shybutsexy
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could you define loner? mi english is not so good
Why's it depressing?I'm a loner. It's ok, I like being alone sometimes, but sometimes it is very depressing hanging out with my own company on a near daily basis.
could you define loner? mi english is not so good
I dont really agree.. People who are true loners are not unhappy with the way they are. I get enough social interacting by just going to the grocery store or watching people at the park. I deeply enjoy my silence and solitude..i dont feel like an outcast or condemned just because i don't choose to hang out with people often.
I must admit, I do this a lot. I say I'm content with being alone. But really, sometimes I'd actually like to have a circle of friends. Sometimes I'd actually like to be going out to lunch with some people. I'm always telling myself, though, that I shouldn't bum myself out over small things like that, then move on.I believe loners tell themselves that they enjoy it more than they really do. I think it's a defensive mechanism. Anyone can like being by themselves, but when you are talking about a loner, you are talking about someone who is by themselves practically all of the time. I believe loners tell themselves that they enjoy being by themselves, but deep down, you can't control how you feel when you are always alone, your body automatically reacts and feels lonely and depressed. Many loners have adjusted to this feeling to certain extent, and may not even recognize it anymore. I'm not saying they feel like outcasts or losers, I'm saying they feel lonely and depressed at least from time to time, some have manic depression. I'm not sure if we have the same definition of loner, my definition is someone who has no intimate partner, no friends, no job, and doesn't talk to anyone, and almost never goes out or leaves the house. I'm not sure how you avoid depression and loneliness if you fit into this definition, that's a miracle if you do.
No. But true loners aren't alone because they have anxiety.
Why's it depressing?
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I just feel different around them so I choose to be alone but I know this is unhealthy as you say. I so badly wish I can be with people, but I just don't feel "right" around them, but maybe I'm the one with the problem...
This is why our lives are so difficult. We don't feel "right" around people, but at the same time we have a natural need to be around people because we are designed to be social creatures because we are human. So either way we go, we have problems. With people we don't feel "right", without people we get lonely and depressed. We can't win. The only solution is to get rid of anxiety if that's possible.
I really dont think there's such thing as a "true loner". You can be alone for many reasons. Hell, you can have friends, a girlfriend, and a good relationship with coworkers, and still be a loner.