had no friends anymore and didn't want people thinking I'm a loser but I don't really care what people think, I don't need 1000 friends like I used to have, I just want close friends, and I realized all these people still care about me becuase I got a ton of requests from people I haven't seen in years asking me how I'm doing. I realize you can be happy with yourself either way, just need to not really care and be proud of who you are....I know that's hard becuase I definitly struggle with that myself but it's true. Be proud of yourself and things will fall into place.
Why
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thats the single biggest reason why i dont have a facebook (so pathetic rite?)
im scared to make one and barely have any friends on there.. (well a decent amount of male frends but not many female frends) and im scared that ppl that dont know me that well, will assume im some loser. Its annoying tho when ppl are like U NEED TO MAK FB!!! I just make excuse like im not a e-social guy and dont care but in reality, i want one to meet ppl. :C
im scared to make one and barely have any friends on there.. (well a decent amount of male frends but not many female frends) and im scared that ppl that dont know me that well, will assume im some loser. Its annoying tho when ppl are like U NEED TO MAK FB!!! I just make excuse like im not a e-social guy and dont care but in reality, i want one to meet ppl. :C
206Raider
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^^That's how I was and I had people telling me the same thing...to make a FB! and I said the same thing, I don't do socialnetwork sites becuase I really don't anyway but it's not so bad, I'm just nervous now about it though, a friend I haven't seen in about a year just started chatting with me on there (I hate that messenger thing) and wants to hang out with weekend, now it will be good for me but man I hate hanging out with people I haven't seen in a long time.
Make a facebook and add me, i'll be your friend!
I do aswell. Even though i still have a couple of friends, it still feels like i'm alone. i dont go anywhere, and i would really like to meet a woman. I'm sure i'd get on fine with the right people.
But these days theres not much depth, its just the "always on the go" society it seems.
MrJones
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Same here... I have no friends so I never go to such places, making imposible to make any friends
It seems we have a problem here :
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popolala
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Same here... I have no friends so I never go to such places, making imposible to make any friends
It seems we have a problem here :
me three... I want to do so much but i dont have friends, so i dont want to go alone, but i have done before.. like go cinema by myself.. wheneva u see someone go cinema by themselve, its most likely true.. as people think its because they have no friends...
I went to a nice little alternative club once a few years ago by myself. I was sitting in a sort of lounge area for a bit, trying to fortify myself with a few drinks before I got on the dance floor (I had no real intention of interacting--I only went there because I loved the music).
A girl came into this area and sat down a ways away from me. She was sneezing and sniffling and clearly feeling awful, so I asked if she'd like a couple Benadryl. I had some in my pocket because my allergies had been hitting me badly as well.
I gave them to her, and the bouncer saw me do this and came over to investigate. I showed him the pills with the label and all and he relaxed. Somehow we continued talking and hit it off really well.
He's since moved to another state, but we keep in touch fairly regularly and that was the first new friend I'd made in years previous or since.
dean01
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ive hd this problem with friends for a while now, at first it bothered me not having any friends (by friends i mean people that come round to see me, as i dont get out much) then i relised the obvious that i dont get out much, so why would i have loads of friends? im happy to have one decent friend and that way i can try to be a friend back to them as i think that is my problem. i want loads of friends to like me but i cant be there friend back, to be someones friend it has to be a two way street.
from age (and asking people) ive noticed that most people makes friends at school at first, then through work and as they get older it generally gets hard for alot of people so they tend to take up hobbies, join a gym or take classes at college. i know all these things involve going out but how else can it be possible to meet new people?
from age (and asking people) ive noticed that most people makes friends at school at first, then through work and as they get older it generally gets hard for alot of people so they tend to take up hobbies, join a gym or take classes at college. i know all these things involve going out but how else can it be possible to meet new people?
NewtoThis
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I think I'm afraid of making new friends because then they'll figure out just how odd I am. Right now, everyone's to the point where they recognize me, maybe talk to me, and think they don't know much about me. But if they ever do talk to me more often they'll find out that I don't have a life.
Of course, it took me three years to get out of that situation in high school and this is my third year in college...
Who knows, sometimes when people see you around a lot (even if you're alone) they want to be your friend.
Of course, it took me three years to get out of that situation in high school and this is my third year in college...
Who knows, sometimes when people see you around a lot (even if you're alone) they want to be your friend.