I cant seem to ever form a healthy relationship.
I am currently dating a girl I met on a dating website and we haven't been going out that long (2 months) but I am already getting really attached to her as she is such a lovely person. I think about her all the time. She seems keen enough to still keep meeting up but I am getting paranoid that she is going to go off me and I worry for the future. I got jealous the other day of a guy she was talking about and I started imagining she had feelings for him without any justification. I guess Its just my paranoia kicking in. Atm she is keen to meet up but she hasn't been texting as much lately and this is getting me down and paranoid. I hoped it wasn't going to go this way with this one but all my relationships eventually lead to these feelings. It worries me when it gets to this stage where I end up lying a lot, or playing mind games or constantly checking facebook etc to see what they are upto. Its not healthy and I am well aware of that fact and I hate myself for doing these things. My insecurities are basically ruining everything, I know deep down most of it is probably in my head but It takes so much effort to accept and realise that.
Do you think people with social anxiety problems or like me have suffered badly in the past are more susceptible to these kind of feelings?
I want to date but I don't know if its worth the stress and heart ache sometimes. I wish I could just feel normal in a relationship and not so inadequate.
Does anyone relate to this or have any advice to combat these negative feelings?
I am currently dating a girl I met on a dating website and we haven't been going out that long (2 months) but I am already getting really attached to her as she is such a lovely person. I think about her all the time. She seems keen enough to still keep meeting up but I am getting paranoid that she is going to go off me and I worry for the future. I got jealous the other day of a guy she was talking about and I started imagining she had feelings for him without any justification. I guess Its just my paranoia kicking in. Atm she is keen to meet up but she hasn't been texting as much lately and this is getting me down and paranoid. I hoped it wasn't going to go this way with this one but all my relationships eventually lead to these feelings. It worries me when it gets to this stage where I end up lying a lot, or playing mind games or constantly checking facebook etc to see what they are upto. Its not healthy and I am well aware of that fact and I hate myself for doing these things. My insecurities are basically ruining everything, I know deep down most of it is probably in my head but It takes so much effort to accept and realise that.
Do you think people with social anxiety problems or like me have suffered badly in the past are more susceptible to these kind of feelings?
I want to date but I don't know if its worth the stress and heart ache sometimes. I wish I could just feel normal in a relationship and not so inadequate.
Does anyone relate to this or have any advice to combat these negative feelings?