Just saying hi to random girls, worth it?

[Bronson99]

It's all in the topic. Will doing this confer any benefit whatsoever?

The ultimate goal I suppose is to help me break down the barriers I have. I mean, I can't speak to the opposite sex, because I believe I come off as strange, vapid, and idiotic. Then if I can break down that barrier, then maybe I could meet a girl. I don't mean dating, though. (So call me shallow, I just want to "hook up" and that's it. I just want to get it over with, man!)

So I have a place I go to exercise 3-4x a week, I just go there to walk. Occasionally I will see decent-looking girls and I'll look at them, and sometimes but not often, they say "hi." I might say hi back, but it ends there. So the other question is, should I say anything besides "hi"? If so, what?

With everything like this, I *always* look for the risk. My mind finds many, but the most obvious is gaining a reputation for being "that strange guy who talks to girls who don't like him."

If you have any other simple ideas for breaking down the barrier I have, let me know.

 

[Hope2013]

How about "how's your day going"

 

[Odo]

If you're looking for just sex, why not call an escort service?

Most girls out there aren't going to want to hop into bed with you and will probably be creeped out by the suggestion... and the ones who would hop right into bed with you aren't so different from the escorts-- in fact, you're more likely to catch something from them because it's not their job to be prepared.

I also think that there are hookup sites online for this kind of thing. Go to one of those 'cheating partner' sites and pretend to be married... they'll feel safer around you because they think that someone out there actually wanted to marry you, and to be honest, I don't think they really care who you are.

Meeting random people in the park doesn't seem like a ticket to an FWB situation to me, but you never know. The world is full of loneliness and desperation.

 

[jc972]

Saying 'hi' or 'hello' can't hurt anything, all they can do is ignore you.

 

[Bronson99]

If you're looking for just sex, why not call an escort service?

Most girls out there aren't going to want to hop into bed with you and will probably be creeped out by the suggestion... and the ones who would hop right into bed with you aren't so different from the escorts-- in fact, you're more likely to catch something from them because it's not their job to be prepared.

Eh, it's not like I would just meet this random girl at the park and the 2nd time I see her, I'd suggest that. I know it doesn't work like that.

But I'm hoping I might be able to "luck" into a situation. If I don't try, then I have zero chance, y'know?

 

[Kiwong]

They might even say "hi" back and want to have a chat.

 

[Bo592]

Everybody has there own advice and opinion on what you are suppost to do But the truth is there are No rules and only guide lines. Anything possible just got to try more.

 

[Bronson99]

Yeah, I mean, a lot of this comes down to luck.

My friend got lucky. He was in the right place at the right time, and I think that was at least 50% of the reason he finally got the gal.

 

[Slytherin88]

It's all in the topic. Will doing this confer any benefit whatsoever?

The ultimate goal I suppose is to help me break down the barriers I have. I mean, I can't speak to the opposite sex, because I believe I come off as strange, vapid, and idiotic. Then if I can break down that barrier, then maybe I could meet a girl. I don't mean dating, though. (So call me shallow, I just want to "hook up" and that's it. I just want to get it over with, man!)

I always wonder how people have random sex. How does it come up? Like in the movies, where they are getting a coffee, exchange a glance and then 10 mins later they're in a back alley shagging and then walk away like nothing happened. HOW DOES IT HAPPEN! What coffee shop do these people go to???

 

[Bronson99]

I always wonder how people have random sex. How does it come up? Like in the movies, where they are getting a coffee, exchange a glance and then 10 mins later they're in a back alley shagging and then walk away like nothing happened. HOW DOES IT HAPPEN! What coffee shop do these people go to???

let's get this thing back on topic, please

 

[Odo]

I always wonder how people have random sex. How does it come up? Like in the movies, where they are getting a coffee, exchange a glance and then 10 mins later they're in a back alley shagging and then walk away like nothing happened. HOW DOES IT HAPPEN! What coffee shop do these people go to???

I also often wonder if this is a real thing for some people... like if they have a sixth sense or something that sends out magic sex signals and they know that they're not going to get weird on each other and there's nothing to be afraid of. But it's probably just to speed up the plot.

On the other hand, I think that there are situations where this is more likely to happen... like say, hostels where people are sleeping in the same room and know that they're never going to see each other again.

 

[myheartisastone]

It's all in the topic. Will doing this confer any benefit whatsoever?

The ultimate goal I suppose is to help me break down the barriers I have. I mean, I can't speak to the opposite sex, because I believe I come off as strange, vapid, and idiotic. Then if I can break down that barrier, then maybe I could meet a girl. I don't mean dating, though. (So call me shallow, I just want to "hook up" and that's it. I just want to get it over with, man!)

So I have a place I go to exercise 3-4x a week, I just go there to walk. Occasionally I will see decent-looking girls and I'll look at them, and sometimes but not often, they say "hi." I might say hi back, but it ends there. So the other question is, should I say anything besides "hi"? If so, what?

With everything like this, I *always* look for the risk. My mind finds many, but the most obvious is gaining a reputation for being "that strange guy who talks to girls who don't like him."

If you have any other simple ideas for breaking down the barrier I have, let me know.

If you want to say "hi" to random girls,thn say hi.

Don't expect that saying "hi" to someone entails you to a relationship or sex ... unless of course, she's actually interested and down with it too.

 

[SotiCoto]

It is about 50% opportunity (waiting for them to say something you actually have something interesting to impart about) ... and 50% being willing to risk utter failure.

To be honest though I've mostly got by just sitting in the pub with a book and having people occasionally show an interest in what I'm reading. As methods go, that one has been a pretty good one.

 

[Bronson99]

If you want to say "hi" to random girls,thn say hi.

Don't expect that saying "hi" to someone entails you to a relationship or sex ... unless of course, she's actually interested and down with it too.

I was more about, will saying hi to random girls build up my skill or confidence in any way? is it worth it that way?

I don't expect saying hi would entail me to any of those things. but perhaps I could get to know her better, and eventually one of those things would be possible?

you tell me, I have 0% experience, that's right, ZERO.

 

[GhastlyCC]

This thread reminded me of this qoute.

"I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stunned by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, "Hi." They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word.”


― Augusten Burroughs

^This quote seriously changed the way I looked at certain things.

 

[skins]

in my experience just saying hi is not worth it...you will either get ignored or engage in some form of small talk, both of which leads to nothing....the real question is are you willing to take it to the next step after the small talk and ask for the girls number?? I can see that as the only real point to this exercise, and if you aren't brave enough to do that then what's the point really??

 

[Bronson99]

in my experience just saying hi is not worth it...you will either get ignored or engage in some form of small talk, both of which leads to nothing....the real question is are you willing to take it to the next step after the small talk and ask for the girls number?? I can see that as the only real point to this exercise, and if you aren't brave enough to do that then what's the point really??

But I thought it's a general rule, you cannot just ask for a girl's number after meeting her once.

And... what would make you think a girl would actually give me her number anyway? What girl--you tell me--would give their number to someone shy and awkward with low confidence?

*bangs head against wall again, as thoughts turn to self-harm*

 

[skins]

But I thought it's a general rule, you cannot just ask for a girl's number after meeting her once.

And... what would make you think a girl would actually give me her number anyway? What girl--you tell me--would give their number to someone shy and awkward with low confidence?

*bangs head against wall again, as thoughts turn to self-harm*

my point exactly...how else are you gunna meet up with the random girl again if you don't have her number? back to square one.

 

[SotiCoto]

It's all in the topic. Will doing this confer any benefit whatsoever?

Possibly.
But not the ones you probably want.

I'd recommend just going somewhere like that, getting out a book... and reading.

Yeah, really.
Some people really like to talk about books. Sometimes they will actually come over and show interest in what you're reading. IT IS A THING THAT WORKS.
Also sometimes interesting t-shirts.

Basically... if you cover yourself with enough potential conversation-pieces.... you never actually have to go up to someone and talk to them first. EVER.

But I thought it's a general rule, you cannot just ask for a girl's number after meeting her once.

And... what would make you think a girl would actually give me her number anyway? What girl--you tell me--would give their number to someone shy and awkward with low confidence?

*bangs head against wall again, as thoughts turn to self-harm*

Bet it really burns you up to know some girl gave me her telephone number once... but I didn't call because I wasn't really interested... Besides... girls don't like desperate guys (and I'd have needed to be desperate to call that number).

 

[FelipeSantos]

It's all in the topic. Will doing this confer any benefit whatsoever?

The ultimate goal I suppose is to help me break down the barriers I have. I mean, I can't speak to the opposite sex, because I believe I come off as strange, vapid, and idiotic. Then if I can break down that barrier, then maybe I could meet a girl. I don't mean dating, though. (So call me shallow, I just want to "hook up" and that's it. I just want to get it over with, man!)

So I have a place I go to exercise 3-4x a week, I just go there to walk. Occasionally I will see decent-looking girls and I'll look at them, and sometimes but not often, they say "hi." I might say hi back, but it ends there. So the other question is, should I say anything besides "hi"? If so, what?

With everything like this, I *always* look for the risk. My mind finds many, but the most obvious is gaining a reputation for being "that strange guy who talks to girls who don't like him."

If you have any other simple ideas for breaking down the barrier I have, let me know.

Hey man first thing us social fhobics ussualy have some high standarts(the girl must be beautifull)what you have to do is low your standarts then when you fell confident go after that pretty girl that you are atracted to .
The one who gets the uglys wins the hottests. go for it and good luck.
And man theres no such think like "the strange guy who talks to girls who don't like him" there is only one way to have a date, talking to the girls, just be geltil. and try have fun doing it ,when they say no make it a funny thing to remember and laugh about it, there will be always the next time.